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writes:I like my city bus driver...and I want to ask him out, but I think he may think im a kid...im 30, but people tend to think im 16-17..i HATE it.i get hit on a lot but I am very skeptical of men...I watch the news and read the paper way too much....anyway well the bus driver who I think is in his 30's (he looks to good to be single, but he could be) anyway he always picks on me, he teases me when im running down the street, cuz he likes to come early on purpose, he stares at me just smiling...so one day I was like you are 7 mins late, he goes yeah, traffic, I said uh-huh, he laughed then as I was getting off the bus I said I forgive you, he cracked up laughing and smiled at me...he is very nice looking, good sense of humor...so should I go for it, or do nothing...ive asked men out in the past, and that didn't go well at all, and I don't wanna get my feelings hurt... one guy ignored me and the other guy lied about being single--- cuz he wanted to screw me and till this day still does, and I found out with research that he has a 13yr old child and a fiancée of 14 years..., and the other guy I went on a date with and he turned out to be an azz.so what should I do, thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (29 May 2017):
 Ask him if he is single. Make it sound like a joke if you are nervous. Then if he is ask him out, if he turns you down its not the end off the world at least then you would know where you stand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2017): While you may hate it that you are taken as younger by people who judge age by height, it is in fact a wonderful thing.You will look fantastic years after others are looking crumpy and you will have a versatility years after others have given up.You have every right to want as much as you want out of life.This bus driver you are interested in may just be being friendly but if you keep flirting a little and tease him by saying "I'm only 16 !" you will keep him onside as well as have a chance to reveal your true age at the same time.Hypothetically I would add that those kind of passing daytime attractions dont usually go anywhere but that is no reason to detract from your day.Just keep dropping small leading hints until you feel youre both on the same page.Bus drivers have terrible shifts on a rotating basis which would leave him a loophole of 'working late' if he had a gf and still wanted to slot you in so, be warned about making yourself too available , plus mosty guys like to feel that they did the asking!So try to push it round to that while you take that route!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2017): thanks everyone
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reader, Phil052  +, writes (28 May 2017):
 Tickets please! Well, why not? You have nothing to lose and sometimes love strikes in mysterious ways! Good luck!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (27 May 2017):
 If it were me, and I were single and had the rapport you described with this bus driver, I'd ask him straight up if he were single. If he said he was, I'd ask him out for coffee or to grab a drink, depending on his schedule.
The other questions can come later if he answers in the affirmative that he's single. I know you had someone who lied to you about that, and I really hate that, but finding out his full name can lead to an easy check-out of his digital footprint, which usually uncovers the truth of his status. You're from the US, so in nearly every state, looking up a marriage license is a public search!
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2017): You might want to check his ring-finger just to make sure he's not married. He seems very playful; but I don't think he believes you're just a child.
I'm sure you dress like an adult and act your age. I assume you must be very petite and have a youthful face; but it's hard to mistake someone in their 30's for a teenager. He probably only sees you as a friendly passenger on his regular route, and likes to tease you. You don't mention any behavior that could really be taken for flirting. If he senses you're looking at him; he can look up in the mirror and see that you know? Naturally he'll smile back!
You have to determine if he's seeing anyone or married before asking him out. You might save yourself some disappointment.
Start a conversation with him with a question. How old do you think I am? That will break the ice, and maybe he'll have a more serious conversation.
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