Told my boyfriend I got a new job at a hotel. He was concerned men would look up my skirt.
Q. I told my boyfriend I just got a new job! It will help me pay my bills and I really needed a job right now. It's in housekeeping at an upscale hotel. The first question he asked is what will I be wearing? He was concerned it would be a skimp...
A. 29 June 2017: It sounds like the beginning off controlling behavior, if he acts like this normally then you should get out off that relationship as quick as you can.... (read in full...)
I'm dating a nice lady but all I can think about is my ex who ghosted me
Q. I am seeing someone new who treats me wonderful, the way I've always wanted to be treated, but all I think about is my ex, who I treated great, she ghost me, what I think about is why couldn't my ex treated me this way, it could of been so ...
A. 29 June 2017: You need to try and let go off your past or else it is going to prevent you from moving on in the future. Are you sure you are ready to be with someone else?... (read in full...)
My parents are so strict and I can't talk to them
Q. My parents are really strict and I do not know what to do. I am almost 19 but my parents will not let me date or even be friends with any male. They go through my phone and I have to leave my phone in their room at night. I do however have a ...
A. 29 June 2017: Why is moving out not an option? You are an adult so start acting like one! Move out, get a job, live your life with friends and your boy friend, what is stopping you other than excuses??... (read in full...)
Do I ask him about marriage? children? He says he doesn't ever want to marry again
Q. Is it wrong to ask my boyfriend to think about having children and getting married? We both have a daughter each, and he has been divorced for the last 3 years officially. He is 10 years older then me, and we met while he was in the process of g...
A. 29 June 2017: He seems to have made it clear that he won't marry again, and you need to respect that. If you want marriage then the best thing to do is end this relationship because it will only drag you both apart. If you can live with the idea off not being ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend still hasn't told everyone that he is gay or about me. How should I proceed?
Q. Hi there, I'm an out gay man and have known my boyfriend for 8 months and been with him 6 - he was in the closet when we got together and is still partly so. He recently came out to his parents and has said during every conversation on the topic ...
A. 29 June 2017: I know for some men it is really hard to come out and face who they really are. If you really want to be with him then be patient and work with him, if you are unsure then it might be best to let him go.... (read in full...)
We don't want kids or pregnancy but husband is against abortion. Help!
Q. My husband and I never wanted children. I dislike children and the thought of being pregnant. He is fine with them but prefers not to have any of his own. We have always used condoms. I have never used any other kind of birth control. I do no...
A. 29 June 2017: It sounds to me like your husband is not 100% sure he never wants to have children. He loves you and wants to be with you but a small part off him seems to still want a family. It is your body and your choice, but please get surgery before you think ... (read in full...)
Am I selfish or is he trying to guilt trip me?
Q. I feel my boyfriend has the most unrealistic expectations of me and it's really pushing me away. Hr told me this evening on the phone that his back went out of place so he had to take the day off work to rest as well as see a physio. He also ...
A. 29 June 2017: Well does he ever drive and collect and drop you off? If not and it is always one sided then yes that would not be fair. But if it was me and I had pulled my back I would like to think my partner would step up and offer to come and see me. ( I know ... (read in full...)
Does her telling me to move on really mean its over?
Q. Hello i was in a relationship with a woman for 17 months , she ended it because we argued, quite a bit , as she wanted to settle down,and i did , but not yet , she said at begining of april ,can,t say goodbye , so i,ll say goodnight, that was the ...
A. 29 June 2017: No you need to open your eyes and realize that she has moved on. I am sorry that you are heart broken but when you had her you wanted to wait until you both became serious, you wanted different things so she went to protect herself. Wise woman. Let ... (read in full...)
Is my son over-reacting?
Q. My son is 20 and my older son 27. They started college around the same time. My oldest is going to a for-profit school for culinary arts; meanwhile my youngest is attending a community college on a full pell grant.. my oldest needs the car to attend ...
A. 29 June 2017: No it sounds like you are putting the older brother first and he is picking up on it. You need to start treating them equally. Your poor son is finding the pressure to much ( a lot of young people don't open up then end up going down a dark root off ... (read in full...)
Should I end my it with my cybersex buddy ?
Q. Hello Dear cupid , I have a issue..... I have a pen pal in another country he is in the U.K. And I'm in the USA we met on Instagram it started out friendly but gradually got flirty and sexual we are both really attracted to each other and have ...
A. 29 June 2017: He doesn't want you as a friend sweetie he wants someone who will have cyber sex with him. He stopped contacting you as much when you told him you had a date, because he is sulking, he feels he cannot have you but online and that nobody else should ... (read in full...)
Is my boyfriends best friend trying to break us up? Should the relationship be put after his best friend?
Q. So this is a bit of a long story so I do apologise in advance. Back in December my boyfriend broke up with his ex girlfriend, then on a drunken evening on New Year's Eve he slept with his best friend, that was all it was to him. We are all part of a ...
A. 28 June 2017: Your not high maintenance and he should put you first. She is a tease and doesn't like him showing you attention around her. Honestly him giving her a peck on the lips is bang out off order. That is still cheating in my books and he needs to know ... (read in full...)
Is this guy interested or not?!
Q. I met this guy about a year ago now-we met online and met up, we got on well and had a laugh, he didn't push for sex or anything like that, he was really respectful, I had a boyfriend at the time but the relationship was on its way out due to him ...
A. 28 June 2017: Well nobody knows but him the real reason he doesn't appear to be interested, if I had to guess he probably never saw you as girlfriend material, I mean who would if you where out kissing him when you where with a boyfriend, he probably felt you ... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my husband so I might be able to be with his friend?
Q. Hello! I'm 25 and I've been married for 3 years, and I have been relatively happy until now, when I suddenly realized (or suddeny admitted to myself) that I am not in love with my husband any more, and I don't think I have been for almost our whole ...
A. 28 June 2017: Yes divorce your husband. You use all these excuses about social anxiety and feeling nobody else would have you so you where forced to get married. But nope nobody actually forced you. Not once do you say how hard this would be on your husband. I ... (read in full...)
I even left my daughter at home for 4 days for the sake of my affair and now he's disappeared. I feel so lonely!
Q. I met this guy in Vegas over two months ago. He approached me and my friends at a club. I told him from the beginning I was married and he respected that . The night went on and everyone was having a great time. He would dance next to me because he ...
A. 27 June 2017: He used you for sex and all I can hear is that you are feeling sorry for yourself. You have not thought once about how you having an affair could ruin your husband and daughter. It sounds to me like you only think about yourself. Stop blaming your ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to find someone else other than my husband very attractive?
Q. Hello there! I would love some advice on this. I have been married for two years to a wonderful guy. But we have been having family issues for quite some time now, fighting and arguing and me crying. I got transferred to a new place a month ba...
A. 27 June 2017: Sweetie it is okay to be attracted to other men, you do still have eyes. Its the fact if you are going to act on it or not that is the worrying bit. You mention that you and your husband fight argue and you cry, maybe you should look at your ... (read in full...)
I'm being bullied. How do I stand up to these girls?
Q. I had an argument with this girl, let's call her Nelly. It was about 2 months ago now. When we were arguing I told her to "peice out" in other words go away. Now every time I walk past her in school, her and her friend always shout at me "peice out ...
A. 27 June 2017: If they know they are annoying you they will keep going. You need to show them that it doesn't bother you. Simply smile every time they do it or walk away they will soon get bored. No need for fighting off any sort.... (read in full...)
Can anyone suggest how I to make this better?
Q. I have big control issues - I like to micro manage everything and I also have trust issues. I have been going to therapy - and my husband said recently that he thinks I've gotten better. I had also given up alcohol. Then on Saturday night -...
A. 27 June 2017: You need to change for yourself not your husband. Although he is a great focus to start to accept that you have an alcohol problem and need help with control and trust issues. It is nothing to be ashamed about. If therapy is not working to great ... (read in full...)
I have feelings for my friend who has a gf. I walked away.. did I do the right thing? Will he change?
Q. Hi there! Thanks for taking the time to read my question : ) I am a recently single woman, just started dating again. It's been fun going on dates, but no matter how great the guy is I keep thinking about my friend. At first we just studied ...
A. 27 June 2017: Yes you did do the right thing. Once a friendship crosses over to romantic feelings it is over. I am not sure how he feels about you or will he act on your feelings and contact you, but you have done the right thing. I do find it strange that you ... (read in full...)
Is there something going on between my husband and his co-worker?
Q. Why is my husband gets annoyed when i ask him a question about the woman that he always with most of everyday at work? Is he having an enotional affair with this woman? It does not mean that i am doubting him. I tried to not be negative about i...
A. 27 June 2017: The issue here is that you don't trust your husband, I can see its with good cause as he has cheated in the past, but why stay with him if he disrespected you by cheating multiple times? Why not leave him, I am a firm believer that when trust has ... (read in full...)
I can't have sex too often because its so painful but my partner feels unattractive because of this
Q. I am 28 and have been with my partner for nearly nine years now. I get cystitis almost every time we have sex. I have had extensive tests to find out why without conclusion. It has been happening for six years. We have also tried everything to ...
A. 23 June 2017: I understand how painful cystitis is, I suffer to from it. Wise owl I am sorry but I have to disagree with you this time, you are way off here. Cystitis can be common if you are prone to it. The only thing I can recommend is to make sure you are ... (read in full...)
Why did he give up his trip with the boys?
Q. My boyfriend turned down a golf trip with the guys next weekend. It's out of town and they go every year. He said it's because he knows I worry and he doesn't want to upset me. In the past I have given him grief. Many of the guys go to strip club...
A. 23 June 2017: He cancelled his trip because you always give him grief, he probably forgot you where at a wedding, but let me guess you think he is up to no good at home while you are off at the wedding? Honestly you sound like you do not trust this man. Why be ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to buy a cheap car instead of one I can actually afford
Q. So I'm in a conundrum. My bf and I have been dating on/off for 5 years. We were friends for years first before dating. Currently, we disagree on a car, to understand the struggle, a lil history is needed. In the very beginning of our relationship...
A. 23 June 2017: This is your decision at the end off the day. I get that he can have an opinion, but you have helped him with his car, and if you can afford it you buy what you want. It sounds like his nose is put out off joint because you are able to afford it and ... (read in full...)
How do I put him at ease?
Q. Myself and a guy I work with have been dancing around each other for a while now, we've been out a couple of times and he's kissed me with a bit of Dutch courage on board! Thing is he's really shy and un-confident and he fully admits to that whe...
A. 23 June 2017: Stop dancing around him, tell him how you feel and take the lead. If that is your natural role and he is shy then it will work out, if it doesn't and you scare him then you are not what he is looking for. Never be afraid to be yourself. Take the ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend dumped me because she thinks I watch porn
Q. Long story short my girlfriend of almost 3 years broke up with me cause she thinks I'm lying to her about not watching porn. It's rediculous if you saw how beautiful she was you'd understand. We've been exploring our sexuality together and I went o...
A. 23 June 2017: If she has ended things over this one thing then it sounds like she simply does not want to be with you. If your word was not enough then she does not trust you. What are you able to do? Do you want to be with someone who does not trust you, or who ... (read in full...)
Is my ex meant to be back in my life?
Q. How do you know if someone is being brought back into your life for a reason? My ex and I broke up almost 2 years ago and we had stopped talking for 4 months after we broke up, then out of the blue one day he texted me. And we've been talking eve...
A. 23 June 2017: He is wanting to keep you on the side, hoping maybe one day if his MARRIAGE fails he has someone else to come crawling back to. Please have more respect for yourself and stop talking to him. You know YOU are causing problems in his relationship yet ... (read in full...)
I'm tempted to punish him by cheating on him
Q. Hey all!! I'm in need of some good solid advice and know this website would be my best bet for non sugar coated advice. I know I'm not the only person going thru this type of stuff, so please help me thru it. I've been dating the same guy for...
A. 23 June 2017: You think the best idea is to cheat on him just once? Honestly? Wow I have never heard such silliness. Cheating on him is not going to make you feel better, it is not going to make things better at all, it WILL make things worse.
Honestly you say ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for husbands and boyfriend to follow lingerie models on social media?
Q. Is it normal for guys to follow all these girls on instagram and like their half naked pictures on instagram every time they post them? I'm a grown woman and single but I can tell u when I'm in a relationship I don't have eyes for other men and in ...
A. 23 June 2017: Everyone's definition off 'normal' is different, and everyone looks for different things in relationships. Personally my partner does not do these kind off things. Am not sure how I would feel if he did. It really depends on the relationship and the ... (read in full...)
What could be going on with my new coworker-friend?
Q. There is a new coworker at my job that came to work for a few months. He seems fun. He acts gay, but seems bi. Nit sure how to put it. I am a girl. We kind of been getting along well from the moment we met. Talk and joke a lot at work. But I have ...
A. 23 June 2017: I agree with the other aunts, also if he has to be someone who he is not when he is talking to you, then that is never a good sign.... (read in full...)
Girl friends 'very low sex drive' and says she never feels horny
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 1 and a half years now give or take and we had allot of sex in the beginning now in te last 6 months it has slowly been declining it's down to about once or twice a month now. I know she is not cheating on me ...
A. 23 June 2017: Okay in short this relationship doesn't seem to be working. Passion and sex in a relationship is important. Do you both still have romance? Do you have date nights? You need to look at it from all angles, do you treat her well? Surprise her? Romance ... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's head when he sees his wife having sex with another man?
Q. To make it short my husband and I are into guys joining us for sex . But husband has always joined for sex until recently when at a party when a black guy paid attention to me more than normal. So at husbands request I invited him home for a ...
A. 23 June 2017: My partner would never want to see me having sex with another man, in his opinion I am his partner and not to be shared, so am afraid I cannot help you on this one, for me personally I would never get over seeing my partner with another woman. I ... (read in full...)
Married to an abusive man, 5 kids and I think I'm falling in love with another man
Q. Ok so I'm married going on 4 years this month. We've been together for 5+ years. I was abused in a previous marriage emotionally and now am putting up with physical and emotional abuse from my current husband... he's a disabled vet and things ...
A. 23 June 2017: Abuse is not okay, cheating is not okay. If you think your marriage cannot be worked on then you end things, get a divorce and concentrate on making sure you and your children are safe. I would suggest staying single for a while until you and your ... (read in full...)
I broke things off with him because he isn't at the same place I am. I'm so heartbroken!
Q. I started dating a guy about eight/nine months ago after meeting online. The first date was fine but I wasn't particularly smitten - he asked if we could go on a second date. I was hesitant at first - I wasn't really looking to get into anything ...
A. 23 June 2017: As much as you are not allowing yourself to accept it is over, the moment you do then you can begin the healing process. It is still early days so you need to give yourself time. Off course it is going to be hard, with panic attacks added in to the ... (read in full...)
Is my husband up to no good behind my back with another woman on Facebook?
Q. Hello. I might sound like another jealous, insecure and paranoid wife with social media related relationship issues but here goes... I am a late bloomer on Facebook. I just started about 6 months ago. My husband of 3 years has had Facebook for 7 y...
A. 23 June 2017: How on earth do you ever know that your spouse is not whoring around on Facebook?
You trust them, has he ever cheated on you? Ever gave you a reason to doubt him? Honestly it amazes me that so many people get married who do not trust their ot... (read in full...)
Creepy old men are attracted to me.
Q. My question is why am I so appealing to creepy older men? I am 17 and will be 18 next month. People often think I'm older than I actually am, based on the way I think, dress and just from my face and body. Most are shocked when I tell them I'm only ...
A. 23 June 2017: My guess is that most young women your age get hit on by older men, its an ego booster for them, we have all been there! It is not your fault at all, just ignore them. You look older than 17 so that is probably why they hit on you. Also as men get ... (read in full...)
I like him but didn't want to date a guy who has kids
Q. Hey guys, just in need of a little advice! I recently started dating a guy I somewhat work with. I work at a car dealership and I'm in new cars and he is in used.. I say kind of because I'll probably run into him once a week durin our Friday meeti...
A. 23 June 2017: End things, if the sight off his pregnant ex makes you jealous then this will never work for you. You need to remember that he should always put his child first. It is not a competition, and you cannot help feel how you do, so the best thing for you ... (read in full...)
14 months into the relationship, things aren't looking good, he is criticizing and we are arguing. What would you do?
Q. Help!!! I am sorry if this is a long post but I need some advice. where to start? ok, so about 14 months ago I met the man of my dreams. He is loving, caring and we have so much in common (or so I thought) we started off slow and then got into a ...
A. 23 June 2017: What would I do? I would leave him. How dare he speak to you like that. If you want to get a dog in your own house then that is up to you. My partner would never dream off telling me what to do. If you where over weight then maybe him being ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wanted to use an old tube of lubricant during sex but I got upset because he's used it with previous partners. Am I being silly?
Q. Hi Everyone, So I have a bit of an awkward question, but genuinely don't know if I'm overreacting and too embarrassed too ask friends/family. So my boyfriend of 1 year has had a tube of lubricant in his drawer for a while, I noticed it a whil...
A. 23 June 2017: You cannot help how you feel, so don't allow anyone to tell you that you are being over dramatic. We are all different and if this makes you uncomfortable then you have the right to feel that way. The best thing to do here, is to buy a new bottle ... (read in full...)
I don't want my g/f to go to the same college as me. It will ruin me making new friends and having my independence
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 3 years of my life. This september I hope to go to university to study law. My girlfriend wasn't planning to go to university until 2 days ago when she moaned at me for not wanting to be with her through university ...
A. 23 June 2017: End the relationship. If you love someone you would want to be with them. I can see at your age why you want your own independence but the only way for you to get that is to be SINGLE going to university. Time to talk to her and tell her what it is ... (read in full...)
Both my partner and I cheated on each other. Back together now and I'm pregnant but he keeps using my cheating past as a way to justify all his wrong-doings
Q. I have been with my boyfriend now for 8 months Within the first month of our relationship I found out his ex was still in the picture messaging eachother and she told me they had had sex. When I found this out I thought I was going to leave h...
A. 23 June 2017: Two wrongs do not make a right. If he keeps bringing up the past then he is always going to use that to get away with cheating and talking to other girls. You need to talk to him, tell him you both done wrong and if he keeps bringing it up then the ... (read in full...)
How do I tell my girlfriend that I'd like her to be my first sex partner?
Q. I have been dating my girlfriend for 5 months now. I’m defiantly into her. We do a lot of fun things together. I have not had sex yet. She has told me that she has. I would like her to be my first sex partner. I think she is smart, cute, beautiful, ...
A. 23 June 2017: I wouldn't ask her directly. If you have been in a relationship for five months have you done anything sexual? Kiss? Flirt? Touch? Just take it to the next level and see if she responds.... (read in full...)
I don't want a strained relationship with my cousins
Q. So, I want to say this to get it off my chest. I used to be close to my cousins on my mom's side. I would hang out with them a lot at family reunions when I had the chance to. Laugh and enjoy the moment. Now, they don't talk to me. They igno...
A. 23 June 2017: You cannot blame it all on them if you don't appear to be friendly or make an effort. Yes you may be going through a tough time at the moment, but a lot off girls your age are, teenage years can be hard! Take baby steps. Start making an effort to ... (read in full...)
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