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writes:Ook, this may sound stupid ... Well i worry about my friend all the time , because well her mom has heart problems, and is on the urge of dying and so is her grandma, because in there family heart attacks are in there .. and well my friend doesn't seem to care, she doesn't eat breakfast in the morning , and she tells me everything .. and i try too help but she just doesn't seem to listen, like today she threw up at school, all over the bathrooms because she just can't take all the sugar anymore, like all she eats is sugar , she never eats healthy,its soo rare that i see her eat health , I always try too help , and if i give her a lesson on something she calls me a no it all and gets mad at me, it's like im supposed too just nod every time she tells me , and when we have sleepovers at my house, she either brings money or junk food, cause she knows my house is healthy food .. like we doo have the odd sugary foods .. im not saying my house is top healthy place .. and i just want her to stop, cause i don't want too end up seeing her obese , cause that also runs in her family, and i don't want too see her having heart failures before shes 20 , and alsoo when i give her lessons she doesn't believe me , cause she thinks she thinks shes ook .. and that nothings going too happen too her, this also runs in my family too, that's why i rarely eat junk .. and at her house and stuffs for breakfast they eat sugar .. all they drink is coke er like orange juice that's all sugar like koolaid types .. like like 100% orange juice its fake orange juice .. and fer snacks they eat burritos .. like the fattening ones. . and i want her too stop eating like this because i don't want too be with her in the hospital while she is having a heart attack, like she is my best friend .. and i feel that it's my fault that she is like this .. because im supposed too be her support , and i don't really doo anything because im scared to speak up to her, and she doesn't listen too what i have to say .. soo does anyone know what i can do to help her? because if this actually does happen , i don't want it too feel like it is my fault.
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 First of all, if someone over eats it is there fault alone, no one controls what food they put in there mouths, so please stop thinking that everything to do with your friends health is your fault. Even though you may be trying to help your friend she may well see it as though you are trying to control her. It is her decision to eat the junk food she is eating and if she wants to do that then let her, you have already tryed to help and she has clearly said that she doesn't want your help so i think you should just leave it there. You can't change peoples lifes for them and at the end of the day it is her life and she will eat what she wants to no matter what you say to her. Sometimes it is best to let people find out the hard way, maybe in a few years if she puts on abit of wieght she might realize that yeah maybe she hasn't been eating the right foods, and then she will come to you for help. Just let her know that if she does ever want help eating healthy or giving up junk food you will be there for her. Aslong as she knows that then it doesn't matter. Stop worrying about the future of what might happen to your friends health or if she will become obese or get heart problems, your only young and you two have your whole lifes ahead just enjoy the present. You are a good friend, so don't feel like your not but as i said you cannot control what she eats it is her decision alone, and you will just have to accept that, if she wants help then let her come to you herself. I'm sure she is really stressed aswell if her mum and grandma aren't well so try and be there for her whenever she wants a shoulder to lean on. Good luck.
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reader, ashley2011  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Advice her to go to the doctor. That's the big help that you can do to help her.
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