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writes:Help help help Please. I got married and was to travel for honeymoon with my husband the next day. as we were to pursue our masters degree in england. On The day, we went to the aiport but We couldnt go. We had to return home because we found out when checking into the plane that my visa had been torn out of my passport. An action of wickedness by someone I never know. I was in pain as my husband left me back and traveled alone after three weeks. I went back to my parents. Not ommitting that was the reason I got late in resumption and missed my offer for Msc. tooI missed my education and longed for my husbands return for a year and a half. He just came once to visit for 3 weeks and returned.After his return, 4 months later, I had a baby gal who is now 4 months old. As faith has it, I found out it was my sister who tore it off in jealously because of reasons unknown and I cant understand why she will be so heartless to me; her sister.I found her diary in the bin and just went through it and there, I saw it.I showed the evidence to my other sister and we have been in shock for 2 days now. I dont know what to do. Do I expose her to everyone, to my family or I should let go (which is hard to). I dont like her at all now. She took me through pain under her nose and pretended to grieve with me. Do I tell her I know now.? I dont know how to live with her. Help me out please.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2011): Thanx agony aunts. Now u have confused me the more by suggesting 2 opposite ways. I am still crying over this.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 You confronted your sister with the evidence. You told her your anger and heartbreak.
What do you hope to happen by exposing her misdeed to the family? Do you think that would make you feel better for your loss?
What good would come out of exposing her? Yes, you were right to be this upset, but causing more hurt may make your living arrangements harder.
In all fairness, while you missed out on your education, you had a baby girl! There is a saying that Life Happens when you make other plans. This may not be the life you planned on, but do not let your sister steal the happiness you have NOW. Perhaps someday, you will be able to continue your education and fulfill that dream.
For now, I hope you can learn to forgive your sister for her selfish act.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I think you should. First, you just can't get away with stuff like that, this is not just a prank,this is serious, I don't know about your country but in most countries you could press charges and send her to jail !
Second, sibling rivalry does not seem to explain such an extreme action, maybe your sister needs help, p0sychological and psychiatric help.
Whether she's just mean, or mentally disturbed, you should go to the bottom of the matter , you can't ignore the issue for the sake of peace in the family, as if she just had borrowed your favourite dress and stained it !
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Well personally, if that was my sister i would confront her! that is a wicked and horrible thing to do, maybe you should speak to her alone before you tell any other family members but i wouldn't let this slip. Also as for your education is there any way that you could persue your education still? do you reckon you could go to university of anything like that?
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