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writes:My mates younger brother asked me a question the other day that i couldn't answer properly so I thought I would ask the dearcupid community.In a rough round about way he is 15 and he fancies a kid a 2 years younger but he was getting stick from his mates about the age difference... He asked me why going out with someone younger, especially guys, was so weird in high school and I couldn't find a way to explain it. Tbh I see nothing wrong with it.What do you think on age gaps in school or in general, I would love to see what others think :D Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (5 October 2011):
 2 years when older is not a big deal. and in some cases even now 13 and 15 can work out but there are huge differences between 13 and 15 on many levels.
even 15 and 17 is a better fit.
the older we get the less the age matters...
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reader, Thelaird1 +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I suppose it depends on the person I suppose.
I was in a relationship with a girl until I was 15. When we started dating, I was 13, she was 11. There was never any thought of sex and our kisses were never more than a small peck on the lips. Even that was a pleasant surprise, as before that, it was cheek only and just cuddles.
We 'loved' each other dearly back then, if you can call it that and I suppose we were each others first love.
We split after 2 years as I moved away, but we stayed friends.
As for your question, age doesn't matter at that age, within reason. The people involved play a huge part as does maturity level.
I say have fun and enjoy, just as long as there is decency and mutual respect.
Age is only a problem if you allow it to be
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Yeah I know it was a few generations ago BUT it still seems to be true, If you calculate the difference in years and multiply it by the calader year age of the boy that will equal the "real" age differential because as you may suspect the female develops a heck of a lot faster than the male. I mean look at me i still think I'm 18 or 19 but in fact I'm grey and way too old to even date a girl that age. Tell your friend to get a life and date someone his own age or just wait until he can figure these things out for himself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): Two years may not seem like that much, but really during the developmental years of childhood it means a lot. For example, there is a huge difference between a six year old and a four year old, a big difference between an 8 year old and a ten year old, etc. This gap closes as children age, until they reach adulthood where two years no longer matters at all, really.
For kids that are 15 and 13 there is a developmental difference. 13 year olds are really just starting to become teens. Many kids that age may not have hit puberty yet. There is a difference in their social development as well. 15 year olds are really starting to get into that pre-adult stage, their bodies are becoming a lot more "adult" and their attitudes are also growing more mature.
I would say it is best for them to be friends and not persue anything more until the younger one is a little older. As a mom, I wouldn't feel comfortable with my 13 year old dating a 15 year old. I don't think gender has anything to do with that. I have sons only, and I know I would not be pleased to learn their girlfriends are 15. But I would be equally unhappy if at 15 my son was going after a 13 year old girl. 13 is an okay age for kids to start learning "flirting" with their age group. But all out dating, I think that's too soon.
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