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How can I control my lust?

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Question - (4 October 2011) 4 Answers - (Newest, 7 October 2011)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

Dear Aunts and Uncles,

I think my lust level is way too high compared to normal women. I swore to myself I won't sleep with anyone til I'm married, but I think about sex 24/7. I know this sounds like a paradox, but I really don't want to have sex before I'm married, yet I'm extremely horny allllll the time.

I am on a medication that is supposed to decrease my sex drive but now that it doesn't seem to help, I started taking birth control pills. I know this is a really bad idea and that is why I'm asking this question to you guys. How can I control my lust? Please do not tell me to find someone to have sex with because that is something I would never want to do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2011):

Thanks for the answer, chigirl! By the way, the first answerer sounds as if I am a man acting out of control. That was not the point of the question!

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A female reader, chigirl Norway +, writes (4 October 2011):

chigirl agony auntWhy is it a bad idea to take birth control pills? Plenty of women take them every day. You increase the risk of some things, and then again there are benefits that come with them. It's all a matter of judging risk and benefits and see what is the better option for you. If birth control pills help you then I do not see a reason why you shouldn't continue to take them.

If you have spoken to your doctor about this, and are on medication for high sex drive, then maybe you need to speak to your doctor again as this continues to be a problem for you.

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A male reader, GhostChild Australia +, writes (4 October 2011):

GhostChild agony auntSelf-control and keeping busy.

Idle hands are the devil's playground, if you keep yourself busy then your mind won't be on sex all the time. Take up a hobby or a class, go out with friends more.

Thinking about sex is only natural, especially for us young people.

But if you keep yourself busy then you won't be so focused on it.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011):

Self-control, either you exercise it or you don't. There is no magic secret for this.

Some people can handle risky situations, some cant. Some people can handle alcohol, some can't. Etc. Don't put yourself into situations you can't handle. You have to stop the progression several steps BEFORE you get that close to the edge of your limits.

If it makes you feel any better, every guy you know has felt like this ever since he hit puberty. They don't all become rapists. Guys just have to exhibit self control.

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