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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:I am breaking up my 4 yrs long distance relationship who's still married but he say he's separated but i never heard from him filing for divorce or steps that will make us closer to diff stage of our relationship. I loved him so much and I always will.. but I have my dreams and wants too and I don't wanna keep waiting for him any longer not sure what am i really waiting for and how it'll happen. I know I gotta move along with my life esp I am single mum.. how can I move on without trying to get back to him as it happens many times before? this time I really wanna stop. I did everything before.. change no. delete him from my social networks, but I still end up missing him and can't help it.even the idea of going out with friends or start dating with somebody else I can' think or interest me. how to move on and never look back???... PLS HELP :'(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Well you have only just came out of this relationship so it is way to soon to be thinking about dating someone else. You need to give yourself some time to heal. But by doing this you need to have a healthy social life as well. You need to do things that will keep your mind of him. Write down a list of reasons why you finished with him. Write all the negative stuff down and when you are feeling like you want to contact him read over everything you wrote down. You might feel like you don't want to go out with friends. But why not ask them over to your house for some 'girl' time and just relax with them. Give yourself some time and you will eventually feel better.
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reader, tdactyluk1  +, writes (4 October 2011):
Married men, very rarely leave their wives, and I've known loads of these, with friends, and sisters, who were promised these things, and never got them.
These men are just having their cake, and eating it. Most of these men, are telling several women this, at the same time, with each thinking they are the only ones.
It's very easy, to keep up a pretence, as they know it won't be for long, then off to another willing flower.
Just treat it, as a lesson, and forget it, like he probably did, some while back. Not very nice, I know, but it could have been worse, had you been the wife.
regards Terry
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