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writes:I have a question:Is it ever really possible to run away from your true feelings, ie. denying them or trying to forget about them or staying away from someone when you really do in your heart care about/have feelings for them? How can you tell if your feelings are real and won't go away, even if you don't see the other person all the time? Thanks all... Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 October 2011): It is possible, even without breaking contact, since not everyone has that option, but it is difficult. The more time you spend with them the harder it is, and the more concious effort you have to put into it. The simplest thing to do is to concentrate on something else when you start thinking about them, and try to focus on other aspects of your interaction, i.e. work/school/carpool etc, and not on what they mean to you personally. This gets very difficult if it is a friend of yours who you do not want to lose, as was my experience, but you basically have to mentally overcome your emotions and keep them in check. This is usually the toughest part for most people. If you feel it becomes impossible, but you are still intent on separating yourself from your feelings; or that distancing yourself from the person is possibe, then breaking contact with them is probably a good call. Either way, best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 October 2011): Buy why do you want to hide or run away?
It is possible. But you ahve to cut off all contact with them and start focusing on all other things. It's like healing from a break-up. You can't heal if you are facebook friends and twitter friends, and friends with the same friends, and going to all the same bars, coffee shops, and texting or calling, etc....
You say goodbye, and you go and in time they fade. You'll find someone new. If this person is married or of a different lifestyle choice, or has broken up with you, then those are things to do to move away from them.
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