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writes:About 1 year ago I met this guy at work and we briefly worked together for a few months. During that time, it was clear (or so I thought) that we were interested in each other, but nothing ever developed further. We would speak at work and messaged each other outside of work occasionally.After we stopped working together as he was relocated, he would message me sometimes, but again, nothing ever happened and we never met up outside of work. I found it strange that he never asked me out or anything and was confused why he didn't try to get things moving.. so I never tried to either. Frankly, I became a bit annoyed at the situation and that all we ever did was text message each other. I decided it was a waste of time and just stopped responding to him. In addition, while he instigated the conversation, he would take days and days to even respond which I felt like he was trying to imply he didn't care about the conversation anyway. Now, he has moved back into my city and we have bumped into each other today. The encounter was pleasant enough, but I figured that was all and I would not hear from him. After I see him, I get a text message from him instigating another conversation and now, days later, he still hasn't replied even though he was the one who started the conversation.I would just like some input, what is this guys deal? Is he just a time waster? Or does he like me and want to carry a conversation? If so, why does he try to make it look like he doesn't care about the conversation at the same time? He seems genuine and is nice, but I don't understand his agenda and why he continues to waste time with me, especially since we do not know each other.
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reader, Red591  +, writes (5 October 2011):
 I know a guy friend who did this with people all the time. He had a million friends and simply forgot he was texting someone. He made a lot of girls mad but he had so many waiting that it didn't matter. I wouldn't think too much on it. If a guy wants you, you will know it.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Could be just wants to be a friend OR could be a time bandit just depends on your expectations.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 I think you are reading way to much in to this. At the end of the day you where work colleagues and you had a friendship going, but there is nothing in your post that makes me feel like he has led you on in to thinking he has romantic feelings for you. I may be wrong but there is nothing there that hints that he has flirted with you or hinted that he wants to be with you. It sounds like he looks at you as a friend and nothing more. Again if he doesn't respond it may just be a case that he is busy and has forgotten to text back, believe me that happens with men a lot. If you like him then it is time you told him how you feel. Why should he make the first move? Just tell him.
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