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*laidnMad
writes:Okay so I started working at this restaurant when I had a girlfriend, and this beautiful girl I'm involved with now had a boyfriend. We both ended those relationships at pretty much the same time (not a planned thing, just a coincidence). We started hanging out a lot after that and just a couple nights ago we kissed for the first time. It didn't go any further than that and afterwards she told me that she'd been seeing this other guy too and doesn't really want anything serious. As you can imagine, I can't stop thinking about her!! And to make matters more awkward we totally work together. Before we kissed I was doing a great job at staying indifferent and not being too needy and blah blah blah but now I seriously can't get her out of my head. What should I do when I'm working with her to show that I'm interested, but in a way that keeps her comfortable and doesn't scare her off? Should I just write it off as some random hook-up? I actually really like her too I don't just want to have sex....I just don't know how to act around her now in a way that also keeps her interested. Any advice would be terrific. Reply to this Question
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reader, Red591 +, writes (5 October 2011):
 well first off, she should not have kissed you if she had something else going on unless you were both open about it to begin with but you seem to have been under the assumptions that she was single when you kissed her. She should have said something before it got that far. I wouldn't chase too hard as that will push her away if she is unsure. I would tell her that you enjoyed the kiss. you are game to be friends? play it totally cool. Girls always gravitate to who isn't paying too much attention to them. Its a stupid fact of life. I wouldn't flat out ignore her as that sends the wrong message too but don't obsess over her. Look at other girls and talk to other girls. Women gravitated to a calm, confident guy who looks like he has options. If a girl thinks she is the only option in your head after one kiss, it will make you look desperate. Its hard when you like someone, but play it COOL
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