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writes:My and my bf of 1.5 years had a fight a week back which was not my fault. But anyway i apologiazed and we made up. But the thing is he used to call me/msg me at least once a day. For the past few days he is not calling, even if he does just talk to me for 3-5 mins and cuts the call. Not responding to my msgs or calls. I get a feeling that he wants out. He is the person who gets bored easily and already dumped a lot of girls after dating them for a year, since he gor bored with them.I gave him around 9 thousand dollars (my savings) when he had problems, he is yet it return it. I am thinking that he is with me because of the moeny. May be i am paranoid, but i couldnt help this thought. Dont want anyone to be with me just cause of money. Its insulting. Please help me.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (4 October 2011):
 Did you set some terms with him regarding payback? Did you call it a loan or a gift?
You need to talk with him ASAP and discussing him paying it back on a schedule.
Let the relationship and the loan be two seperate issues.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 You are a brave lady for giving away 9k. That is a lot of money, especially when you know he has a reputation of getting bored with women after a while. I hope you signed some sort of paper work to ensure that you get it back. For your sake I hope he does the decent thing in this case. but yes I agree with 'ghostchild' you need to talk to him about this. Tell him how you are feeling. Communication is so so important in a relationship. Be open and honest with him and ask him how he is feeling and if he is happy.
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reader, GhostChild  +, writes (4 October 2011):
 This is something that you have to talk to him about.
Nine thousand dollars is an awful lot of money, you have to make sure that you get that back.
Talk to him and ask him how he feels about the relationship, ask him why he doesn't call or text as much as he used to.
Most importantly, find out how he feels about you.
And if you're worried about the money, ask him when he's going to start paying it back. That was your savings, and you deserve to know when you'll see it back again.
So sit him down and have a chat with him as soon as possible, best of luck!
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