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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Ex wants me back after I met someone new!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4889 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My ex and I have a little boy together. We went on a break 6 months ago because we were not getting along. He wanted some distance and I was hurt badly by this response. I thought I would never get over my ex. Now I have met a new guy and I was blown away by the kind of person ... (362 words)

Woman is friendly at work, but not outside.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4772 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - There is a very attractive single girl in my office, brunette, always wears high heels etc, who, when we see each other when alone, or when she is at her desk, she always says hi, or makes lots of eye contact and smiles etc. We havent really had any conversations though yet. ... (121 words)

My boyfriend is really tall, how can I kiss him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - My boyfriend is really tall and he wants to kiss me but I dont know how to kiss a tall guy :-( help... (23 words)

We split up and decided to remain friends, but he went off with his mates and didn't text!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My partner of 15 months and I split up 8 weeks ago. We have had many ups and downs since then but have now put them all behind us and have decided to stay friends. We have been getting along really well and he has been very complimentary towards me and we always have a laugh ... (297 words)

Lost, insucure and anxious without my teacher being with me. I'm petrified shes going to abandon me. Why do I feel this way?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I am desperatly in love with my female teacher and i dont know what to do. have been really really depressed in this last year and she is the one who stopped me self harming for good. She is literally the only one i trust out of everybody i know and i tell her every thing. ... (310 words)

We just broke up, but I'm still in love with her!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - i recently broke up with my girlfriend of two months, it was an internet relationship and we never even met. i was madly in love with her and i still am, she loved me too and i believe she did. she doesnt love me anymore though, and we stayed talking for a few days and each ... (210 words)

Boyfriend's feels discomfort after sex.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have a healthy monogamous sex life. We both do not have any STD's or any of that kind of stuff. I'm asking this question on his behalf (he doesn't like to seek out help with personal problems) but he doesn't mind if I do some research and tell him what I f... (196 words)

Ex sent me an email saying "I hope your life is better now," Why?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Why did my ex do this ?. We broke up a few months ago, but recently, he sent me a message saying " well , i hope your life is better and that you are happy, i really do ". I asked him why he had contacted me, but he said he just wanted to say that to me, and he wasn't expecting ... (231 words)

I'm leaving and we never went out, what can I say in my emai?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm a research assistant in a lab. In the dept. that I work there is a principal investigator who I really like. Anyways, in the past I have emailed him with friendly messages. He always replied but in a very polite manner. Even the day I asked him to go out for coffee, ... (158 words)

Why am I having sexual dreams about being with women?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I keep having vivid dreams in which I'm doing something sexual with other women, and really enjoying it! I don't understand it at all. I've never been attracted to another girl in real life. I can't possibly believe I'm repressing lesbian tendencies or something... I'm by no ... (109 words)

She believes rules don't apply to her because she is beautiful!!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i was interested in a girl I met in the metro who is a model. she's not famous or anything but makes a living doing modeling...of course she is drop dead gorgeous. but she seemed approachable. so i got to talking with her. we went on a few dates and it became clear she was no... (193 words)

Why can't my man give me his all?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - what do i do if i feel my man of nearly 2 years is not giving me his all, its LDR we see each other best we can and we commited and loyal to each other, text when we say we are going to text, talk on the net everynight, but i am getting like a cold feeling when he his on the ... (463 words)

Torn between my boyfriend and a new guy

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i have caused a huge mess and i know i deserve every last bit of what i've caused but please, i need some help. i was with someone who was good to me for a couple of years now. i know how much he loves me. he loves me more than anything in the entire world. everyone knew it... (265 words)

Does true love exist?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Do you think true love exists? I used to believe in true love. But love always hurted me. I hate love. I trusted my boy-friend so much. He broke it. I'm 16 years old. My ex was 27. It was online relationship. I was dating him for 2 years. I broke up this year. My dad is also ... (229 words)

How to cross over the friends zone?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi, i need help because i like this girl and i really want to be more than friends with her,I want To Know how to ask her to hang out with me more. im pretty shy around girls but with her i surprised myself So ill start from the beginning, this school year i met this ... (399 words)

Why is he being like that? Is it my fault?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Basically I don't know what's wrong with my friend. We used to be so close but things have changed. I don't get what's wrong with him. Last summer it was the first time he started flirting with me and I told him not to. So he avoided me for literally 3 weeks. But within that ... (817 words)

He has no time for me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - i had a friend and first he used to care for me alot and consider me as his best friend..but now he is completely changed and had stoped bothering me...now he has new friends and he is paying very less attention to me....fact is that i love him alot and want him back...or ... (62 words)

My boyfriend blew me off to play video games. Am I being immature by being mad?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I of nearly two months went out the other night to the movies to see the new Hangover movie. After the show, I asked what he wanted to do next and if he might just want to go to my house to hang out for a couple of hours. He said we could go somewhere, but ... (699 words)

Will this stop my ex from seeing my messages and contacting me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi there if i buy a phone and a pay as u go sim can it be linked back to me? can my calls still be viewed outgoing and incoming and all messages be looked at? sorry i have a crazy ex who is a guard and i keep changing my number and their still in contact. they seem to get... (96 words)

How can I encourage him to give me oral again?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been going out with my bf for 3 years now and we have a healthy sex life. He is very good at giving me oral and used to do it loads because I do not orgasm during sex and that's the only way (apart from with vibrators) that I can orgasm. But since he got his job he's ... (108 words)

What is up with this guy's behaviour? Should I hint that I want to meet up with him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - why did this guy ask for my number, and why does he reply to my texts ,but doesn't meet up wih me ?. he also pokes me on facebook ( he does it first ). he seems interested in me, but i haven't seen him since the night when he asked for my number. it upsets me because i really ... (157 words)

She is becoming a whore and I care about her too much to let her do this to herself!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4903 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Big problem. I have a friend that has been known to get around. I just became really good friends with her about 6 months ago and things between us got closer. I started to want to just have sex with her, but then she told me that she had feelings for me. I just wanted to get ... (173 words)

He has been sexting his ex! I don't know what to believe anymore....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am 19 years old and have been dating a 20 year old for six months now. Yesterday was actually our six months and I found out he had been texting his ex girlfriend. the texts were heartbreaking and strictly sexual. she told me he only texts here when college is not in session, ... (221 words)

Is he hoping to cheat with this girl or just entertain her crush on him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I found an email exchange between my boyfriend and girl that has been extremely flirtatious with him on facebook. She told him she'd be in town for a few days in the fall and not to tell anyone but that she'd like to hang out with him. She signed off xoxo He told her he ... (148 words)

A boyfriend who breaks plans and thinks I should be more flexible and "mature" about our separate lives.

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has broken plans with me two nights in a row after a show/performance he recently had. Everything was going quite well up til then. I kindly expressed to him some discomfort with him never introducing me as his girlfriend, even though we've been together for a ... (165 words)

He flirts with other women by text and email

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend signs off his emails and text messages with XOXO to women, particularly women who've expressed an interest in him. Even a ;) at times. I've seen the exchanges and conversations and they are deep relationship talks and sometimes flirtatious. He of course hides ... (163 words)

Come too soon during the first round! How do I last longer? And how do I get harder faster for the second round?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4904 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - hy all whenever i have sex as soon as i enter her i feel i have started to cum i last less then a minute until i get hard again then i can last till an hour also. And whats the fasted way to get a hard on faster after cumming once Thnks for any help... (69 words)

The effects of anal sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Im really curious about the effects of anal sex. The anus was designed to expel waste so if used for sex cant it affect the muscles?like maybe you can fail to hold your faeces? Im curious about anal and would love to try it but im scared it might ruin the tightness of the anus. ... (73 words)

Falling for my long-distance crush.....please help!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi ! I am a 17 year old teen girl who has a crush on a 19 year old Pakistani guy . i don't know how things turned out ,it was just when he's not online in Facebook, i'm starting to miss him :( and i'm so worried because i might fall for him :( and i guess we're not compatib... (129 words)

My boyfriend's ill mannered children are too much to deal with! Should I just leave him and them to their chaotic existence?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend has 2 sons from a previous relationship. He has brought them over to visit for weekends a couple of times now. They make a huge mess and don’t clean up, won’t help with dishes although they are quite old enough, and have broken a few things in my house too. La... (152 words)

I don't want him as a boyfriend, what can I do?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I split with my ex 2 month ago as he cheated on me. When I found out, he wasn't bothered that he broke my heart, laughed and moved on. I still have feelings for him but I also developed feelings towards my friend, who said he likes me. I said it wouldn't work as our friendship ... (120 words)

My FWB has fallen in love with me and now says his happiness depends on me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm 20, turning 21 in september. When i was in my first year of college in 2007 i fell in love with a boy who was in 2nd year. We started going out but my sister,who was my guardian and acted like my mother since i dont have parents, didnt approve of the relationship and said i ... (657 words)

I don't want to be this crazy compaining person all the time but they really get to me.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I am a middle child with two sisters, one older (divorcee no children, has a boyfriend), one younger (married with children). We are all in our thirties. We are a close family but I have a problem when they make arrangements and plan family dinners and things without asking me ... (678 words)

He pretended to be young, when really he is a 44 year old man! What should I do?

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi ... i'm a girl 18 ... i met some guy on on internet on a 3D game ..he told me his name is Paul and he is 18 ... i loved him ...he shown me some pic for young boy pretending its him.. after being his gf ... in some night he told me he is Ahmed and 35 ... that night he swear ... (261 words)

Has anyone ever developed a crush on a sales/service worker when they use endearing words?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'll admit it, I am asking this question because misery loves company. A few days ago a cute guy that works at a coffee shop I go to said "Hey beautiful" when I got to the counter. I have been spending far too much of my energy ever since reminding myself that it's his job to ... (149 words)

Do girls regret some of the decisions they make when chosing guys?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4902 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - We were real into each other in the beginning, almost dating. Then something happened and she never had a chance to get over her ex. Suddenly, she wasn't ready for a relationship, which I understood. She said she's never been more sexually attracted to someone. But as time we... (219 words)

How do I make it clear I don't want it to just be a one night stand without it being a massive turn off?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hi, I'm looking for a bit of advice. Firstly, im not a slag, so please don't accuse me of being one. I admit that I have very low self-estem, and having sex makes me feel better about myself. There's a guy I really like, and I'm planning to have sex with him at a party next ... (108 words)

Am I still a virgin? It didnt hurt or bleed!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - This is very confusing and sometimes i think am still a virgin. i had sex with my first boyfriend and i did not bleed nor did it hurt. is this normal? i told my friends and they said am either abnormal or my boyfriend's dick was too small or weak to break it and i might be a... (106 words)

I don't know why he is ashamed of me and keeps me a secret!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Okay, so I've been in this relationship with one guy for like three months and it's quite okay except for the fact he wants to keep it secret. We both live in a small town and since he's kinda a known person and has many friends and all the people know him, he said it would be ... (329 words)

24 and never had an orgasm! Help!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi everyone sorry to be so personal heres my problem in 24 and i have never had a orgasm my new partners getting very impatient with me it just never seems to happen ive even got a vibrator which doesnt help any tips please... (44 words)

I know she loves me, but what kind of love?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I think I am in love with my best friend.... she's a good year and a half older than me...and whenever I am at her place or she is at mine, we kiss and cuddle and tell each other we love each other....I'm just not quite sure what her love is....she spends all of her time with ... (113 words)

Falsely accused of stalking one of my best friends! What do I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupids, I really need your help! One of my best friends, who I also share the same workplace as, accused me of stalking him this week. It is absolutely untrue. The reason being that another friend told him I was asking for information about him. I've not done this. I eve... (201 words)

Should I bring up the incident?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i went on a date with a girl who just came to our area to live. date went well.. after the movie we had drinks at the park convo was good.. so left me a msgs saying i was nice and sweetheart so on.. all the nice things. we went on a second date on sun for lunch and walking ... (139 words)

I'm like a lovesick teenager over this married woman! Help!

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 3765 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age - I'm a single guy in my 40's and am extremely love sick, as silly as it may sound. I feel like a teenager with the feelings I have for someone, who is married, so this person is unattainable. We have known each other for several months and saw and talked to each other sever... (228 words)

Did I do something wrong? Or was he just not ready?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I've been dating this guy for about two months and our relationship has taken a relatively serious turn recently, as we both feel a very strong connection to one another and have even dropped the word "love". However, my guy has me a little puzzled when it comes to intimacy. ... (563 words)

I hate how bitter she's being about the break up. She was hurt more than I was but now that I want back together, shouldn't that fix it?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4902 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So, I'm not one for dating advice columns or anything like that. That being said, bear with me a bit. Alright, so I've been through a lot of difficult relationships. I recognize the fact that the difficulty in some cases was my doing. I thought I was better though. ... (578 words)

How do I tell him I'm worried by his need to make more friends? He might meet new girls and think twice about our relationship!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear Cupid, I'm in a long distance relationship with my bf. We're living in different parts of the world and could only see each other maybe 3-4 times a year. My bf is quite sociable, he gets along really well with everyone. I'm not that sociable and I'm comfortabl... (167 words)

How do I get over my ex who treated me so badly?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey dearcupid. I want to get over my ex girlfriend, who cheated on me (with 3 people in one night at a party I wasn't at). She's a compulsive liar, too. And she sometimes wouldn't even speak to me, giving me blunt 1-5 word sentences when i tried to make conversation w... (143 words)

My boyfriend is acting strange.....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - okay, so my boyfriend is acting strange. We have been together nearly 2 years and he has been acting extremely weird. for example, he will argue over the stupidest things and he knows I do not like to argue and he continues to argue. He knows i do not care if he goes to clubs ... (252 words)

Is he into me or not?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - if a guy says he likes me what actually means? we just met via internet and chatting after couple of weeks. and he has lots of fans in his website. before he asked me whether i'm into serious relationship or not? and i said yes to him. ... (50 words)

How do you know if a guy will just use you for sex then leave?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid...i would like to know how a woman knows a guy will leave you after you give him sex? Im in high school and as you all assume, guys are all after that. But in the world of "highschool", a guy will only wait for a girl for about 4-5 months. If he sees he's not gonna ... (120 words)

Should I apologize to her for my obessive behaviour?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I have an obsessive behavior which means I can somehow force myself to do something that I do not want to do and if I want something, I would do anything to have it. This obsessive behavior is both benefiting and annoying because my obsessive behavior does create a problem... (180 words)

Feeling like I'm loosing my mind, and my love.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4909 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - OK. My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple months and everything has been amazing.....until now. We dont spend as much time together anymore (due to life - work, home, etc) so the time we get together is really important to me. On Monday I found out that work ... (276 words)

Do all these things mean he likes me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4909 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have this guy friend who I didn't see very often, only every few days to a week we'd see each other. We started hanging around almost everyday though the last two weeks, and he's acting a lot different with me. He pays a lot of attention to me, noticing hair cuts and if I'm ... (269 words)

What is an estimate of a healthy amount of time between relationships?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4909 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi there What is an estimate of a healthy amount of time between relationships? I was in a long term relationship for 3 years and its like I'm clueless about dating. I'm in my late 20s and only 2 serious relationships. Last time, it was 3 months between but the last guy seem... (138 words)

Dating for a year and never gone on a "date" yet!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost a year. We get along fine and time with just ourselves is great. We have never gone on a date yet. I've tried to plan 3 but always something came up with my bf and the date would be called off. After talking about it, he say... (209 words)

Which college should I choose?

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15 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I graduate next year and i have narrowed it down to 2 colleges. They are both art schools. they offer they same and pretty much have everything the same. What makes them different is their location. one college is like a hour and 15 minutes away. The other is 4 to 5 hours away. ... (210 words)

I feel like my boyfriend is cheating on me, is it all in my head or is my instinct right?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I'm jealous of this girl and just by hearing her name makes me sick the entire day... I don't have proof that my boyfriend is cheating on me with this girl but I can't stop thinking about it. He always tells me nothing between them but I can't find it in my heart to believe... (118 words)

Psycho boyfriend broke up with me, stiffed me for money, now sends email to brother worried about my mental health? huh?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4900 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Why is my ex-boyfriend of three years contacting my brother asking about me? He dumped me nine months ago. To say it was an ugly break-up is an understatement. He left me in a callous manner(at a destination wedding for my best friend). I was so embarrassed and shattered. ... (216 words)

At times I just feel like I should just let myself be used, but at least then I'll have somefriends...

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4909 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - dear Cupid, I have a problem finding quality friends. It seems with in my circle of aquaintances of people I know the drama queens, mooches/users,pill poppers,selfish,materialistic, boastful/self important and just the average jerk seem to have all the friends. I think I ... (94 words)

Broke it off with BF but cant help but want to talk to him. Do I miss him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - There's this guy, let's call him JD. Well, first off, we have been friends for months and we've dated and about 4 days ago I told him I thought it was time to let go and find new people. I've never gone through with leaving him; I've tried it before, multiple times. Today I was ... (81 words)

Me LD friend, chatted it up but when we starting sexting he wont talk about anything else.How do I get my friend back?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4909 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - 3 months ago i met a guy on facebook. I live in Canada, he is in Granada. We discussed religion, music, our cultures, etc., nice fun easy flowing chats. We progressed to once a week cellphone text, max characters. Emails, everyday...fell in love, or whTever it is that happens ... (158 words)

How do I prove to her that I do trust her?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - how can i get through to my gf that i do trust her? my gf says i give vibes of not trusting her. she says i don't trust her because im not ready to give her my cc info and car insurance info for rental cars or hotel reservations, i don't want her friends over my place when im ... (212 words)

My ex is sending me mixed signals and tells me he needs a few years to figure out if he wants to stay married to me!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 4908 days ago

15 July 2011 (F)

age - My husband and I split up because he couldn't handle a stressful situation that we had no control over..he just couldn't step up to the plate and give support when needed. Now the situation is over, it is two months since I moved out and the whole thing is resolved and and the ... (191 words)