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writes:i was interested in a girl I met in the metro who is a model. she's not famous or anything but makes a living doing modeling...of course she is drop dead gorgeous. but she seemed approachable. so i got to talking with her.we went on a few dates and it became clear she was not interested in being exclusive with me. why? well, for one she's young, wants to play the field. for another, well, she sleeps with "sugar daddies" for money. i was a little shocked by this to be honest. but she said it like this: when you make your living by your looks, you got to use what you got. also men are always judging you on your looks and trying to hit on you. so you might as well use their game against them."it is easy for you to judge. but it's like an artist who can break the rules if he's talented enough. when a woman is beautiful, normal relationship rules dont apply."do you agree?are beautiful people different?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): Anon said,
"I'm sad that this girl thinks this is the only talent she has. She's being exploited by patriarchy really so feel sorry for her if anything."
Her behavior is nobody else's fault but her own. It is not the evil patriarchy's fault that she was gifted with extra sexual power and chooses to abuse that power. That is not men oppressing her, that is her abusing her own gifts. She could make her living many other ways without using her body like this but she chooses not to. She does not lack power, she lacks responsibility. She cannot handle the extra power that she has.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): You'd better tell her to start saving her money because she won't be young forever. She may be getting attention and favors from men, but relying only on her looks will result in a very shallow and unhappy life. What will she have when she's older? Multiple plastic surgeries, no hobbies and a little brain.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 "also men are always judging you on your looks and trying to hit on you."
Did you ever see the movie "The Sixth Sense"?
She's basically told you that you judged her by her looks and hit on her based on that. You have conformed to her assessment of guys.
I know plenty of beautiful women who are married and quite faithful and who didn't play the field in the way you describe.
I just think you met a woman who enjoys using her beauty in a way that shocks you. She got to you, didn't she? At least she didn't lead you on for too long. But to assume that all attractive people believe and act as she does is as ridiculous as assuming that all homely or unattractive people are faithful and virginal and not manipulators. A bit too simplistic, don't you think?
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 July 2011):
 This isn't a beautiful people thing, it's just a "her" thing. Her choices don't really have anything to do with you after only a few dates though, so you'll have to decide if you're OK dating someone who sleeps with other people for money.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Beautiful people might not be different, but people in GENERAL are different. She's a person who likes to live like this, and she's not the only one. It's got less to do with her looks and more to do with her choices. Plenty of gorgeous people don't go into modeling, or sleep for money. But several do, and she's one of them.
What's it to you anyway? Date a girl that you feel compatible with. If an open relationship with a self proclaimed luxury whore isn't what you want, then don't go for it! It's her body, and you can't force her to be monogamous if she doesn't want to. Her looks are irrelevant in this, but she's got the right to do with her body as she pleases, gorgeous or not.
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reader, wiseoldman  +, writes (15 July 2011):
Remember that while an artist's talent may increase with time, time always defeats looks, both in women and men, so her analogy is flawed. Anyway, she'll always be driven by money rather than love, so anyone with more money than you can have her. You've learned that beauty doesn't equal decency- with that in mind move on.
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reader, RedAthena +, writes (15 July 2011):
 No, I know plenty of gorgeous people are even more beautiful on the inside.
You met a shallow chick. I would bet that her self-esteem is not that high and she is using people in a similiar way she is allowing herself to be "used".
She sees herself as a commodity to be purchased in one way or another and she is going to get everything she can out of it. Nice work if you can get it.
Yet, when age or other life setback creeps up to her..then what? All she will have left are memories of endless shallow and meaningless hookups. What a sad existance.
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reader, AgonyAuntiee93 +, writes (15 July 2011):
she needs to follow the same rules. everyone is beautiful, maybe not on the outside, but on the inside, every human is beautiful.
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