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writes:Hi, i need help because i like this girl and i really want to be more than friends with her,I want To Know how to ask her to hang out with me more. im pretty shy around girls but with her i surprised myselfSo ill start from the beginning, this school year i met this girl who lives in my neighborhood. we go to the same school,she is 15 and im 16.i really didn't talk to her and didn't have a crush on her or anything until the last week of school.i started thinking about who i would like to have as a girlfriend and i started thinking about her and after i saw her at school the next day i started liking her and i thought she was really beautiful.we started talking on facebook. so the next week she messages me on Facebook telling me i should go to the park because shes over there(park is right down the street) so i said OK and i went and i saw her there sitting down on the bench watching her siblings.i walk over to her and her sister and her friend get up from the bench and leave me and My crush alone. So we started talking and we talked for about an hour we really got to know each other and we were both acting kinda shy, and i was liking her more i thought she was a very nice and funny girl. i found out a lot about her and i think hanging out with her went really well. Its been about 2 months since then and we havent talked since then only on facebook and she still lives in my neigborhood but i keep thinking about her and i really want to be with her but i want to get closer to her and talk more. I dont want to just walk to her house because i think that would be weird for both of us. I want to talk to her again just me and her i think she might like me too
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reader, shortyX3 +, writes (18 July 2011):
 sorry guys i found out she goes out with my close friend im sad and jelous
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reader, shortyX3 +, writes (16 July 2011):
hi im the person who asked this question and i wanted to tell you guys that today i talked to her on facebook and heres how the conversation went.
ME: Hey M----
HER:Hey
ME:How have you been?
HER:Good you?
ME:I guess pretty good
HER:Thats good
ME:So do you want to hang out sometime??
HER:hmm idk
ME:Just Tell me if you ever want to hang out sometime
HER:ok
do you think i should make a move? do you think shes waiting for me to make a move?
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2011): thank you guys for your advice ill definitely keep you guys posted and let you know what happens
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Invite her with you to the park again, or for a walk. Walks are brilliant, because when you are in movement it is easier to think and also feel comfortable, more so than if you are sitting still.
The only way to cross the "friend zone", is to flirt. And once you flirt, the line has been crossed. If you invite her with you to the park, or for a walk, you are flirting. It could be seen as "just friendly" as well, which is nice at the beginning. It's nice to have a safe zone to pull back to if it feels uncomfortable to get close to her. But if it works well, and she accepts, and you continue to get closer, you can be more direct about your intentions.
Two months is way too long to wait though!!!!! I don't know if you still have a shot with her, you need to move faster than this. Contact her ASAP. Then keep up the communication and get to know her better and get back to us for more help if things don't go smoothly by itself. It should go smoothly though, she appears to like you as well. Although, two months is too long with no contact, don't let it go more than 4 days between each time you contact her or she will think you don't care.
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reader, doublejack +, writes (15 July 2011):
If you communicate regularly over facebook, then use that to ask her to do something with you. It doesn't have to be anything like eating somewhere or going to a movie, it can be as simple as asking if she wants to go for a walk, play a game such as monopoly or whatever, or maybe an outdoor activity like frisbee or ladder ball. Anything that will allow the two of you to talk and have some fun together can move things in the direction of a "date".My best advice is to take a chance and ask her. She made the first move by asking you to join her at the park. That's a pretty clear indicator of interest. I have to say the ball is in your court to make the next move. Just go for it! As long as you keep it low key, the worst that can happen is you'll build the friendship, but it sure sounds like there's the potential for more.Best of luck!
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