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writes:okay, so my boyfriend is acting strange. We have been together nearly 2 years and he has been acting extremely weird. for example, he will argue over the stupidest things and he knows I do not like to argue and he continues to argue. He knows i do not care if he goes to clubs and dances with females, but for me he has a big issue if I were to dance with a male. In fact I encourage him to go out, but he does not really like when I go out. I support and encourage him through everything. I even told him, maybe we need a break and he does not want one :s so I do not know what to do. He knows he can talk to me about anything but lately he has not opened up to me about anything. I know a while back he had some family issues and I have been there for him, and right now I am dealing with some severe family issues, I would expect him to be understanding but he says things like "Iv'e been through that" or "that's life" when Im pouring my emotions to him. I do not know what is bothering him but I told him: "if you need space or anything, let me know" but he says he thinks I do not love him anymore, I do,. I'am just tired of arguing over bullshit his ignorance and boringnesshelp!
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reader, mce206  +, writes (16 July 2011):
I can imagine about 3 possibilities here.1) He simply has double-standards. Good at complaining but not good at advice. Likes to play around, yet possessive of you. This may be less likely if this is a sudden chance of mood for him.2) Something else is on his mind and he's taking it out on you. Just because he refuses to share doesn't mean he doesn't have anything to share. It could also be passive-aggressive.3) He's more interested in playing with other girls, but doesn't want to be the one to end the relationship, and wants to provoke you enough until you end it yourself.Any one or combination of these could be the case.Personally, I lean toward the latter option, but you know him better than we do.If you confront him about it and he doesn't try to defend the relationship, instead seeming passive about it, then you need to look for someone less dramatic.That's my own 2 cents.
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reader, angelDlite  +, writes (16 July 2011):
 you have treated him really nice and he is acting like an ungrateful brat. he knows you are easy going and will do anything rather than argue and he is using this to his advantage so you need to toughen up a bit. unfortunately being nice does not always ensure that you in turn get treated nice. he thinks you are a mug, show him that you're not
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