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writes:We were real into each other in the beginning, almost dating. Then something happened and she never had a chance to get over her ex. Suddenly, she wasn't ready for a relationship, which I understood. She said she's never been more sexually attracted to someone.But as time went on I feel like I was being an option while I considered her a priority. Big no no. So I slowly backed off because I thought she was into another guy. She kept posting stuff about how happy she was with a certain guy. I got sick of getting hurt and hoping, so I took steps to get over her.Changed her name in my phone book, took off pics on my phone, etc. Finally, I blocked her from Facebook because I needed time to get over her without seeing her status updates.She texted me the night she saw that I had blocked her. She asked why. I said "I won't delete, just blocked temporarily. Honestly, I still had some feelings for you, and it seemed you had moved on" She said "ahh gotcha".Then she blocked ME too on Facebooknot sure whyWill she feel regret this when she sees me at school?
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reader, Mitchell1978  +, writes (21 July 2011):
Her reaction shows you made the right move in trying to move in, just ignore her from now on.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Doesn't sound like she was ever really into you Im afraid. It hurts since you have feelings for her, but you did the right thing by removing yourself from her. It wont make your pain less if she would regret it or not. What will make your pain less is knowing this: rather than wasting your time on a woman who didn't know what she wanted, or couldn't appreciate you for how great you are, you now have the time to find a woman who is worthy of you. This one wasn't. You caring for her despite how little she cared for you in return is only a sign of how capable you are of loving and how much you are worth. Now instead of wasting time on her, you can find someone who will treat you right instead.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Everyone needs to make decisions. Sometimes those decisions are wrong, and you eventually regret them. Sometimes you don't.
If your question is whether she will regret not having begun a real relationship with you, I don't know, but I would recommend that you do not lose sleep over that. You had made a very conscious and correct decision not to insist and not to feel pain, and, frankly, I very much agree with that. I wish we were all capable of easily doing the same thing when we notice women we're not into us. It would spare us a lot of heartbreak, and we wouldn't hear that often about a guy who doesn't "get it" or a girl who thinks that by ignoring him he will go away.
If your question is whether she will regret blocking you, the answer is no. You blocker her first, and you said you wanted to get over her.
By the way, it seems clear that she was not into you. Keep doing what you were doing, and move on.
Like I said, you made the conscious decision to avoid pain, and, again, I applaud that. Again, I wish we were all capable of taking such control of our feelings and act the right way, for us and for the girls.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 You signaled really clearly to this girl that you were blocking contact with her, so she helped you out by doing her own bit. Maybe she's tired of being made to feel guilty for not reciprocating your feelings for her. She can't force herself to feel something she doesn't. Just consider how you'd react if your roles were reversed.
I guess the question is do you regret blocking her so emphatically? Maybe that's what you're really thinking?
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