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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Blowing into someone's ears, what does that really mean?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4903 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey, OK so I've seen how many people ask this question, and I'm going to ask the same question because it's a bit different. We all (friends) went out, and my guy frd blew in my ear/side face. When he first first did it, while we were walking, I was a bit confused, I... (199 words)

What do I do after I get a girl's phone number?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - ok so three out of my four friends have girlfriends and i feel a little left out cause they've all got someone. i really want something but i am a little shy. one of my friends is in a band and i go to just about all of their gigs if i sss a girl i like what should i do and ... (87 words)

We cannot complete sex. Is it my boyfriend or me?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in my early 30's and still a virgin. I was abused when I was 11 yrs old. I was physiically abused but my attacker did not succeed in raping me.. In other words, I was not penetrated. Since then, I developed a fear of men. During my teens, I was not into dating or having any ... (264 words)

Fiance said horrible things to me while really drunk. Was it just the alcohol?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - my fiance told me last night whilst drunk that he hated me and how he thinks im a bad mum to our children, he said i should get out of his life and how he can do so much better than me how he deserves so much better than me. this all started due to the fact i was annoyed with ... (170 words)

Really romantic love songs?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Does anyone know any really romantic love songs??... (8 words)

What do most people do when they have a crush?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Really general question do most of you when you have a crush, liking of someone, Tell them without asking them out? Directly ask them out? Get a friend to tell them without asking them out? Tell them when you are over them? Never tell them? Get a friend to ask them out... (70 words)

Boyfriend treats me so well, I feel like I'm not worthy of him.

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Has anyone felt that you wont worthy to the one that you love or dating sometimes if fell like that i love my boyfriend he treats me so well we have been together for about 9 or 9 half months now i feel like that i am not worthy to be with him he he says that i am worthy to him ... (256 words)

Can't get over 4 year relationship, feeling depressed and lonely. Help.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone. It is me again. I just keep asking for help. Don't I ;) Well the problem is the same. But with a new symptom now. It is the 6th month since she dumped me after a relation of 4 years for another guy in only 10 days after my departure from Pakistan to USA. She neve... (289 words)

After losing my virginity will it be really difficult to stop having sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Is it true that once you start having sex it becomes really difficult to stop? I know my current boyfriend is the man I want to lose my virginity to (I wouldn't be his first), but we're an LDR so only get to meet up every 2-3 months. If we go through with it, will not being ... (97 words)

He doesn't tell me his plans. Should I be worried?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have been in a relationship for five years now and everytime I have plans without him like going to a friends house for dinner or meeting up with my family I let him know. He on the other hand doesn't do that and the only way I find out that he is at a party or meeting up ... (82 words)

16 year old wanting to lose 10-20 pounds. Any tips?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hi i want to lose 10-20 pounds. can someone tellme how to do it? Im 16 years old im not sure exactly how much i weigh but im of average weight and i just want to be a little more skinny for looks but mainly i want to be healthy and make sure im in good health later in life. ... (95 words)

Seeing a guy in an open marriage, why is he telling other guys to get lost?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4888 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age - I'm in a relationship with a guy from an open marriage. We were out the other night at the bars with our friends and there was a guy talking to me. I am single so that's okay. The guy from the open marriage told him I wasn't interested and to get lost. He told me he didn't like ... (69 words)

Boyfriend is the love of my life! So why won't he tell me he loves me in person?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

- Hey everyone, Hope you're well! Okay so me and my boyfriend who IS the love of my life have been together 14 months now. I love him so much! But I'm starting to wonder whether he loves me anymore? You see he always tells me he loves me by text or over the phone but never... (94 words)

Fingering doesn't turn me on. Am I doing it wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4897 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Hey there! So, I've done minor things with a previous boyfriend of mine who I was with for over a year but whenever he fingered me it didnt feel good at all? Since I've tried to finger myself on my own to experiment as other people say but it just feels like theres something... (132 words)

Please help...I'm in love with my best friend and he won't talk about it!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi :) Here's the thing, I have fallen in love with me best friend (who's a guy), and i don't know if he feels the same. He told me that he likes me, and said that we should think about being together. We started spending more time together, still as friends, then one night at ... (104 words)

Do I just like playing the game of love but when I win get bored?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hello everyone, i would just like to know if i am normal and just an opinion maybe an advice if you can, so here is my story. I'm 18 years old, and I've always been dreaming about real love, watching love movies and all that girlie stuff. I never went out much when i was youn... (746 words)

I want to break up with this lying cheat, but what do I tell him?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've found out that my boyfriend is a lying cheat. However, I found this out by looking through his phone and now I don't know how to confront him because I don't want to reveal that I went behind his back!! What do I do?? Should I just tell him what I done? I want to end the ... (59 words)

My girlfriend's mood swings are a problem for me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Me and my girlfriend have been together for 4 years. She is gorgeous and giving more than 100% to this relationship. But we have one problem, my Girlfriend's unbearable mood swings....one moment she will make me laugh like crazy and after few hours she will start scolding me ... (194 words)

After 3.5 years I find myself in a complacent relationship...or does he just not care anymore?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi Cupids, just wondering, what do you do when you find yourself in a complacent relationship?? I have been in a relationship for 3.5 years to a great guy, loyal, caring but who has stopped making an effort. Or maybe he just doesn't care anymore, I don't know... I'm always t... (229 words)

Who do you talk to about your relationship/dating problems?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4904 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have a huge crush on this girl, but circumstances make it difficult to do anything about it. I want to get some advice, talk to someone about it, hence why I'm posting this. But I want to talk to someone real, someone who knows me. The problem is, my guy friends, if I sa... (149 words)

I'm nervous about asking her out, and wondering what she means by 'don't get too clingy'!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4903 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I have a crush on this coworker, who I have known for nearly a year now. The problem is that because I only started liking her a few months ago, we were already friends. She gives me all the signs of liking me but I think its just her way of showing that she cares for me as a ... (265 words)

What is the best course of action for me, now that he has moved in with his new partner?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hi I have a very long story and not so sure where to start. For two and a half years I've been having an affair with a man. After being friends, we admitted our attraction to one another and agreed to have sex as a "one off" but as time went on we grew closer and it turne... (959 words)

Are all men into kink?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age - I mean, really, dating at age 49 seems like I have to deal with a lot of kink. And they're bloody upfront about it too: I go to a singles dance mixer night last night, and these are the chatty pick up lines blokes used, "what do you like in a man?" "I design fetish ballerina ... (141 words)

I've lost all my confidence in my oral skills!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My bf says he finds oral relaxing rather than a turn on. He enjoys it, but his erection soon goes floppy once I start sucking him off. My ex's have told me I am very good at oral so I don't feel it's entirely my fault. Regardless, it makes me feel awful about myself and often ... (85 words)

I have really fallen for him and it bothers me that he prefers to keep our relationship a secret.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I’ve been seeing this man for nearly four months. He works in a bar that I used to frequent and one night I stayed there until late, all the people left and we were alone. Before all this happened, he was always flirting with me, smiling at me and I knew he liked me. That ... (528 words)

How do I tell him or make it known I don't want to be with him and that friendship is all I want?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4899 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello, I discovered a lad over a trusted website where people of my sexual orientation socialize. A lad message me and I liked his pictures and he seemed an amazing person. I am not over my ex boyfriend sadly even though we broke up 7 months ago. When I finally met ... (159 words)

Please someone explain to me how I can let go, stop texting him and respect myself more?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

- I am driving myself insane over my LDR on/off? thing. Basically, I met a guy from the army six months ago and fell for him. We decided to start a LDR. Last week he was on leave and came to stay with me for a few days. During this time I realised that he wasnt actually what I ... (316 words)

We love each other but he wants to hide our relationship!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hi everyone! after many months im here again. okay here, I have a boyfriend that I really love him so much, he told me love me too as much as I love him, but I cant see any effort from him in our relationship, actually he wants to hide our relationship until he graduates at his ... (145 words)

Should I call him after having sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Hi guys, I met a guy at a party 3 to 4 months back. We met again for a date and we made out but didnt have sex. I also notified him that I am not a "one night stand" sort of person and i am just waiting for the moment. He seem to understand that and we were still meeting ... (410 words)

Does anyone have a clue of what his intentions might be?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hello, I am new to the site, and have a question regarding a new date I had. I met this man online, who seems to have the qualifications I want a potential mate to have. We met once last month at a restaurant. It went quite well. He gave me a kiss on the cheek when we pa... (413 words)

I.m in love with a gangster,but have to leave him?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - hi all. Plz help. I.ve got deeply involved with a criminal who also has loads of baggage. 4 kids,dodgy dealings etc.it started out as a bit of fun,and to give him credit,he did mention what he did,and is saying he,s putting the money into a legal business which he,s ... (208 words)

Is she interested or not?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi guys,ive been on this site for a while,im in a bit of confusion about a girl,we met about a year or two ago at a mutual friends place though i didnt take much notice of her(i found her attractive but didnt pursue coz the ex was kinda in the picture then). Any way i recently ... (243 words)

I've finally accepted that I'm gay, now how do I meet someone?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello Everyone, I am finally accepted that I am bisexual and stop to fight myself and now trying to find some dates but I have no idea how to find guys, gay or bi. I tried many good dating sites, I am currently in Germany and they have really nice websites but you need to pay a... (300 words)

Question for Sagittarius females, insisting or not? If yes, how?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4550 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi there, I am a 31 years old Aries male (with ascendent in Leo) and recently I had an unusual experience with a Sagittarius female. Long story short: I know her for 3 years, but all this time I had another relationship. All this time we were not necessarily good buddie... (254 words)

I just need to get away from my abusive husband once and for all and I don't know how to do it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I've been married for 4 yrs now, separated for almost a yr. First let me start w/a not so brief story. My husband and I dated for less than a yr but from the 1st day we crossed paths in an elevator at work he pursued me and found a way to get close to me. I was young, nai... (818 words)

My boyfriend is making me feel like a prisoner.....what can I do?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4904 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My boyfriend is too controlling.i got a new job as a cabin crew but my boyfriend want me to be pregnant and leave the job if not he will leave me alone.what shall i do?... I am 29, i am living with my boyfrend for 2 years he is 43 and he is separated.he have two children... (380 words)

I can't stand the sight of my husband and I hate feeling this way!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4754 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age - I can't stand the sight of my husband. I dread his return from work every day. Almost everything about him annoys me. His facial expressions, the way he stands, the topics he talks about... My husband is a really good man! He is very loyal and if he knew how I felt, it would ... (325 words)

Is this dream a sign to me

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - had a dream last night and its really bothering me, i dreamt my man had someone on a back burner he knew and was friends with there in his life, just incase things didnt work with us, i was going to text him and tell him this, but he might think i am being silly, but it has ... (358 words)

Random Chat-Ups - What does they mean?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - This is just a bit of a general questioning and open for discussion on the topic of being chatted up.. As a female when men 'hit on you' in the street during the day or in a bar, do you think these types of men are ever genuine or are they the type of men who are always h... (360 words)

Does being bisexual exist in some people?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 4869 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Where can I start. Growing up I kinda found guys more attractive and going through puberty I liked looking at gay porn. I never looked a sexually things with women involved. There were times when i liked girls also. But I never been just fully aroused looking at a woman ... (334 words)

I can't figure out his feelings towards me

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - hi heres my problem i like this man but he has been very hurt before he says he doesnt want a relationship as he has just split up with someone after 10 year nearly a year ago now i really like him we started seeing each other for 2 month and it was really good but he broke it ... (168 words)

If the embassy is going to deny my visa would they tell me right away?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4905 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - hey, i'm lebanese, my gf is filippina, i'm gonna visit her this summer, that;s why i applied for a tourist visa: -i'm a 22 years old woman (student) -i've beem to france(12 yo) and syria(21 yo) -i mentioned i gave them all the papers they need, but the thing is, they... (163 words)

Boyfriend won't call everyday but always answers his phone if I call. Why?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4903 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm confused. My boyfriend of 7 months has been away for 2 months for work. He doesn't call me every day despite the fact that I've made it clear I would like him to. However, he DOES pick up his phone no matter what time I call. (i just don't want to be the initiator all th... (317 words)

What does it mean when a guy does that?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - me and this guy have been on and off and he always said he cared about me, wants to be with me. but one time i was realy frustrated and hurt by his lack of seeing me and i asked him to just tell me he liked me, he liked sleeping with me but he didnt care about me romanticly he ... (137 words)

Am I over reacting,or is he playing me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - Hi all. Your advice please!i.ve been seeing this guy for around 4 months,and am quite attached to him. Anyway,can u tell me if i.m overeacting or if he,s messing me around after the following. I came back from going away to visit family yesterday. He called me on my way bk,and ... (156 words)

Sick of my husband's obsession with fashion and the fact that he is constantly trying to get me to lose weight

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Dear All, This is a really complicated situation, but i have been with my husband for three years and we are still in love although there are a few things i really hate about him and a strange thing he did yesterday. Some background, 1. Fashion addiction, he is always asking ... (492 words)

Men: What's the difference in how you treat a serious GF and a wife?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4907 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Question for the married men: What is the difference in how you treated your wife when she was your serious girlfriend/fiance - and when she became your wife? I'm asking because I'm in a monogamous relationship for 6 months. We both say we love each other, etc, but I'm ju... (125 words)

I am still madly in love with him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4907 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'm only sixteen, but when I was growing up as a child, I was always around my older brother (who is now 20) and his friends. I grew up with one of his bestfriends, Josh (who is now 19). Me and my brother had been living at my grandparents, and coincidentally, Josh lived ... (557 words)

Am I slutty for making out with a co-worker?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F) - My coworker and i made out last year..the kisses seemed soft and sensual, we cuddled..he kissed my forehead a few times..i didn't sleep with him though..i knew i would feel used afterwards and i am not a one night stand type of girl..the kissing and other stuff i can deal ... (364 words)

Worried about my boyfriends drug use?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently discovered that my boyfriend has been experimenting with drugs a bit, and is interested in trying more. We had a conversation about it, which I initiated, and he seemed very uncomfortable telling me about it. He could sense I disliked the idea, and asked me if how ... (264 words)

We can't move forward because I can't trust him

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F) age 41-50 - How long does it take for a person to trust her significant other? Relationships are base on trust, but if the trust never existed; how do you build on it? How long does it take? I am asking b/c I am in a relationship where trust has always been an issue. He lied to me more ... (96 words)

I feel like telling them all the truth about their partners!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I used to never care and never get angry. Now everything irrtates me. I can't stand half of my friends. I used to be chill and let people act however they wanted, but now I just don't care. I'm actually revangful now. Kind of feel like getting back on everyone. Not in a psycho ... (166 words)

I am so hurt, why do I let him do this to me?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - We've been seeing each other on and off for a few months. We've slept together but he still doesn't want to be in a relationship with me. He keeps coming in and out of my life. It had been a month and out of the blue he contacted me again. I'm heartbroken, I don't understand. ... (326 words)

He told his friend he wanted a break but didn't tell me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4903 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I have a boyfriend...we been together a year...just the other day i confronted him about one of him and his females friends n how he be talking to her...he called her "sweetums" and he never called meh that...at least i cant recall. i felt kinda bad but i didnt say nothing ... (230 words)

Is there any way for this relationship to maybe return from sexual interest to our original real connection?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met a guy on the internet a few months ago, and he and I have been talking regularly ever since. Since day one, I really feel like the two of us have had a connection. Everything clicks. But recently things have taken a turn from genuine interest towards the sexual, and I can ... (200 words)

I've just realized that I like her -- what next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4881 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 26-29 - Hey everyone, Another girl problem but this time a different girl is in the question. She is this girl who moved to our school last october, she and this guy hit it off and went out for like 2 months which I didn't really take any notice in cause this guy is my friend and I di... (206 words)

Is it my fault she reacted this way? Or is she over-reacting?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hello (first of all , sorry for my poor english) So, this will be a little bit of talk about ... the so called "internet" love. (shes from Germany, im from Spain) Im a 18 year old dude and at this time i broke with my current GF for 5 days I met this girl on a for... (512 words)

Why did he like me then reject me so swiftly?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4899 days ago

17 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hey. My question is more of a story and then a question, just so whoever reads this has some background information of how I've ended up in the situation which I'm in now. So hear we go. I am 17 and have been for a while trying to find some new people which I can date, and ju... (769 words)