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writes:My boyfriend has 2 sons from a previous relationship. He has brought them over to visit for weekends a couple of times now. They make a huge mess and don’t clean up, won’t help with dishes although they are quite old enough, and have broken a few things in my house too.Last weekend they cut a hole in a mattress and I found chewing gum stuck to the wall.Their dad will discipline them if he catches them being naughty but untidiness and anything they don’t get caught out in he just lets go by. I told him about the chewing gum etc. and he didn’t even apologise or offer to help with cleaning up or repairs.I can’t take this any more and he does nothing to help.Should I rather just leave him and them to their chaotic existence? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2011): HiHe is wrong for letting them get away with this (nepotism)and you should not have to put up with it. My partner has four ,one came to live with us, he never washed a dish, never made his bed, never cleaned up,let bags of rubbish pile up in his room, he in fact did all this on purpose to try and cause trouble. deliberately tried to trash the place bit by bit, as i decorated and deliberately never flushed the toilet. I was very good to him and he just wanted to stir trouble up because papa was with another woman, however he hid it well at first. After a few months of his badness I told him to get his things and get out. The end result a fall out but all okay now, he now knows his childish nasty tactics never worked.It is so important that this is nipped in the bud now by the father AND YOU or you will have so much strife. NEPOTISM. spunky monkey
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2011): Sit down with your boyfriend and his son`s and make it clear that their untidyness and their destroying of other peoples belongings is unacceptable in your home,and if they are not willing to listen or accept the rules you lay down then it may be time to look at your relationship and if need be let your boyfriend go
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2011): Simple answer to your question....leave him!!
It's pretty obvious he won't discipline his children when they are wrong especially when they are in someone elses house, what if you two move in together? If this is how he lets them behave now then imagine how he will let them behave then! You are clearly not happy so leave him and try and meet someone that will treat you better!!
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Do you think this situation will get any better?
You are putting yourself up for a life of misery - WALK!
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