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female
age
36-40,
*ot Wanting to Be Upset
writes:OK. My boyfriend and I have been together for a couple months and everything has been amazing.....until now. We dont spend as much time together anymore (due to life - work, home, etc) so the time we get together is really important to me. On Monday I found out that work changed the schedule this week and "our day together" was not gonna happen. I was very upset - especially since his friend kept showing up the week before (uninvited) and we pretty much didnt have much "couple" time. Monday night his friend showed up again and didnt leave until we went to bed. His friend had the next 4 days to see him when I couldnt but still showed up that night. It is really starting to bother me because I need/want time with him and his friend keeps taking the little bits of time i get with him. I am starting to dislike his friend for this and I am having a really hard time getting over it. I have talked to my boyfriend about this but I still dont trust his friend to not show up. It is interfering with my time with him, our sex life, and now because I am getting so upset we are - not so much arguing, but our relationship is not as happy and fulfilling. Please help. I cannot cope with this, I dont want to loose him, and I dont know how to get his friend to respect that he cannot always show up when he feels like it (and its hard to turn him away cause he calls when he is already at the house).
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 July 2011): A very tough question.. You might need to ask your partner to have a talk with his friend, perhaps impose 'our time' or curfew on visitors.. Introduce his friend to one of yours ;)?
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