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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

How do I be kinky during sex?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4921 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Alright so recently my boyfriend has asked me to try doing different things during sex, like being rough with him. At first I wasn't comfortable with it but I eventually got over it and tried. I sucked. Really hard. He wasn't mad over it but I could tell he was disappointed. ... (126 words)

Pregnant by abusive BF who drinks every night and tried to get me to strip for his friends... but I love him and want to help him change

This question has 21 answers - newest was posted 4917 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - me and my boyfriend have been living together for 2 months now after 6 months of being together. The 6 months where incredible best 6 months of my life and he really and truly did treat me like a princess but ever since we started living together he changed, at first everythi... (201 words)

How do I tell my shy husband that I want to experiment with sex?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - My husband and I have been together for about 5 years. We were both virgins when we got together. How do I explain to him that I want to explore sex further? We both come off as shy in the bedroom, so how do I explain to him that I want to watch porn with him? How do I tell him ... (80 words)

Is my bf being overprotective or just very caring? And should I stay with him even though my family & friends hate him?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4918 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My relationship with my boyfriend has been great. He is such a great guy and he is my first love. We have recently moved in together but since the move he has started becoming weird like becoming over protective and making excuses for me to stop in with him when i have made ... (163 words)

My best friend is sleeping with my older brother, and they don't know I know. How am I supposed to react??

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4918 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Okay so me and my female best friend have been friends for years and we are incredibly close. Lately she has been distant with me as if she is hiding something from me. Then the other day i caught her and my 24 year old brother making out outside the club. However, we were all ... (219 words)

My best friend since kindergarten now says he likes me, and I see him as a brother...AND I have a bf! What to do??

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hey i just need advice on to how to deal with this situation. Me and my best friend who is male have been best friends since kindergarden and we have been together through high school but lately he has been saying his feelings for me are getting beyond a friend and since... (160 words)

She says she wants to be friends but I feel like she is blowing me off all the time!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - So, dated this girl a while back, but I always tried to keep in touch. She said she wanted to still hang out and stuff, but she never initiates contact.(none of my friends ever contact me, not unless they need something or something bad has happened, never to talk or hang out) ... (328 words)

Should I set my heart on this one girl if I am doing 'bad guy stuff'?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4921 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Hi everyone, basically i need some moral advice on how to act to women. I'm 18 and so far have been lucky enough to be in love twice. I was with my first girlfriend for 18 months, i was head over heels, wanted to have a future and all that..then out of the blue i got dumped f... (495 words)

Is he being truthful, is there hope or should I just walk away?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4893 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I recently went through a break up with a guy I was with for 3 months. We knew each other for about 4 months before we dated, but only through a coffee house and as much as you can get to know someone at karaoke once a week. I knew the whole time that he had a girlfrie... (326 words)

Shall I give him the silent treatment after him not replying to my text?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4921 days ago

1 July 2011 (?) age 41-50 - I've been seeing this guy pretty regularly for the past 6 months now. We normally go out 2-4 times a week and text every day or so. Anyway, we last met on Mon and he said' we'd meet on Fri, late afternoon. Cool. So, I organized my chores and duties in order to actually be free ... (197 words)

Should I stay with him until I leave or leave him now?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm leaving my boyfriend of about 10 months to go to school in October. I decided that it was too painful to be with him knowing I was leaving and I wanted to break up. It's not the only reason, but it's the main one. I also found out that he slept with his ex the first month ... (310 words)

Should I end it with my boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend of 4 months is becoming unreliable and a bit of a let down when it comes to going out to places that we had organised, with or without other friends. He says he can do it then suddenly changes his mind. we agrue about it until the point is across that he doesnt ... (146 words)

How can I advise my lecturer that he needs to stop seeing another student?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Please cupid friends how will i advice this my lecturer that is very close to me that he should stop being in a relationship with his student because they don't respect him any more. Please any advice cos he take me like his daughter, so i want to help him out with a good ... (61 words)

How can I find out if he's actually into me, or even my gender for that matter, without coming right out and saying it?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy about 2 weeks ago, and he is absolutely adorable in every way. The last time we hung out, we were extremely intoxicated, and things got a little intimate. We did not have any form of sex, but we kissed and touched. I was euphoric and over-joyed, but how do I know ... (159 words)

He said not to call him, fine! But why does he keep calling me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I broke up we my boyfriend of a year. He's 36 I'm 19. We broke up because he didn't have time for me and he's not the into me no more. I pretty much annoyed him most of the time. I decided that I don't want to be with someone that would be mean to me all the time. He said to ... (315 words)

Is it illegal to have gay sex at 16?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4920 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Ok, i'm a lesbian and recently i started going out with my best friend, we made out once and we've been on several dates now for about 2 months, but now she wants to take it further, i agreed to do it at hers next weekend, but i was sort of drunk when she asked, i love my ... (130 words)

How do I start? Are there ways to recognise if the signs are right for it to become a relationship or not?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I don't know how to start relationships. After a few dates I always find I want more. This time I went on a date to the cinema and we chatted after. We are now apparently boyfriend and girlfriend but he has only text me once today (we started bf n gf yesterday) and is going to ... (104 words)

What are the best ways to gently break the news to my Bf that I'm not having this baby?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I need advice on how to break the news to my bf that i want a termination of our pregnancy:( We've been together 9 months, and despite being on the contraceptive pill, i've found out i'm 6 wks pregnant. My bf was initially stunned, but having had a few days to think, is now ... (224 words)

Stay, make memories and then be heartbroken? Or break it off and avoid even more heartbreak later?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - Im 15, and ive been seeing an 18 year old for the last month, 'seeing' someone is basically seeing how it goes, not in a relationship. the only problem with this is, its been a month and he doesn't talk to me as much as i would like.. and he doenst show much interest. but when ... (202 words)

How do I prove to him I'm not going to cheat like his exes?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i met this man in march at first it seemed like he wanted us to be a proper couple i went for a night out with my friends i was texting him while i was out but he seemed like he didnt want me texting him so i stopped and the next day he texted me asking if i met someone i said ... (183 words)

We both got totally drunk and my wife was lying naked next to another guy!

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I went with my wife to a party this past weekend and we got completely wasted, neither of us remember the later parts of the night. But all I know is that when I woke up my wife was nowhere near me. When I looked around the house for her, I found her in the bedroom of the ... (192 words)

We hardly spend anytime together and when we do we jump straight to sex..what can I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I started messing around with a guy in April, we started dating in May. It's been almost 2 months goin out with him. But when it all started everything was PERFECT and it was amazing. 3 weeks after we started goin out things started changing... We never have any "special... (190 words)

Should I stay friends with my ex?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F) - My boyfriend of about a yr and 1/2 just broke up with me. I am 20. He made me grow. He was my first love. I felt so comfortable with him and I trust him. He said that he fell out of love with me but still loves me and wants the best for me. He wants to be best friends. He ... (92 words)

What is more pleasurable?

This question has 20 answers - newest was posted 4921 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Just out of curiosity what is more pleasurable vaginal or anal sex for both the guy and the girl?... (19 words)

She has torn my family apart but will not speak to her family about our relationship!

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 4903 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-left-my-wife-for-her-and-now.html this is my previous post.... now to update a little... i have received 3 phone calls this week from ELF and she has finally told me her reasons for ending it: She didnt want to disappoint her pare... (274 words)

Should I just leave it now and wait? He is driving me crazy!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I met this guy Jake at the start of March this year. We got together on the night that we met and from then on he pretty much tried everything to get me. At first i was a bit standoffish because i had just been messed over by a previous guy. After a while i realised hes a nice ... (1133 words)

I feel like I am sacrificing a lot and he is not having to sacrifice anything! Am I being selfish?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4921 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - In a long distance relationship for 2 years. When my fiancé and I got engaged we agreed that I would move to his city he has a son there from a previous relationship and I don’t have children. It would be reasonably easy for me to find a job there in my line of work, while it ... (162 words)

I feel like I am a bad partner because I lack a sex drive!

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4901 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - my last question was about shemale porn and my husband, and I had wonderful replies so I am back. my new issue is my lack in the bedroom. I got that one of the reasons that he watched (or is still watching, I don't know anymore) the shemale porn was because they were really ... (166 words)

FWB who has moved to another state, wants to take our relationship to the next level. Now he wants nude pics of mine. Thoughts?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4920 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So here's my dilemma, I a 20yr old woman and last year I left a 4yr relationship and I knew I wanted to be single for a while but as we all know not everything goes as planned. A few months after my break up I met a 23yr old guy in November and even though there was instant ... (390 words)

We both cheated on each other and now there are some serious trust issues!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 51-59 - I recently got back together with my baby's mamma. we have two daughters together 3yr and 6yr..Also she more or less is stepmother to my oldest from another relashionship. So were together 6 or 7 yr when I lost our house and she was left to take care of our daughters, while I ... (288 words)

My married lover now wants a threesome!

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4919 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age - I have been in a "relationship" with a married man for 7 years. We see each other every now and again and really enjoy each other physically, emotionally and psychologically. He was always honest with regards to his status and that was fine with me. I am a single mother who ... (220 words)

Should I go to the cinema with my ex? I'm not sure I can do it again.....

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My ex boyfriend dumped me cos he said he didn't want a relationship. He asked to be friends but I told him I can't be his friend cos I love him to much. He said ok and I deleted him off my phone. After 5weeks he rang me saying he's sorry for everything he's done. He say... (133 words)

BF is lying to me and using my money!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - i became close friends with a guy 3 years ago and helped him loads, financially and wih work. hes always told white lies but thryve become black lies. for example 3 weeks ago he asked me to check his resume on his email and i did but also noticed emails from a girl he said was... (293 words)

Concerns about foreplay!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4900 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ok im just going to state my concerns right away. I have met this girl like 3 monthes ago long distance. WE talk something like 6-8 hours a day. I am going to go see her in december. My problem is that my ex did certain stuff that she does not like. We have talked about what ... (156 words)

I have problems getting on with other women!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4919 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a major issue which has been bothering me for a while and honest brutal answers would be much appreciated. I am a 30 year old woman. I am good looking, I take care of my body, eat well and believe in being the best that I can be. I am hardworking and also very successful ... (195 words)

Have I scared him away with my behaviour? What should I do now?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4906 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hello all I need some advice. I was seeing a man for 15 months when he ended it and told me that e cared for me but could not give me what I wanted. He told me that he wanted to stay friends. I have never stayed friends with and ex before and initially told him that it wasn... (399 words)

Will there be something wrong with my baby? Will I be able to keep it a secret that my cousin is the father?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4914 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - i am currently 7 weeks pregnant by my first cousin but please dont judge me i had no idea he was my cousin till i found out at a funeral but anyways i dont believe in abortion but i wanna no what are the chances of something wrong happening to my baby also does anyone think its ... (72 words)

Any advice for talking/dancing with girls?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I've recently turned 18 so I've been going out clubbing and to pubs more often. I'm single, and I see a lot of girls there that I am far too shy to talk to! I have REALLY low confidence and I think I'm too ugly for anyone to notice me. Plus, the guys I go out with are really ... (85 words)

I cant understand why he wants a break!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4914 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - hi, i am in a relationship with a divorcee. he is already divorced. since 5 years i have given him everything. all sought of support mentally, physically and he is satisfied with me. with passage of time he starts saying i want a break in this relation i will call when h... (94 words)

She has let me back into her life a little, how do I get her back from here?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4919 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - advice required. ive previously asked for help with the situation with my x the woman i loved. basically over the course of last 6/7 years ive constantly flirted, emailed, texted other women and messed around, never once have i done anything thou. she ended our relation... (427 words)

How can I stop cheating on my boyfriend?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4919 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - a few months ago i broke up with my boyfriend of two years because he wasnt giving me enough attention or spending any time with me and he also hadnt called in two weeks.even though i was hurt,during the time we werent together i met other guys and started dating.i was just ... (239 words)

I tried to be perfect for him but nothing seems to be enough.....

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Ive been in a relationship with my bf for 7 yrs now. Well it has been rough for us this psst years and sometimes we argue almost everyday. I feel so tired of fighting with him. He always tells me that I have a very bad attitude. I don't know what he meant by that since I'm ... (161 words)

Does he just want to be with me again for sex? What is going on in his head?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - How do I get over this guy? I've liked him since 6th grade and we just recently graduated from high school. He is also one of my best friends. We had dated for a month and a half this year. We even went to prom together. I was happy in the relationship, but we started to get ... (303 words)

Why do people think I'm a gold digger just because I have an older husband? And how do I deal with his mother and sisters?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4917 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - why when people see a younger women with a older man they thing shes a gold digger? im 24 years old and my husband is 45, i met him when i was 17 years old. we started dating soon after never had sex or anything will until after we got married he waited on me until i was ready ... (170 words)

We were together 5 years and he never wanted to move in with me, but now he is living with a girl he hardly knows!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - ok so me and my ex broke up 2 yrs ago.. We were together for 5 yrs.. We had a good relationship, we hardly ever fought.. Family loved me..everything was good so I thought he lost my trust I couldn't trust him so why be with someone u can't trust right.. It hurt ending our ... (152 words)

How do I get my teacher out of my head and make sure this doesn't happen again?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4918 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - so I've liked my teacher for about 2 1/2 years since grade 8 something like that. Anyways i'm done jr.high now and even though I've only been off for a day or two i miss him terribly,last day of school i gave him a hug and that felt like closer but it didn't work. the last week ... (141 words)

He still hasn't kissed me! Should I carry on waiting or make the first move myself?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - okay so my bf and i have been dating for 2 months and we still havent kissed!! isnt that weird? anyway hes told me he wanted to many times but he knows im waiting for him to kiss me first and make the first move.. im just wondering if i should continue to wait for him to make ... (70 words)

I miss him but I can't forgive him!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4915 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - So I have been friends with this guys for a few years. Then we started flirting and it went far. We talked about the flirting and what we thought about it and what we thought about dating each other. Then we made a deal if I would go to this thing with him he would go to t... (194 words)

Should I start dating?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Ive been wondering for awhile if I should get into the dating world or not. Ive been mainly focused on college, work, and building my career and lately ive been thinking since im young and such what should I do? Iam 20 years old and iam a virgin so dating right now would pose a ... (183 words)

Am I doing the right thing by cutting him off?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4921 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 26-29 - I'll just jump right into it. I dated this guy. I completely fell head-over-heels for him. In a few short weeks I was infatuated with him. We dated for about a month and a half before breaking up for complicated reasons. He said he wanted me, but that now isn't the right ti... (376 words)

Why wont he take his profile down from an online dating site?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age - I just got back with my boyfriend and he is still on match.com. I know he is not active on there but his profile is posted and he is still a paying member. And women can contact him. You know last time we broke up he stayed posted on there too and i had to tell him Hey what ... (194 words)

We have a great relationship except for the fact that I am just his girlfriend, and he doesn't EVER want to marry me.

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 4921 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 51-59 - I hope someone can help me with this problem. I am back in the dating scene after 10 years of marriage. I NEVER thought I would want to get married again, but I have found someone that I don't want to live without. When we began dating, I made it clear I didn't want a r... (399 words)

My f*** buddy is confusing me! Help!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4922 days ago

1 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok so in December my co worker introduced me to a guy that she used to date a while ago. we hung out on a few dates but one night he invited me over his house and we ended up f***ing. he told me that he wasn't ready nor had time for a relationship and he just wanted to be f*** ... (503 words)