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Dear Cupid: Relationship help and advice

Is it normal that I bleed a little?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi, i have a little question. Im a virgin but have been finered about twice by my boyfriend. After he fingered me today, i went to the toilet and noticed blood on my knickers. Is that normal? I am due my period in a few days however i dont think its that because, i usually ... (87 words)

Why did he move on so fast after he said he wanted to be single?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I was dating this guy for a little while not that long then he broke up with me saying i became too clingy and that he doesn't want to be with anyone for a while but it has been two days i called him and he had someone over and he hung up in my favce and that was a week ago my ... (109 words)

Worried all the time bout relationship

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4893 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I got this problem which is really annoying. I'm always terrified that my girlfriend is going to dump me or stop loving me. Even the smallest action sends me into worrying and i have to physically stop my self from calling and txting her all the time to make sure its all okay. ... (82 words)

Husband caught playing "sexual chicken" now what?

This question has 19 answers - newest was posted 4882 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I've been married to my husband for over a year. Two months ago I found a sexually explicit text on his phone (I wasn't snooping, it displayed the text when I plugged his phone in the charger. You can bet I snooped after that, though). It was from a woman he's known longer than ... (360 words)

I was too controlling with my ex and now I really regret it!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'll try to keep this as short as possible. I dated this girl who I was very controlling over. I sincerely regret it, but I think I've ruined any chance I have with her. I can't stop thinking about her. (This may sound weird or creepy, but I don't mean it to be, I swear) I ... (200 words)

Boyfriend has aftershave that ex gave him and I don't like it

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I know this sounds ridiculous, but my boyfriend has this aftershave that his ex-gf bought him and when he wears it it makes me really angry inside. He obviously doesn't know this because I would look like a joke. He's wearing it more and more and it makes being intimate hard ... (82 words)

FWB--I'm scared I'm in too deep

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4782 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - About a year ago I was just getting out of a 3 year drammatic relationship when I met this guy. We had mutual friends and instantly clicked, so after a few drinks one night we ended up hooking up. Neither wanted anything serious as he was getting out of a relationship as well. ... (476 words)

Any tips on how to achieve orgasm through vaginal sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Hi guys, i am a 21 year old female. iv been with my boyfriend about 6 months and we have been having sex for a few months now. iv had previuos sexual partners before him. but one thing thats really been bothering my boyfriend is that he can't make me orgasm during pene... (120 words)

Is this guy just being nice? Or does he like me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have a guy friend who is from my hometown and I've known for a long time, although we were never close but just had mutual friends. I always thought he was cute, and invited him as my date to a wedding a year ago. Since then, we would talk via email, text and facebook from ... (262 words)

Do you think my ex boyfriend is gay?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4891 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - So I think my ex boyfriend is gay, and just hasnt came out the closet yet. I also think thats why he comes coming back to me. Not because I look like a man. lol But because I do the things he wants me to do. So here are the things he has done or asked me to do. 1) his best guy... (291 words)

Is a guy cheating if he comes up with a new position after not having had sex for a while?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - If guy comes up with a brand new position after not having sex for a while with his partner, does it mean that he is cheating and he discovered it with someone else? ... (33 words)

I feel so lonely, how do I get her to love me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (?) age 36-40 - Hi...its not to offend any lesbian/gay/bisexual people. Its just me. I'm so tired of myself. I keep fantasizing about older women. I was in love with an Aries or still am. its been for years and i think I'm over her. I only loved her and dint find any girl attractive but ... (285 words)

Fiance made a rather unexpected confession...he slept with an ex in the early stage of our relationship.....

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - My fiance has made a rather unexpected confession: one of his ex-girlfriends was actually a one night stand AND he slept with her during our early relationship stage (after our 2nd, or 3rd date). I normally wouldn't be upset over this. I do understand that you're allowed to ... (347 words)

Can two completely different people work it out and stay together? Or is this a lost cause?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm confused. I've been with my bf for 3 years.we live together. He's a great guy and would make a great father/husband. However lately we've been fighting because I'm ready to have a baby and he's not.(i'm 28, he's 30). we argue about money because he thinks i have too much ... (126 words)

I really want to hook up with her and maybe be her friend! Help me!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - There's this girl who lives at my sister in-law's place, she is probally at the age I am, she started to live there few weeks ago, she didn't grew up there she is only a relative, her purpose of coming to live there is to look after and stay with her grandfather.. here is the ... (201 words)

Boyfriend's tattoo of his ex wife's name on his neck - is it unreasonable of me to want it removed or covered?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm 29 and he is 37. We have been together for just over 3 months but i'm already in love like never before. He was with his ex for about 12 years and a few years ago got her name tattooed on his neck in large letters. He has said he thought they would be together forever ... (201 words)

I can't feel any sexual pleasure. So scared it's something unfixable!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I'm currently having problems with my sex life. I'm almost 20, and I've been with my boyfriend awhile now, but I can't feel any sexual pleasure. This isn't a "I don't feel sex" or "I don't feel it sometimes" It is Never. He is the first boyfriend I've ever told, and he is ... (167 words)

Any advice for my situation? Never had a girlfriend and need some new social outlets.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I've been going through a bit of a rough spot, maybe some of you will have some words of wisdom. I'll try to keep this as concise as possible. I've been having a really hard time meeting girls since graduating from high school. I'm a fairly quiet 23 year old guy and I'm very... (411 words)

I need your opinion on wedding invitation protocol.

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - I need your opinion on wedding invitation protocol. My wife has this male friend, who for a short time was her boyfriend, and they still stayed friends, even now. When my wife and I got married 3 years ago, we invited him (big of me I know), but he was single at the time, so ... (267 words)

It's very difficult and hard to get over him when I see him every day!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I was with a a man for 18 months but we ended the relationship 8 weeks ago. A week after we split up he told me that he missed me but it was never acted on. Initially I didnt want to stay friends even though we work together and i knew id see him every day at work. He persuaded ... (334 words)

I'm not a leech!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in a 5 year relationship with my bf and two kids a 16 month old and a 3 year old, living together in his house. We have been having tough times since we only have one income, he works and i stay at home with the kids. I have been looking for a job from home, online since i ... (338 words)

The "Runaway:" is it likely that a person would stay in a relationship for over 4 years if they weren't really interested?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Is it likely that a person would stay in a relationship for over 4 years if they weren't really interested? Would a person waste this much time with someone they didn't really want? I was in a confusing relationship for this amount of time and could never really work out ... (235 words)

We're working on fixing things but his ex is still a big concern for me!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4879 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I have been with this guy going on two years, living together the last year. We have been described as being "each others opposites." He's very serious, already has his next five years of his life and finances planned out, introverted, and it's such a reward when he loosens up ... (975 words)

Should I tell my fiancée I kissed a girl at my bachelor party?

This question has 17 answers - newest was posted 4891 days ago

28 July 2011 (?) age 41-50 - Hi, one creepy loser here. I'm getting married at the end of August and had my bachelor party last weekend. To cut a long story short I got extremely drunk at the party and kissed another girl. It lasted less than a few seconds and nothing more happened, but in the cold ligh... (323 words)

Have I missed my chance to ask her out and does she see us as just friends?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - Alright this is kind of a 2 part question, so there is this girl i had met at university who i really liked and coincidentally she lived in the room next to mine in residence so we got to know one another by the end of the year. So here is my problem, for most of the school y... (258 words)

I am finding it so difficult to move on....do I stand a chance?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - I'm extremely depressed right now. To introduce myself, i'm a 17-year old gay man who has been in love with my ex-best friend till now. I have liked a number of guys in my life before, and none had worked out (They either found out and started to avoid me, or cursed me etc). ... (1523 words)

He feels like the love of my life...and I just don't know what to do!

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4888 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have lost the man I have loved the most and whom I still think is "the one". We are both 29. We had an instant connection and our relationship was fantastic. We shared so many things in common and really supported one another in each other's dreams, and just had a blast ... (1631 words)

He's not paying me the attention he used too....should I be worried?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Dear Cupid, Lately, I've been feeling unimportant. I mean, like i don't even matter, to him anymore. Like my fiance has no interest in me anymore! When we first started going out, he was all lovey dovey with me and now, I'm the one who always initiates us kissing, holding ... (260 words)

How can we help our son?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4893 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age - Our 19-year-old son recently "came out" to us, and we both told him that we would accept him whatever - gay, straight, bisexual. However, he's told us that although he knows he's gay, he told us it's innate, he wants to get rid of his homosexual feelings, he said it doesn't ... (123 words)

Stick it out? Or end things now?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4888 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Hey, I need some advice on whether I should stick things out in my current relationship or end things now, because I feel I am starting to fall out of love with my bf. We've been together 10 months, and had both been single for a year before meeting each other through fr... (955 words)

Do husbands and/or boyfriends ever regret cheating on their spouse?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I would like to hear the mens point of view. How did you feel after you cheated? Do you regret it? Why?... (22 words)

Has she really moved on this time? Is there a way I can get this back on track?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - Hi everyone; I was in a 5 years relationship with my exgf i reckon she had either borderline personality disorder or some sort of disorder because its not normal to brake up and get back together so many times. I cant resist her because im hooked up and cant give up :((. ... (636 words)

How do I get over my fear of getting hurt?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (?) age 26-29 - Hi! I really like this boy and he likes me. But he's kind of a player.. and we live pretty far from each other. Um, i'm not afraid to love but i'm afraid to get hurt. I mean, he says i'm amazing and stuff but i'm so afraid that next week or maybe a week after that, he'll ... (110 words)

For the ladies: Any advice on dating an older man?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - This is a short and sweet one - does anyone have any advice on dating an older man? I have recently met a lovely 39 year old man (I am 24) and we have been on a few dates, everything is going great so far and we are getting on really well. The age difference doesnt feel at a... (203 words)

How do I impress my professor without having to suck up to him?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I am a college-student. I've narrowly missed a frst class in my BA because of rigourous under-grading by a particular professor of mine. The professor in question is overly strict and perfectionist to the core, which is but natural in way, since he's sort of a genius in his ... (213 words)

I don't want to leave him and find that most men out there are cheaters and liars with no morals!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - Are there any decent, loyal men out there? I am currently with one and although I am treated well and he would never cheat on me, the relationship lacks passion. we have sex so rarely as he does not have a high sex drive and is more happy to cuddle and spoon etc. I am thin... (121 words)

How can you tell if you are a good kisser?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - Ok I,m 19 years old but i never had much experience with fellas I only ever kissed 2 guys before but I,m being set up with a new friends brother and we,re meeting tonight. The thing is I don't know if i,m a good kisser let alone anything else. I kinda like this guy bu... (99 words)

How long can we be engaged for before actually getting married?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 36-40 - i want to get engaged to my girlfriend I want to get engaged to my girlfriend, but i dont think i'll be ready for marrige for the next 3 years... I got some advice from my friends, and they told me that its not a nice thing to get engaged to my girlfriend when I am not goin... (103 words)

How do you find a person to love?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - How do you find a person to love? That is my question. I'm unhappily, very unhappily married. Never been happy in fact. I just want to love. Is it too much to ask? I love somebody now who's deeply committed to his fiance'. So,there is no chance in hell for me. We have an o... (166 words)

Am I being a drama queen? I threw him about because of his flirting with this girl and his dream about having sex with her!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - i have been with my boyfriend for over a year. a few months a go this girl he used to work with text him saying her boyfriend dumped her she'd sent it to her phone book slagging him off so didnt think anything of it .then a few days later when he was at mine he got a text and ... (220 words)

What have I done so wrong?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F) age 41-50 - whats the best way for me to handle this. im so down at the mo. everyday at work theres always someone ready to make me the butt of their jokes. noone likes me because i work really hard and say i will make them look bad so im viewed as a social leper. when i try and join in im ... (178 words)

Whats the problem......why don't I want to have sex? Do I not love him? Am I not attracted to him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4884 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - ive been going out with my boyfriend for 11 months and im a virgin and hes not. im 16 hes 18 (hes not pushy At ALL) im afraid because for some reason early this month i wasnt sure how i felt about him..i was feeling that i maybe should be his friend because i didnt know why i ... (165 words)

Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Would you be embarrassed if your husband did this? I was invited to a cosmetic party along with another friend. All participated have their husbands and kids there because we all knew each other. My husband also went along. Important info: the person who host it (who send... (343 words)

Is it worth sacrificing the sexual excitement for some nice loving companionship?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age - I have met this lovely woman who has all the personality attributes I want I think so far. She wants to be my girlfriend but she's vey bad at sex. She's either stiff as a board or moves awkwardly. This ultimately results in my getting a softie. Her explanation is that she was ... (97 words)

Why do I still feel like this 18 months on and how can I get better?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4896 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - How do I get over an old ex? My ex left me nearly 18 months a go and I don't think I have got over him yet. He has a new girlfriend and I have seen a few men and slept with way too many since the split. But no amount of new men will get him out of my head. I dream about all the ... (135 words)

What's my problem: my appearance or my attitude towards sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - Dear cupid, what is wrong with me? I am 30 yrs old female, physically handicapped and I use one axillary crutch to move and I am petit. I have nice features or at least I think!I mean, I am not unsightly:)This is the problem: I have never had a boyfriend. I have missed two guys ... (315 words)

How do I break up with my first serious boyfriend?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 4565 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - I want to break up with my bf of a year. Nothing has 'happened' as such to trigger this, just a general sense of,no, I dont want to spend the rest of my life with this person. He talks of marriage and kids, and I do love him, and always have, and there is no unfaithfulness. Is ... (111 words)

Can a romantic gay-straight relationship work?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 4807 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 30-35 - So, I am 20 and gay and my best friend is 21 and straight. We started chillin in high school and never thought much of it but we spent almost every day together and as a result we have fallen in love with eachother. At first I thought I just had a gay crush on him, but then he ... (426 words)

Settling down......

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4892 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 36-40 - I need some advice about 'settling down' Okay so I'm 25 and my whole life pretty much ive been single. This is because I live in a fantasy world. I believe in a romance with a guy I'm attracted to and wana share my most intimate life stories with. I've had a million crushes ... (429 words)

How can I attract better men? And how do I forget about the ex-con I dated?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I met a guy last year and into this year, who was an ex-con, but seemed like a good guy who came from an abusive childhood. He came on very strong, saying that he was falling in love with me, began fixing things in my apartment, talking about moving in with me, etc. He never ... (671 words)

He treats me like his sister! How do I get him to notice me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4872 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I have the biggest crush on a guy that's my age and we have know each other for 4 years. we flirt and play around but nothing more, he treats me like I'm his sister and even suggest guys to date. my question is how do I get him to even notice I'm even alive and attracted to him ... (66 words)

Is the relationship worth fighting for? He believes everyone else before me!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - I'm in love with a guy that believes what everyone in the streets is telling him when he's out of town before he believes me. he will not apologize when he finds it that it is all a lie. my question is in the relationship is it worth fighting for or should I just leave it alone... (57 words)

I cant stop thinking she is going to cheat or something is going to happen with her ex! Help!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4892 days ago

28 July 2011 (M) - I just got with a girl (been together for 4 months) and lately i've been feeling really insecure with her. lately i've been going crazy thinking she is going to cheat on me or if she gets back into contact with her ex. She has a child with her ex and i understand that she will ... (250 words)

What can I do to get him in the mood more often?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 4894 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 30-35 - My boyfriend and i have been together for two years now. and we foot fool around like we used too. my main issue is that he just isnt in the mood anymore. in the begging it was fun and you never knew whats going to happen. Now, i have tried everything i can think of. i have ... (112 words)

Who do I choose and how do I handle this situation efficiently?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4896 days ago

28 July 2011 (F)

age 41-50 - The commitment phobic guy who will always cheat or the man who might not be able to fully understand me and my issues. Am a somewhat complex individual with a few issues which means only a few people understand me and can handle my mood swings, and although I haven’t been dia... (613 words)

Erectile dysfunction....is it really so common?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age - Hi, I really wonder about this issue for a long time. I hope you can give me some ideas about the reality. So I'm in my late forties, and I really struggle with libido, and erectile dysfunction. My doctor says even I have no medical problems, its normal, because there ar... (137 words)

I always treated him well, so why is acting so hurtful towards me and telling such lies?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 4895 days ago

28 July 2011 (M)

age 41-50 - I’m a 30 year old gay guy, and three months ago I split with my boyfriend, who is 20, and who I thought was the love of my life. I left him because only a couple of weeks after we began dating, he had a threesome with two girls (he is bi) at his ex-boyfriend’s house, and he a... (687 words)