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writes:I've been dating this guy for about two months and our relationship has taken a relatively serious turn recently, as we both feel a very strong connection to one another and have even dropped the word "love". However, my guy has me a little puzzled when it comes to intimacy. I'm 20 and have only been sexually active with one other guy, who was my high school first love. We did your usual intimate activities from manual stimulation to oral to the real deal, but I'm, by no means, super experienced. My boyfriend, who is 21, on the other hand, has had one girlfriend, but, by the way he describes it, it doesn't seem like they were very serious, long lasting, nor intimate, on any level, with one another. He's never told me upfront and I've never asked, but I'm 99% sure he is a virgin, which is no problem in my eyes. Needless to say, we're moving slow and have just started getting familiar with one another's bodies.The other night, he was at my house. (We both live at home. So, being intimate is slightly hard, due to living arrangements. He has a pretty strict household. So, it is even difficult for him to have fun with himself.) We were alone, though, and as we started making out, I started giving him a handjob. I was really, really into it. I made sure to get my hand really wet with spit and I could clearly tell by his expression, breathing, and moans that he was reallllllly liking what was happening. Without any coaxing, he was telling me how great it felt and I was asking him, while dirty talking a little, exactly how he wanted me to work him. After a good ten minutes, I realized he had nowhere to cum and I didnt feel ready to take it in my mouth or drop my bra for him. So, I immediately said that I needed to get some tissue for him to cum into. He thought about it for a second. I didn't stop touching him and then he told me not to worry about it and that we didn't have to finish. I was honestly disappointed and asked, "Are you sure?" a few times, but he insisted. He didn't act strangely. We kept making out and he went on to touch me a little. Meanwhile, I was wondering what exactly went wrong and couldnt help but feel slightly disappointed.Did I turn him off with the tissue thing? He didn't seem turned off and he surely had a boner for the remainder of our make out session. Why would he just stop so easily? Did I do something wrong? Or was he just not ready? Did he mistake me not wanting to blow him as me not being into it? I'm so confused at his behavior. The easy answer is to just ask him, but I feel sort of awkward just randomly asking, "So, hey, the other night while I was jerking you off, how come we stopped?" lol Any help or advice as to how to get him to want me to finish him would be awesome. I really was having fun. It was a shame to see it end. What should I say or possibly do next time?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks. I will be sure to be ready next time, tissues and all, and won't take him stopping personally. He might just be nervous or getting accustomed the whole thing. Thanks so much!!!!!!
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reader, hannah76  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Hello,
All OK in my book. Let things just naturally progress. From what you say he could well be virgin and that is great. He most probably hasn't released in the presence of a woman many times if not ever. So, I would just let things carry on as they have and treat this as a little challenge for yourself. Also, next time, very discretely have some paper tissues within reach just in case he releases. But, let things happen naturally and he will feel at ease to have pleasure. Also, let this happen first a lot before you both decide to do other things.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 Don't over think this too much. He may not have even been ready to cum. Sometimes it just takes a while to get used to "finishing" with somebody else working the controls. Some guys can't "finish" from oral or hand jobs. I never have personally, not from lack of trying. It also took me about a month of constant sex from losing my virginity to even get to the point where I could cum.
So yeah, a little too much info there, but don't stress is the point I'm trying to make. It'll take time to get to know each others bodies.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 July 2011):
 The tissue thing might have turned him off, but more likely I think he just didn't want to be a bother. Seeing as you didn't just go and get the tissue, you stayed and sort of asked him if you should get it (which could be translated as you not wanting to go get it). My guess is that he felt unsure and didn't want to ask you to do anything, and the easiest answer was to just not come. You should have right out told him you wanted him to come because you would like it, and gotten the tissue without asking.
Don't ask him about this though, Im fairly sure I'm right in my guess. Next time he comes over, just in case you feel into the mood again, have some tissue nearby in your room so you wont have to go far to get it. Then just do it, without asking any questions.
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