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writes:Why did my ex do this ?. We broke up a few months ago, but recently, he sent me a message saying " well , i hope your life is better and that you are happy, i really do ". I asked him why he had contacted me, but he said he just wanted to say that to me, and he wasn't expecting a reply, but i thought, why would he bother writing to me if he doesn't want me to reply ?. He broke up with me. He told me that he didn't think i saw him enough ( but he never admits his mistakes ) . He said at first that he didn't think we should talk to each other or be friends as me talking to him would " remind him of how things could have been better between us ". And he said he wished i had realised where i was going wrong sooner. I would like to talk to him more about all this, but i worry that we might argue, and that it could be stressful. What do you think about it ?. Part of me would like to go back with him, although, i guess he doesn't want that, but do you think he could still have feelings for me, even if he doesn't want me back ?. I don't understand it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): Its just confused me.he broke up with me,so why would he hope i am happy ? And he said he doesnt hate me,which also doesnt make sense,especially as he was really cruel towards me when we broke up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): Forget him and the message. That's the best thing here. And actually I think it was cruel of him to contact you in this way. If it's over, it's over and comments by him like this only tend to open up wounds or even sow seeds of hope as they evidently have done with you. Try not to contact him further and leave any other messages that come unanswered if you can or briefly say 'I'm fine, I've moved on'.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2011): Why do women feel compelled to analyze the smallest comment to death?
I really don't think you should give this a second thought. He broke up with you. Even if he wants you back, do you not have anything else going on in your life? If the circumstances that led to the break up still exist what is the point of getting back together? And if, after several months apart, you still cannot have an open conversation with him why would you want to try?
Stop dissecting this. Move on.
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reader, RedAthena  +, writes (16 July 2011):
 Sometimes guys do the "I hope you are happy" comment to try and relieve their negative feelings about the past.
I would let it go. If he really regretted it and wanted to see if it could work again, he would have said and DONE more.
Trust actions, not words.
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