I don't want to date him if he's dating my friend!
Q. What if he's done something with my friend? I'm starting to like him.? There's this girl I met at my gym a few months ago. We hit it off. She's a nice girl and I like her. We have so much in common. Anyway, there's this guy who works there...
A. 3 May 2012: You met this friend of yours a few months ago, and she dropped out of the gym? This is simple. Talk to her and tell her what's going on. Tell her that this guy asked you out for Sunday, and ask her what's going on with her.
Your decision... (read in full...)
Help majour zit break out!!
Q. Hey I'm having really bad problems with my skin at the moment I've tried everything products for shops, I have been prescribed 3 medications from my doctor and the one I am currently on take 3 months to start to work I am startsing to worry that ...
A. 3 May 2012: If the one you're currently on takes 3 months to work, and it hasn't been 3 months yet, stay patient! Keep working with your doctor, and you both will find the right one!
You are "seeing" these blemishes a lot more than your fiance is! Unless y... (read in full...)
41 and the get up and go is gone!
Q. im a 41 year old male and have lost most of my sex drive what is wrong with me?...
A. 3 May 2012: First of all, I'm really sorry! Second, it could be a combination of a lot of things, many of them medical and many of them health-related.
A poor diet and sedimentary lifestyle can dampen it. Stress can too. If you're really worried about th... (read in full...)
Ex wants someone who looks like me - is she still hung up on me?
Q. I signed up to an online dating agency and saw an ex of mine on there. We broke up 3 years ago but she had described me as her ideal date! Right down to body type, hair and eye colour, personality traits Do you think she might just have a type or ...
A. 3 May 2012: It may be a bit of both. You might have been her type when you dated her, and then again, she might have remembered the good parts of you too. I'm leaning more that it's a type thing than that she's subconsciously pining for you specifically. ... (read in full...)
We don't like C. Should we invite everyone and just let C's bf tag along?
Q. My three best friends (A, B, and C), and I are planning a graduation Europe trip. We are considering inviting our boyfriends as well as we are all very close and it would be very fun! However, none of us including the guys, can stand C's boyfrien...
A. 3 May 2012: The title on here is inaccurate. You like C just fine. It's her boyfriend that you don't like.
I also think it should be girls only. This isn't a simple date. This is extended time together, and you're friends with the girls. Trust me, it'l... (read in full...)
I still yearn for this guy and I'm married!
Q. I am in desperate need of an honest opinion about a situation that has been ongoing for 9 years that I can’t tell anyone about! WARNING – This is possibly the longest post ever! Here's the story, for anyone who may care enough to read through ...
A. 3 May 2012: This makes zero sense to me, and I can't help thinking that there's much more to this story than you've written, and that there's some element to this that you're not admitting either to yourself or to us.
You've been pining for this co-worke... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has sudden change in thoughts on children, should I worry?
Q. My boyfriend and I are both 22, and we've been in a relationship for 8 months. This is the first serious relationship for us both in a really long times. As what happens with all couples at some point, the topic of children always comes up. My ...
A. 3 May 2012: I actually think you should discuss it with him, especially if you're set on not having kids. If you two are sexually active now, it's definitely okay now to talk to him about it. This is a "do you see your future with kids" discussion rather than ... (read in full...)
I feel like I've been cheated out of a happily ever after
Q. I am a very devoted wife. I cook daily for my husband, try to have sex with him daily, I even surprise my husband with lingerie, or cleaning house in the nude, but he never takes interest. When my husband and I dated he was a totally different guy, ...
A. 3 May 2012: Hmm...there is such a thing as giving too much. There's no such thing as "happily ever after". That is a fairy tale. It's possible to be happy in life and marriage, but that takes work, time, cultivation and balance.
I think you're doing to... (read in full...)
Is it wrong that I love the smell of my girlfriend?
Q. My girlfriend and me don't really sleep together but every now and again we do get intimate. I have a real fetish of sniffing her knockers though. Is that wrong? She kind of knows I do it but it isn't talked about. I just love the smell of her......
A. 2 May 2012: LMAO!!! I was about to say...DON'T CALL THEM KNOCKERS!
heh.
Your love for the smell of a woman is a lot more common than people think. There are women who actually make money selling their used underwear to guys who are just as into it as yo... (read in full...)
How can people not think of pornography as cheating?
Q. I have something bothering me i've read and discussed this and people say that a boyfriend using porn is no different than him imagining someone in his head but I strongly disagree. Masturbating to porn is alot worse it is an actual picture but ...
A. 2 May 2012: It's okay to think of porn as cheating if you want. You have as much of a right to think that way as anyone does choosing to wait to have sex until marriage. If you find a guy whose beliefs are compatible with yours, then you have a match.
That'... (read in full...)
Do I give it a go with this older guy? Or just say no?
Q. Hi, So I dated a guy about 3 years back. I knew him through his brother. We started talking a lot on Facebook and there was a connection. He's older by 15 years which didn't bother me as we got along and we had fun. We dated for about a year. Fe...
A. 1 May 2012: I think age has nothing to do with this. He was content to have a part time relationship, and he likes having you around, but wasn't interested in the relationship's progression.
He wants you to move where he is, but what about his moving t... (read in full...)
We have decided not to have sex, what else can we do to spice things up?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have 'agreed' not to have sex yet, but we pretty much do other things. This weekend we simulated things, she used the tip of my penis to stimulate her clitoris, i had my boxers on, she had her pants off. I also think sh...
A. 1 May 2012: If I were you, I wouldn't do that with the penis on the clitoris again. You've shown a great and impressive amount of restraint, but there is danger of losing control on both of your parts, and if that happens, she will most likely blame you. If ... (read in full...)
Is it possible for my boyfriend and I to love each other but have no sexual chemistry?
Q. Is it possible for my bf and I to love each other but have no sexual chemistry? We have been dating for three months and we love each other very much. We have a healthy realtionship in every aspect except the bed. Its either he cant get an erecetio...
A. 1 May 2012: Hmm...he might need to cut down on the porn and/or the masturbation. A lot of times, this happens because he's gotten too used to his own hand or otherwise doing it himself.
Tell him to halt all self-love to give him time to "reboot" and recondit... (read in full...)
How can a person love another for so many years without changing or cheating or wanting something else?
Q. It is a long post, I hope you could be patient about me... any opinion would be appreciated!!! Recently I just got out of a horrible relationship of 3 years, I actually feel relieved and alive, although I feel unhappy for having to say goodbye t...
A. 1 May 2012: Thank you AuntyEm!!
OP, it's *not* this complicated. There is no, and never will there be any moral or emotional justification for devastating people's lives and relationships on your path to self-actualization.
You care nothing about wh... (read in full...)
How can a person love another for so many years without changing or cheating or wanting something else?
Q. It is a long post, I hope you could be patient about me... any opinion would be appreciated!!! Recently I just got out of a horrible relationship of 3 years, I actually feel relieved and alive, although I feel unhappy for having to say goodbye t...
A. 1 May 2012: Truly, when someone cheats on the one they love, I don't take time to assess whether or not they're struggling emotionally with abandonment, happiness, or boredom. I don't take into account whether or not they worry about being happy long term in a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend squeezed a girl's breasts!
Q. Dear Cupid, I've been dating my boyfriend since Febraury 14th :). It's been 77 days, but the thing is while spring break which was 3 weeks ago. People dared him to sqeeze a girls breats, and he did.. He always flirt in my school. Im a little t...
A. 1 May 2012: Did you ask him how he'd feel if you squeezed another guy's penis? I'm guessing his reaction to that wouldn't be a shrug.
Besides, this guy is bad news if he can't respect a girl, both you, and the woman he groped. Not a good quality in a guy at... (read in full...)
He cheated, prom is only a week away and the dress is paid for. What to do?
Q. Help! I just found out my my boyfriend of 7 months has cheated on me. He kissed another girl while he was wasted at a party....and Prom is a week away. We already have tickets and i bought a $500 dress. My family is super excired to see us go. Im ...
A. 1 May 2012: Heh, if you drop this guy, and then show up at the prom by yourself or with a friend and tell them what happened, they'll make sure you forget about that sorry sack and have a blast!
Don't let this guy ruin your prom. Have you talked to him abou... (read in full...)
Happily married but have a conundrum
Q. Hi all, I will try to keep this brief and simple.I am very happily married. In fact, most of the problem is I cant talk to my husband about this and I tell him everything! The crux is, I have a crush (im not worried, i simply admire him physically ...
A. 30 April 2012: AUUUGHHHHH!!!! Reading that massive paragraph made me want to stick ice picks in my eyes!!!!
**ahem**
There. I feel better. :)
You know you're playing with fire, right? You're really playing with it, nursing this crush and entering into... (read in full...)
I talk too much for her
Q. I am having a really hard time effectively communicating with my fiance. The chief complaint is that I am too long winded and I am constantly speaking about the negative things I see around me. We used to talk for hours(mostly me ) when we got toge...
A. 30 April 2012: I noticed two interesting things about what you wrote on here that I think speaks into your dilemma.
First, I've never spoken to you in person, but the way you write isn't long-winded or tedious. You're to the point, paragraph well, and you have... (read in full...)
B/f just lost his job. How can I help him through this tough time without really getting on his nerves?
Q. I'm in a long distance relationship and my boyfriend of over 9 years just lost his job last week. He just told me on Thursday. I am in shock since that day and I can't believe it. He is 52 and it is not easy to find a new job in the current economy ...
A. 29 April 2012: Yeah, give him some time to deal with it. And then, when you do talk to him, instead of bringing up the subject, make your presence a refuge and vacation from the stress. Take his mind off of it unless he wants to talk. But don't hound him to ... (read in full...)
Why do men only ever approach me for casual sex?
Q. Hi all, I'm 21 and have never been in a relationship. Nor have I ever been truly asked out or taken out on a date. I've had sex and guys pursue me with only this reason in mind it seems. I'm not a whore though and don't sleep with anyone/ever...
A. 28 April 2012: Oh...no no no! I didn't mean to imply or infer that you dress "slutty", and I profoundly apologize if that's what you got from what I said.
What I meant was that you may convey more of a fun, flirty, live-in-the-moment style, and since you're 1... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to move in with her, should I do it when we cant really afford it and I'm not ready?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for like a year and a half. I go to school and work and i try my best to make time for her. I'm not the perfect man and i've been told by her that i'm not the best listener and i understand that. When we where dating for ...
A. 27 April 2012: I agree with all of the others on here. I further want to reassure you that moving in together is not an obligated "next step" in a relationship. She's wrong in trying to make you feel like you don't care enough because you don't want to move ... (read in full...)
After 18 years of marriage my husband told me about wanting a divorce through a solicitor and wont speak to me at all! How do I get through this?
Q. After 18 years of marriage and just 2 days before my 40th birthday I get an email from a solicitor to say my husband wants a divorce while I was away. We have had a rocky marriage for several years and I had gone away on a holiday, to encompass my ...
A. 27 April 2012: I agree that your husband is a coward for moving out while you were gone and initiating divorce proceedings via a solicitor.
However, if your marriage is already on the rocks, then what you did by going away for 3 months isn't a holiday.... (read in full...)
Why do men only ever approach me for casual sex?
Q. Hi all, I'm 21 and have never been in a relationship. Nor have I ever been truly asked out or taken out on a date. I've had sex and guys pursue me with only this reason in mind it seems. I'm not a whore though and don't sleep with anyone/ever...
A. 27 April 2012: I think this has to do with the "where" mostly. OkCupid and plentyoffish have a reputation for casual encounter seekers. Looking at clubs and bars reap pretty much the same result.
Part of it may also be in your presentation. I'm not judging ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is going on holiday with his ex wife and kids, should I just accept it or should I say something?
Q. Iv been dating a guy since January and he has just told me that at the end of may he will be going on holiday for a week to Tenerife with his ex wife and their two children. He says it's just to make the children happy but I still feel jealous and ...
A. 27 April 2012: This one is really tricky and I think subject to individual situations. You and he are just starting out (3 month relationship), and you didn't mention how long they've been apart. This one isn't cut and dry like most situations on here present.
... (read in full...)
I want to leave my partner because of his porn use, but now I've had a baby I get ill every time I try and leave him! What can I do?
Q. I found out my partner watched porn throughout our entire relationship and I want to leave him. The problem is since giving birth to my baby I have suffered acute anxiety and depression and every time I try to leave him I get severely ill. I mean ...
A. 26 April 2012: Oh man. First of all, take a really deep breath. I read your post, and I know that these emotions you're feeling are so intense that you're probably actually feeling assaulted by them. This is supposed to be one of the happiest times of your ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend drunk texting/sexting a girl he slept with. Need advice!
Q. My boyfriend keeps texting a girl that he slept with way before we started dating, but he only texts her when he is drunk. Sometimes it's sexting and then just being friendly. It really bothers me, because of things that his mates tell me about her ...
A. 26 April 2012: Ask him how he would feel if you frequently drunk-sexted with an ex of yours? Being drunk is absolutely no excuse, and there should be zero tolerance for it in your relationship.
Your boyfriend is very immature, and I'd drop him if you've c... (read in full...)
Am I having an affair?
Q. Am I having an affair? I am a married women, I have been with my husband for the past 15 years. We are best friends, we do everything together and enjoy each other's company very much. I met a men 3 years ago, we don't work together but do ...
A. 25 April 2012: You're not yet having an affair, but you are right to feel warning signals. If there is any confusion about whether or not your relationship and actions are remaining appropriate, let me ask a few questions:
1. Does your husband AND his wife kno... (read in full...)
How do I handle the fears of my girlfriend that I will get hurt climbing to the summit? It is my dream to do this climb
Q. Ok, so next year, I am scheduled to climb to the summit of Mt Everest, the worlds tallest mountain. This has been my dream ever since I was a little boy. I am taking up a particular route to the summit. Yesterday I was watching a video of an area ...
A. 24 April 2012: First of all, you have to go. It's dangerous, it's pretty reckless, but then again, so is tornado chasing or hang gliding or even downhill skiing. You have your entire life to be there for others once you get married and have kids, if you so ... (read in full...)
What are the confidentiality rules in U.K. schools?
Q. I've just found out I'm pregnant! I'm 16 and I'm really happy because I was trying for a baby. My form tutor at school has somehow figured it out and keeps asking if I'm pregnant. I'm reluctant to tell her because I dont want the information getting ...
A. 23 April 2012: P.S. The average cost of raising a child to the age of 18 in the UK as of January of this year is now 218,000 pounds.
Who is paying this amount?... (read in full...)
Should I not be selfish and try to be more accomodating or should I tell him feel manipulated and used?
Q. Dating has reached the relationship stage and I'm learning a few things about this guy. He was really nice and fun initially and I get along well with his 14 year old son who lives with him. It just seems to me lately he has such a sense of entit...
A. 23 April 2012: This one is ridiculously simple.
If he kept asking you for actual money, would it be so difficult to decide what to do?
He wants to use your car and your gas. Does he pay for gas?
He stores things at your place. Does he pay for storage?... (read in full...)
What are the confidentiality rules in U.K. schools?
Q. I've just found out I'm pregnant! I'm 16 and I'm really happy because I was trying for a baby. My form tutor at school has somehow figured it out and keeps asking if I'm pregnant. I'm reluctant to tell her because I dont want the information getting ...
A. 23 April 2012: With all due respect, it's not your life until you live on your own. In a matter of months, this whole issue of confidentiality will be nonexistent.
You can't live your life while your decisions cost those around you. What will happen if the r... (read in full...)
Is it weird/impossible for a twenty year old girl to be just friends with an older man (35 years age difference)?
Q. So, at work. I struck up a friendship with an older man. We talked a lot and appreciated each other's company. Today, we kinda just took the friendship out of work. We exchanged phone numbers and tonight we spoke on the phone for a little bit. We ...
A. 23 April 2012: Let's put age aside for the moment and cover the universal basics.
1. Are you interested in him as more than friends? If the answer is no, and you know he's attracted and interested in you as more than friends, then it's not a simple "friends... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave my boyfriend but I don't know how we can go back to being lovers now that I've cheated on him and that we've been living as 'friends' for a year
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for a year and half and we have been living together for a year. He started having serious back problems a year ago and we have not had sex since then. He now wants us to buy a flat together but I am scared of committing ...
A. 23 April 2012: You should leave your boyfriend. You cheated on him. Does your boyfriend know that?
There should be no "I don't know what to do". You cheated on him! You're past the "I don't know what to do" phase, because you've already done it!
You say... (read in full...)
Can abusive men change?
Q. Can abusive men change.. I split from my ex who I know was abusive several months ago, unfortunately I.still have to have contact.as we had children. He has never openly admitted to being abusive.and had blamed me, he had apparently never been ...
A. 23 April 2012: Who cares about his deep down feelings?? Who cares about his changing? Who cares about his random messages? Who cares???
He will not change! NO WAY. Abuse is abuse.
If you have escaped the abuse and broken free of him, why would you ru... (read in full...)
Is it acceptable to ask Kelly to go with me to the wedding? Or should I just talk to my roommate, and tell him I'm going stag?
Q. I broke up with my girlfriend ("Rachel") last week from a series of fights and a serious change of feelings. I received a wedding invitation to my roommate's wedding a couple weeks before then and RSVP'd assuming I'd bring Rachel. My other ex, "...
A. 23 April 2012: First, I'm really sorry about your breakup with Rachel. Breakups are really traumatic, and I know that your mind is reeling from this change.
Second, you should go stag unless your roommate gives you permission to ask someone else. A couples ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 23 April 2012: Of course guys feel pressure to look a certain way. I wasn't saying that they don't. I was merely responding to your statement that women wouldn't understand. We do. And I understand that men have pressures, some of them unique, like ED. These ... (read in full...)
Girfriend has not orgasmed, am I doing something wrong?
Q. I have had sex with my gf three times and fingered her millions of times but not once has she orgasim ,should i do it longer ? My gf said her playing with my penis turns her on, is this a good thing ?...
A. 23 April 2012: I've got a couple of great ideas for you! But first, I have a question for you that you don't need to answer on here:
Does she masturbate herself to orgasm? Do you know the answer to that question? If you don't know, you've gotta know!
... (read in full...)
What are the confidentiality rules in U.K. schools?
Q. I've just found out I'm pregnant! I'm 16 and I'm really happy because I was trying for a baby. My form tutor at school has somehow figured it out and keeps asking if I'm pregnant. I'm reluctant to tell her because I dont want the information getting ...
A. 23 April 2012: First of all, I'm not going to judge you. However, I see a real stumbling block in your scope of thinking at this moment. Imagine driving a car at 100kph at midnight on a dark country road, and instead of having headlights, you're holding a small ... (read in full...)
Is there a reason why I can't reach orgasm when g/f manually stimulates me?
Q. I have an issue that keeps me from having sex currently with my girlfriend. She is very understanding and it is not that big of a deal (I need a minor surgery before I can, and we are content at fooling around until that happens) I have been ab...
A. 23 April 2012: The key to this is that you find it easy to do to yourself. Can you guide her to help you, and maybe if it's possible, to stimulate yourself to orgasm in front of her to show her how you're used to it being done?
Also, have you had sex together... (read in full...)
I think that's his way of breaking up?? So I move on for good?
Q. I am in need to vent. My ex-bf and I have been having some issues. We've been on and off for a while. He initiated the first two and I initiated the last one. I initiated because I was just so tired of him not responding to me and just wishing he ...
A. 23 April 2012: I read this carefully through, and what really stood out for me to respond to is that if there is anything you can take out of this, it's that there are some really valuable things you can take out of how this has gone down.
First and foremost... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: It's amusing that you're comparing yourself to Sir Isaac Newton, who was not only reportedly a virgin, but was so puritanical that any suggestion of impropriety on his part would send him over the edge and end a friendship with whoever dared that he ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: Of course women understand about being judged by appearance. Even in comedies when the guys/dads are overweight, slovenly, slackers, their partners have to be perfect 10 sex kittens. Even in porn, you're getting off on the appearance of women ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: What scares you so much about trying to be in a relationship? You haven't ever had a girlfriend, nor have you had sex before.
A porn addiction where its overuse and interference with relationships will leave you hollow, lonely, and possibly... (read in full...)
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