She lied to me about her relationship with her husband, but I still have to see her at work. What should I do in this situation?
Q. I am married and in love with co-worker since 4 years. We share very intimate relationship like soulmates. Few months back she got married and she started to hide and lie things from me with regards to her relationship with husband inspite of ...
A. 21 March 2012: You're married, yet you have a trust issue with the woman you're currently betraying and lying to your wife in order to have a relationship with? Any affair, including an emotional one, is built from the start by the destruction of trust both in ... (read in full...)
Need advice on how to "train" my boyfriend in terms of sex.
Q. my boyfriend still has a lot to learn, especially to be more gentle. Simply telling him "Be gentler" only works for a few minutes usually. I know he's the one, we've already talked about marriage, and we want to wait till after we're living tog...
A. 21 March 2012: He might just have rough fingers! You might want to try having him use KY Lubricant on his fingers next time. Don't laugh, it'll be much better on you!
Some guys' hands are literally like sandpaper, especially if they're used to manual labor (f... (read in full...)
Need advice on how to "train" my boyfriend in terms of sex.
Q. my boyfriend still has a lot to learn, especially to be more gentle. Simply telling him "Be gentler" only works for a few minutes usually. I know he's the one, we've already talked about marriage, and we want to wait till after we're living tog...
A. 20 March 2012: Use teeth on his penis!
(just kidding, sort of!)
Don't be afraid of sex! I know you're worried that sex is going to hurt, and he's a bit rough with the other stuff. Is he hurting you now, or is he rough in a way that doesn't hurt now, bu... (read in full...)
Is this an unforgivable mistake? Should I believe nothing happened between my husband and the other woman?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married 7 this year. We started dating when i was 15. My Husband is my best friend and love of my life. Until Nov. of last year our marriage was great really. We had our fights and my husband w...
A. 20 March 2012: You say you fought a lot back in November non-stop, and then things just started getting better for days and weeks until you saw a credit card statement?
What if the fighting was BECAUSE of his affair with her, rather than the fighting driving ... (read in full...)
Is this an unforgivable mistake? Should I believe nothing happened between my husband and the other woman?
Q. My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married 7 this year. We started dating when i was 15. My Husband is my best friend and love of my life. Until Nov. of last year our marriage was great really. We had our fights and my husband w...
A. 20 March 2012: There's more to this story, and the only way you can get past it is if he stops lying to you, shows you all communication between her and him, and works on rebuilding trust with you.
While nothing sexual may have happened, he was having an emoti... (read in full...)
B/f loves me but he's close to his best female friend and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My fiance is in love with his best friend. They have known eachother since they were very young and have always been close. They used to 'play dirty', like most kids do I guess, when they were about 7. They grew up together and he tried to start a ...
A. 20 March 2012: LISTEN to PerhapsNot! He's bargaining with you to see her, and you're actually caving to allow another woman into his life to please him.
You are going to lose him. Do not marry him until she's out of his life and mind.... (read in full...)
We have agreed to not have intercourse, but he keeps on asking me! Should I be more submissive or stand my ground?
Q. It will be a year next month since I have been dating my boyfriend. Things are going quite well between us and his family accepts me well. We have been spending more time together recently which has always been a pleasure. However, he would randomly ...
A. 19 March 2012: STAND YOUR GROUND!!
My feeling is that he's not respecting your decision by his constant pressure of you. It would be easy to say that he keeps the pressure on you because his hormones keep the pressure on him. However, in this world of acceptab... (read in full...)
Insecurity issues -- she cheated and said he was her best ever
Q. Hello everyone Now I have a big insecurity issue to deal with and it usually end up with me feeling unwanted by my fiancé Long story short We got into a fight we broke up I tried getting back then found out that a guy that used to ONLY give h...
A. 18 March 2012: The only question you should ask her is to ask her to leave.
She cheated once. You decided to work on rebuilding the relationship together. That's okay.
Then she cheated again with the same guy. Really? Fool you once, shame on her. Fool yo... (read in full...)
Cheating husband says I am violating his privacy!
Q. Hello all. My marriage has been having its fair share of problems but have been working on it. I have caught my husband twice cheating on me previously and just found out he's at it again. I wouldn't say I'm still in love with him as my feelings ...
A. 17 March 2012: He is absolutely and utterly disqualified from ever whining about his privacy being violated.
That being said, you know that he is a serial cheater, and what you say will not change that fact. Your choices have reduced to only two:
To live... (read in full...)
Is it a red flag if husband is facebook requesting a hot chick?
Q. My husband has friend request some hot chick on fb; she has big boobs- very provacative looking, has pictures of herself "says for modeling " they look like pictures you would see in playboy ect. I haven't seen any comunication between them- but ...
A. 16 March 2012: How do you know he's friend requested her? Were you snooping and looking for something like this? If so, what made you snoop?
You can question, but if he has some real problems with this sort of thing, you confronting him now will only make him... (read in full...)
After what I've done now that b/f is successful he doesn't even call me
Q. OK so when my boyfriend was.going through hard times I was there. He'd always call me. He even got into some problems with the street where he owed money and I had to pay them off For his safety. He promised to pay me back when he got a real Job ...
A. 16 March 2012: This is a textbook example of why you never, and I mean NEVER EVER EVER give money to your boyfriend. Not ever, no way no how unless you plan on torching your relationship.
He used you. You were his crutch and gave him money. Now that he doesn... (read in full...)
B/f loves me but he's close to his best female friend and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My fiance is in love with his best friend. They have known eachother since they were very young and have always been close. They used to 'play dirty', like most kids do I guess, when they were about 7. They grew up together and he tried to start a ...
A. 16 March 2012: I want to clarify -- I know he hasn't spent time in months, but looking at her Facebook picture, saying he misses her and wants to speak to her again? What a slap in the face to you.
I wouldn't get sad. I'd get very stern. Chigirl is right th... (read in full...)
B/f loves me but he's close to his best female friend and it makes me very uncomfortable
Q. My fiance is in love with his best friend. They have known eachother since they were very young and have always been close. They used to 'play dirty', like most kids do I guess, when they were about 7. They grew up together and he tried to start a ...
A. 16 March 2012: To me, it does not matter if he is honest about this. A guy in a relationship shouldn't even think about hanging out or spending time with another woman he used to have feelings with. No way, no how. That disqualifies any and all arguments he ... (read in full...)
Does she want my penis or just want a friend for comfort?
Q. Long time no see. I'll get straight to it. Alright, so last year a friend from my past sprang up and started talking to me again. To clarify, I had spent some time with her boyfriend and she must have been curious or thought I was dead or somethin...
A. 16 March 2012: I think it's friendship for now. She didn't get sexual with you before, and she's not talking a lot about her breakup (makes me wonder if he got mad that she spent time in your house while they were together).
By the way, it's extremely rare tha... (read in full...)
I really messed up my ex with our breakup. I don't know if I want him back
Q. Im a high school student and my ex boyfriend is a freshman in college. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 2 years. On October of 2011 I broke up with him because I was starting to have feelings for this other guy and I was afraid I would cheat ...
A. 16 March 2012: What do you do??? Drop the ex. If he's using words like "forgive you for breaking up with me" and he's doing drugs, stalking you, and promising to change (the drugs alone should tell you that there is no change on his horizon), this shouldn't make ... (read in full...)
Mother-in-law!!!!!!!!!!! HELP! The woman is insane!!!!
Q. My boyfriends mother is causing problems in our relationship. We've been together 2 years, we are incredibly happy and never argue as we're so laid back, compatible and very much in love. However.... he has an incredibly controlling mother. ...
A. 16 March 2012: There's something else that's off here. He's living with her and she's controlling his account. Currently, he "can't" leave home because she's always threatening to kick him out, a threat which would be powerless if he didn't desperately need her ... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if my b/f of 7 years is ever going to totally commit to me
Q. Hi everyone, I would realy appreciate your thoughts on my situation as I am very confused. I have been with my boyfreind for seven years, I have two children and he has two grown up and a seven yr old. He proposed to me early on giving me a ...
A. 16 March 2012: He made you have an abortion??
Short of a 100 piece choir and neon lights, that is a massive statement of non-commitment. He has children. You have children, yet he didn't want a child with you together.
Seven years is more than long enough... (read in full...)
Mother-in-law!!!!!!!!!!! HELP! The woman is insane!!!!
Q. My boyfriends mother is causing problems in our relationship. We've been together 2 years, we are incredibly happy and never argue as we're so laid back, compatible and very much in love. However.... he has an incredibly controlling mother. ...
A. 16 March 2012: Why does she control his bank account at age 25?? Why is he letting her do this?? Is this guy self-sufficient i.e. making his own money, paying his own bills, and living his own life? You mentioned that she has money. Is he a "trust fund baby" ... (read in full...)
Am I in the wrong for worrying about my friend? Or is he misinterpreting it as controlling?
Q. O.K simple question. My friend and I were asking each other random questions about each other. It was mostly about favourite things and stuff, then it was three things you dislike about the other one. He said he only has one thing about me that he ...
A. 16 March 2012: Well, the biggest lesson you can learn from this is that if you want to keep your friends, never play a game like "three things you dislike". Like is fine, but dislike...ouch!
That being said, I think part of it was that he wanted to think of... (read in full...)
Have you ignored ever ignored an ex ,when you've bumped into them in person?
Q. Is it childish/rude to ignore an ex if you bump into them? I live in the same town as mine, and have avoided bumping into them so far (mainly due to my planning!) If I bumped into them and they said 'Hello, how are you?'(which I think they wou...
A. 16 March 2012: Ahh, the first awkward meeting between exes after the "exing".
I totally get where you're coming from. There really is no right answer to how you want to handle a run-in with your ex. I can give you my opinion though, especially if it sounds l... (read in full...)
He asked to be my FWB, I turned him down because I want a relationship, then he claims to have feelings for his ex wife but got upset when he saw me kiss another man! What is going on?
Q. Hi everyone this is the situation, I met a man a year ago today, he had split from him wife nearly two year before we met. we agreed to take things slow then he asked me if we could be fwbs to which I told him no I want a proper relationship with ...
A. 14 March 2012: WHAT AUNTYEM SAID!!!
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Is vasectomy really reversible?
Q. hey guys...i hope everyone is doing fine..i want to ask if a vasectomy can really be reversed? Like my bf had one and he doesnt have any kids..im just qurious if we will ever have our own one day if he says he is ready? I googled but im not ...
A. 14 March 2012: A vasectomy can be reversed. However, if you're making decisions about your boyfriend, you must not bank on him changing his mind.
If he is childless and had a vasectomy in order to remain childless, then chances are that he made a life decision... (read in full...)
Life's been rough to me but that's no excuse for what I do!
Q. I'm such a horrible person Don't know where to start, I just want to stop feeling guilty and be normal. Please help me be a nice, decent person. I steal money from my mum to buy cigarettes and go out partying and I stole money from my friend the...
A. 14 March 2012: Yep. KC hit it right on the head.
Come clean with your mom. Expose what you've been doing. Iamhere is right that compulsive lying is an addiction. ... (read in full...)
I'm tired of being used
Q. I am so confused??? I am in love with a guy that says he wants to be with me just not right now. This has been going on for two years. I give him money and we have a child together. He does not take care of her. He was also in a serious relationship ...
A. 14 March 2012: I agree regarding therapy and your stepfather, but you must not consider him when you make decisions regarding your life.
First of all, this guy who's stringing you along? Why is he not giving YOU money in the form of child support? Why are you ... (read in full...)
Cheated, broke up, and cannot move on
Q. Exactly a year ago I posted this: I was in a wonderful relationship for over a year and we were really deep in love with one another. Then one day I went for coffee with a guy I used to love and we slept together. I told my boyfriend right after th...
A. 14 March 2012: You haven't learned anything, have you? You were with the guy for a year, cheated on him with a former flame, and blew up your relationship.
Now, you met a new guy, yet you're pining after a previous relationship? Can you not see the similari... (read in full...)
Is this cheating? should I say anything to her or let it go?
Q. I NEED SO MUCH HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!A couple weeks ago my GF and I broke up. We broke up for the weekend. She thought/thinks I am not the type to go hook up with other girls. Just because of my past and just who I am.. Well dating her I changed....
A. 14 March 2012: You didn't cheat. Your GF is saying 6 months in order to save face.
The only thing is -- you didn't cheat, but you did what you did to hurt her and get back at her. Why on earth would you go after her friends, and then go out for making o... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend with a girl, how is he going to react?
Q. hello.. i cheated on my botfriend with a chick during our 2 day break up, and im not interested in having a three some. how would you guys react to something like this if you were the boyfriend? (coming clean tomorrow)...
A. 13 March 2012: I agree. You broke up, so it wasn't cheating. It's up to you whether or not to tell him. However, while you have no moral obligation to tell him, you took a risk in introducing an STD. A low risk, but a risk anyhow, anytime you're sexually ... (read in full...)
When he confessed it wasn't what I thought it would be!
Q. I am 24 and I met this genuinely loving guy at a charity organisation which helps disabled children get into sport. Anyway, we started dating 9 months ago and he has asked me to move in with him. I agreed and am in the process of packing my stuff. ...
A. 13 March 2012: He loves you for you, and I'm guessing in passing the two of you had a conversation in which you talked about you not wanting to be with someone rich. He wanted to make sure that his money wouldn't be a turnoff to you.
He wanted to make sure you... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to ignore his ex's pregnancy and marry me
Q. My boyfriend and I had a brief break up in January an during our break up he had a brief sexual encounter with a young woman (she is about 25) he is 49. He also has Bipolar 2. She is now pregnant. He says he does not want anyhting to do with her ...
A. 13 March 2012: LOOK how he treats women! Psych diagnoses aside, look at how he treats them! Do you think you're special? A pregnancy couldn't keep him from, like Boonridge mentioned, jumping in the sack with someone else fast.
Why is it that we take greater ... (read in full...)
Would you go back to an ex who cheated on you with your friends?
Q. This question is for the guys out there. Why would you leave someone who treated you right for an ex who has slept with all of your friends and cheated on you? Is it possible that this cheater will change?...
A. 13 March 2012: Oh boy. I'm sorry this happened to you. Don't get bitter and harden up because this guy wasn't over his ex. I know it doesn't give you any consolation now, but know that he is a masochist, and that this has nothing to do whatsoever with her being ... (read in full...)
Would you go back to an ex who cheated on you with your friends?
Q. This question is for the guys out there. Why would you leave someone who treated you right for an ex who has slept with all of your friends and cheated on you? Is it possible that this cheater will change?...
A. 13 March 2012: Honestly? Who are these friends who would betray you like this? If my husband ever tried to make a move on any of my friends, they would verbally obliterate him. It's a no-brainer for you to never ever leave a good guy for a cheater. Where is ... (read in full...)
My current boyfriend wants me to delete FB pictures of my ex and I! Should I do this or not?
Q. My boyfriend feels uncomfortable seeing videos and just a handful of pics on my Facebook page of my ex boyfriend, it's vids and pictures of him and a few if my friends hanging out and normal pictures of me and him.. He's asked me previous times to ...
A. 12 March 2012: No, he is not being controlling.
It's one thing to have in your personal possession pictures of your ex. If they were on a personal computer or external hard drive or flash drive, they would be your memories and perfectly okay. That has always b... (read in full...)
I want to leave my girlfriend because she is not a virgin, advice?
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating for a year now and we both love eachother. When I met her she was in a relationship and we started off as friends and she ended up leaving her ex boyfriend for me, She's never done anything bad, she's faithful, ...
A. 11 March 2012: You were NOT a virgin when you met her.
She was NOT a virgin when she met you.
She had one other guy she had sex with, but you had sex with six other girls.
Am I right??
Boy I could rip you up over the massive hypocrisy of what you're... (read in full...)
Why does my b/f want a threeseome with 2 girls but won't even consider 2 guys?
Q. hi so i need some good advise ive been with my bf 3 yrs now he watches porn which is not a problem i watch it with him but he likes to watch group sex and said it really turns him on then the other night he asked me if i would have a 3 some with him ...
A. 9 March 2012: Heh. Tell him to cut back on the porn, because the porn version of a threesome is two girls who are there only for his pleasure, hence the crap with two girls using their tongue on him at the same time.
Of course he doesn't want MMF, because ... (read in full...)
How do I bring up to my wife that I know she's using her vibrator rather than having sex?
Q. I'm married with young kids and have been with my wife for 10 years. Over the last few years our sex life has become almost non existant which we put donw to the pressures of having young children. Recently I have discovered that my wife is using a ...
A. 9 March 2012: I'm very curious as to know how you're so sure that she's using the vibrator "frequently". I'm not disputing you, but being suspicious and knowing are hugely different things.
Curiosity aside (which has no bearing on my advice), I concur with the... (read in full...)
What if I gain weight and my bf isn't attracted to me?
Q. I am turning 21 soon and yes I am sexually active with my bf but we do use condoms every single time and I just had my period like a week ago so I know I'm not pregnant. I just want to know why I'm soooo hungry all the time now. It's been like this...
A. 9 March 2012: Are you taking different medicine now? Some medicine makes you more hungry. Also, you might be "trigger eating", meaning your body is conditioned to eat when you do certain things, similar to a smoker being triggered to have their first cigarette ... (read in full...)
She's been dating him and me for almost 4 years, now she says she wants me. Is she lying?
Q. I'm so confused right know I've been sorta dating this girl now for almost four years now and I am madly in love with her but she also has a boyfriend of three years. And she was always sleeping around with other guys and then lieing to me about it ...
A. 9 March 2012: What are you doing???
She's sleeping around everywhere. She's cheating on her current boyfriend with you. She's sleeping with every guy under the sun, and you're actually thinking about moving in with her? She's got way too much baggage,... (read in full...)
He dated to me to get to a friend. Now he wants to date me again. Is he just using me to get back at her?
Q. Okay. There is this guy and in around October we started dating for a short while. It turns out he only dated me to get to one of my friends and they have dated in and off the past couple months. I've. Liked him on and off during that time period. ...
A. 9 March 2012: No way should you give him another chance. He used you to get to a friend and dated you under false pretenses. He blew your trust, and that's not something you should ignore.
Trust me, there are so many other guys out there who will date you... (read in full...)
Could I get pregnant on the last day of my period?
Q. Hi, I'm sixteen years old. Last month, it was the very last day of my period and there was hardly any blood but I was still spotting and I gave my boyfriend oral sex. He came in my mouth and I swallowed it and continued to suck him off. He pulled ...
A. 9 March 2012: Since semen can live inside you for up to 7 days, you do have a chance of being pregnant. Not that big of a chance, but there is a chance.
He hadn't gone to the bathroom since the last time he had ejaculated, and there was semen in his pre-ejac... (read in full...)
My g/f has had 35 plus partners and I know 4 of them!
Q. my girlfriend of 10years has had about 35previous partners an i can't stop thinking about it and 4of them i know. i have these feelings of anger alot i still even think theres more an she is lying an theres a chance she cheated with 2 or 3 aswell im ...
A. 9 March 2012: First of all and the most important thing, your responses is to ignore your own son??!? What has he ever done to you? You decide to hurt an innocent child because of how you're feeling.
Next, you've been with your girlfriend for 10 years. ... (read in full...)
I don't feel guilty about cheating on my wife until she cries, but even then I secretly enjoy it
Q. Hi Ok,i have got myself in a bit of situation, all self inflicted and im not looking for sympathy just advice. I met my partner on line 4 years ago, i was serving in the forces and whilst i was still married, we were not together, i was seeing som...
A. 8 March 2012: Sounds to me like you two deserve each other, to be honest. You are a cheater who cheated on his first wife, then met and married another cheater who's now cheating on you. So the two of you can live cheatfully ever after.
So what are you look... (read in full...)
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