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writes:My boyfriend keeps texting a girl that he slept with way before we started dating, but he only texts her when he is drunk. Sometimes it's sexting and then just being friendly. It really bothers me, because of things that his mates tell me about her (slutty things like sleeping with him and then sleeping with his mates). I've already confronted him about it and he thinks it's a joke. I'm going mental over it. I need some advice, quick!
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reader, rcn  +, writes (26 April 2012):
 If he is your boyfriend then it is inappropriate for him to sext another girl, period! It doesn't matter if he's drunk or not. If he knows that drinking increases his desire to be "emotionally" or "physically" unfaithful to you, then he needs to reconsider whether drinking is a good thing for him. Also don't accept "I was drunk" as an excuse. That's a lame one, especially if it's ongoing when he's drunk and not an isolated incident.
If he's laughing about it, you need to evaluate if he's worth sticking around when he's doing this while in a relationship with you.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 April 2012):
 They've got quite the 'lad' thing going on, don't they? Sleeping around and then saying SHE'S the slut? Who did she sleep with, their avatars or cloned twins? Sounds to me like they are just as slutty.
And then toying with you by laughing at your reaction, telling you it's a joke. Fascinating. You're sticking around for this type of treatment at the hands of a 'lad,' you get what you accept and tolerate.
He keeps texting her because he's able to hold off your righteous anger by laughing at it. He's basically laughing at you.
This is a dump-able offense to me. You can't 'fix' him or alter his behavior. The only thing you can manage is your own behavior and choices. I'd choose to let this one go off and be slutty with his mates.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 April 2012):
 Ask him how he would feel if you frequently drunk-sexted with an ex of yours? Being drunk is absolutely no excuse, and there should be zero tolerance for it in your relationship.
Your boyfriend is very immature, and I'd drop him if you've confronted him and he's laughed it off. That's the only thing you can do is break up with him, because the only other choice is putting up with it, which then you'll have to live with the fact that he does not respect you.
He has the choice to get drunk. He has the choice to carry a cell phone. You have the choice to drop this fool.
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