I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 23 April 2012: Of course guys feel pressure to look a certain way. I wasn't saying that they don't. I was merely responding to your statement that women wouldn't understand. We do. And I understand that men have pressures, some of them unique, like ED. These ... (read in full...)
I think that's his way of breaking up?? So I move on for good?
Q. I am in need to vent. My ex-bf and I have been having some issues. We've been on and off for a while. He initiated the first two and I initiated the last one. I initiated because I was just so tired of him not responding to me and just wishing he ...
A. 23 April 2012: I read this carefully through, and what really stood out for me to respond to is that if there is anything you can take out of this, it's that there are some really valuable things you can take out of how this has gone down.
First and foremost... (read in full...)
I found out my wife had an affair. 20 years of my marriage have been a lie
Q. Hi I need help I have been married 33 years and have just found out that the last 20 years have been a lie. 20 years ago she entered an affair whilst I was serving in the Army we had been married 11 years and have two children. I went to war and ...
A. 23 April 2012: First of all, it doesn't matter one bit if it was 20 days ago, or 20 years ago. She completely betrayed you both by her affair, AND her silence. Not only that, but her response to your confrontation is to request that you NOT TELL ANYONE!? This ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: It's amusing that you're comparing yourself to Sir Isaac Newton, who was not only reportedly a virgin, but was so puritanical that any suggestion of impropriety on his part would send him over the edge and end a friendship with whoever dared that he ... (read in full...)
What do I do? He tells me he only loves me 50% ?
Q. Hy people my boyfriend told me one thing i never expected to hear from him we've been together for about 1 and a half year,he told me that he luves me only 50% and other percentages he have to give them to his family because im not special.I love ...
A. 22 April 2012: Actually, his comments sound worse than they are. He's voicing what many people make the mistake of feeling, that love is some pie to be parceled out piece by piece, and that there's only so much to give.
Love can't be quantified in portions... (read in full...)
Why is this lesbian flirting with me?
Q. im a lesbian in a relation ship of 5 yrs,and im flirting with another lesbian in a 11yr relation ship she doesnt love her partner and says she wont leave her they dont have sex anymore so why is she flirting with me? ...
A. 22 April 2012: The real question is -- why are you being disloyal to your partner of 5 years? What does it matter if she's flirting with you or not? You have two feet and can walk away.
If you're unhappy in your current relationship, then you either put some... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: Of course women understand about being judged by appearance. Even in comedies when the guys/dads are overweight, slovenly, slackers, their partners have to be perfect 10 sex kittens. Even in porn, you're getting off on the appearance of women ... (read in full...)
I'd rather view videos than be in a relationship. Is it wrong to love porn?
Q. Is it wrong to love porn? Ive never really thought about it until the other night but porn makes me emotionally warm and happy . Ive never had a girlfriend nor have had sex but to be honest I would rather choose Videos over trying to be in ...
A. 22 April 2012: What scares you so much about trying to be in a relationship? You haven't ever had a girlfriend, nor have you had sex before.
A porn addiction where its overuse and interference with relationships will leave you hollow, lonely, and possibly... (read in full...)
I'm having a major hang up around my boyfriend's close friend who is a girl.
Q. I'm having a major hang up around my boyfriend's close friend who is a girl. My bf has many girls as friends and I don't have any issues with any one of them except this one. I think it's important to understand their past to answer this question. ...
A. 21 April 2012: The fact that they have had sex in the past is an automatic disqualification of friendship if he's with another woman. There are rare cases where a platonic friendship between genders is actually okay while in a relationship. My husband's ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I still have a thing for my ex
Q. I am a 40-something woman dating a 40-something man for over a year. I have been divorced for 6 years and have done a little dating, but have only had one serious relationship before my current boyfriend. I met my ex husband just after high school ...
A. 20 April 2012: While I don't think that he should be screaming into the phone at you, I actually thing he's right. You're not over this old guy, and you do love him, or your response to his phone call wouldn't have been to tear up and cry for an hour.
Even ... (read in full...)
Problem with girlfriend's past?
Q. So here's the issue. I am 18 and my girlfriend is 24, about to be 25. We met on a joke app (Funny Jokes) and found out we lived a couple hours away so we just started texting each other. Then we started Skyping and added each other on Facebook. And ...
A. 20 April 2012: Umm, how did you "happen" to stumble across them one night? Did she have them printed up on paper and lying on her kitchen table, or are you hacking into her computer and digging and snooping around in her email account?
Are you using her comp... (read in full...)
What exercises can I do after foot surgery?
Q. I have always been a bit self concious in reguards to my wieght, even more so since i had children. I gained nearly 60lbs with my first, and thankfully only ten with my second that came off when i had him. I then did atkins and lost 30lbs but gained ...
A. 20 April 2012: Swimming is great if you're part of a health club or community center with a pool. It's one of the best full-body exercises available even if you didn't have foot surgery! You use a lot of muscle groups, so you maximize your metabolism and build ... (read in full...)
We have been dating for over a year but still no sex!
Q. So I'm 24 and have been dating a man that is older than me, he is 40. He is the best guy any girl can have we have a really great connection. We have been dating for a little over a year now but we havent made it "official" we don't believe in ...
A. 20 April 2012: Is he a virgin? As unlikely as *that* sounds, the movie "40-Year Old Virgin" was popular because of just that possibility.
However, the fact that he doesn't want labels, again, makes that unlikely.
Has he introduced you to his family?
Has h... (read in full...)
Boyfriend only lasts 5 minutes!
Q. My bf is 14yrs older. I notice now that I dont get more thsn 5 mins of sex with him. He lasted longer before. I dont know why. I just want an orgasm too. But I never get it....
A. 20 April 2012: The vast VAST majority of women don't have orgasms from the act of penetrative intercourse. This is primarily for two reasons: because guys don't last long enough to get it done, and there aren't enough nerve endings inside the vagina itself.
... (read in full...)
We have been dating for over a year but still no sex!
Q. So I'm 24 and have been dating a man that is older than me, he is 40. He is the best guy any girl can have we have a really great connection. We have been dating for a little over a year now but we havent made it "official" we don't believe in ...
A. 20 April 2012: Whose idea is it not to make it "official" and all that stuff about titles?? Yours? His?
How often do you see each other? Are there times when you can't see him? Is he long distance?
I need to know more, because usually when I see or he... (read in full...)
My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a born again Christian
Q. My girlfriend will not marry me because I am not a " Born Again " Christian, I am Jewish and we both are not even remotely considering more children since we have already raised our chidren. Also relevant to this statement is my age at 6...
A. 20 April 2012: Is she having sex with you? If the answer is "yes", then the whole Christian thing is a cop-out. If she really refused to marry you because of your religion, she's also be observing strict anti-fornication commandments demanded by strong "on-fire" ... (read in full...)
He's stopped going down on me! What can I do?
Q. Hey there! I've been with my fiancé for a year now and we will get married in the Fall. I love him deeply and so does he. One little thing is bothering me though... at the beginning of our relationship he went down on me a lot and then he stopped. ...
A. 20 April 2012: Heh. You do know why he did it a lot in the beginning, right?? Unfortunately, a number of men do things in order to get a "payoff", meaning he was doing it in order to get something from you. However, now that you're established, he doesn't see ... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend flirting with another woman over Facebook, will he do it again? Has he already done it since and lied to me?
Q. hi my i caught my partner flirting with another woman over facebook. he lets me check my ex's profile via his. i always ask though. and he got really defensive when i asked and then i logged into his and he came out and said it. and he said it was ...
A. 19 April 2012: Yikes HOLD IT!
I think you have bigger issues than his flirting over Facebook.
Your ex has blocked you on Facebook, yet you're using your current boyfriend's account to check up on your ex?? That's messed up, and quite frankly is a bigger brea... (read in full...)
Are we going too fast?
Q. This is going to sound really awkward so bare with me. Basically my best friend has been continually harassed throughout her relationship, having people tell her boyfriend she is cheating etc. One of the guys she was accused of cheating with is...
A. 19 April 2012: This guy wants to use you. No "perfect gent" gets physical within hours of meeting each other, and no "perfect gent" in the span of 4 days is pushing the subject of sex.
This is not only way too fast, but he doesn't like you like you like him... (read in full...)
Cant perform during sex because I have been so used to masturbating for 20 years!
Q. Hi this is more of a sex question but Im hoping someone can help. I have been single for many years, and my only sexual outlet has been through masturbation. I have of course become quite used to getting myself off and can get hard quite quick...
A. 19 April 2012: Yos is absolutely right, and that website is brilliant. You need a reboot, as in you have to deny the self-stimulation and retrain your brain to be stimulated by couple's sex, and to not only be able to respond to overstimulation by porn.
If yo... (read in full...)
How do I talk to my best friend about her drinking?
Q. I need some advice on how to talk to my best friend about her drinking. Over the last few years it has got progressively worse, she has been in a relationship for 9 years that is not helping her. She has started to make inappropriate comments to my ...
A. 19 April 2012: Cerberus is right. However, it's a low probability that she'll readily listen to your entreaties merely because you're her friend at first. Usually, people hit rock bottom before they become malleable. The first reaction is usually ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her she misunderstood me?
Q. I was talking to a girl I like online (we have been talking for about a week) and she asked me that if she was there would she be a girl I sleep with. I replied with this exact line: "no way you would not be" (notice the lack of comma, it is a ...
A. 19 April 2012: Ahh yes. You were trying to play it cool and ended up ice cold. In your defense, girls shouldn't be asking stupid questions like that.
You should have responded "You're gorgeous, and I'm enjoying getting to know you better, and eventual... (read in full...)
Is it alright for a married person to look up ex-boyfriend or girlfriends?
Q. Is it OK for a married person to lookup ex boyfriends or ex girlfriends? Our friend has been divorced for about 2 years now, and we're still friends with her since she was our friend before she married the POS loser. Anyway, she has been searchi...
A. 19 April 2012: Looking up exes is okay. We all get nostalgic at times and/or curious to see how they've aged, whether they're married, and whatever.
Contacting them is an entirely different story. That's when it crosses the line. Everyone gets nostalgi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is almost too perfect, why the nagging gut feeling?
Q. My boyfriend is perfect. Almost too perfect. He is concerned for me, wants to do things for me, wants to buy things for me. He gives so much of himself to me, in every way. He seems to be everything I've ever wanted. I have many personal is...
A. 19 April 2012: You're putting way WAY too much pressure on him, to be honest. You're letting baggage and overanalyzing and trust issues and self-esteem issues start to choke out the relationship, and it puts an undue pressure on him to not only try to read your ... (read in full...)
I may have unwittingly led her on. How do I let her down gently?
Q. this is a bit long so pleas bear with me and sorry in advans about my spelling. well im a member of a site for people with diffrent kinds of medcon/lurning diffacultys/disablitys and ressonlty a fellow meber got in touch and we have been chating ...
A. 19 April 2012: I think you start with a sincere apology. Tell her that to clear the air, you are only interested in a friendship and nothing more, and that you are sorry that anything you might have said or done gave her any mixed messages. Tell her that she's an ... (read in full...)
Do I believe what this married man is telling me?
Q. i met this married man at a night club 3 weeks ago he called me first thing the next morning and has texd and phoned every day until last week when we met up ,i texd him yesterday and asked him if we re finished he said no im just busy at work ,?? ...
A. 18 April 2012: Let me remove all confusion:
HE IS MARRIED. Doesn't matter why. Doesn't matter whether he's happy, his wife's ill, he's not getting sex, she nags him, or any of the other worthless things a married man will spout out of his mouth to convince... (read in full...)
Is it fair that my family smoke around me when I'm pregnant?!
Q. Dear cupid aunts im 22. and pregnant. And have moved back.in with my parents because the babys dad left and as i was living.with him in a rented house i now cant afford the rent on a single wage. I love my parents and am grateful for all.they ...
A. 18 April 2012: Sorry, but you're in their house. You can't go in there under someone else's roof and demand that they change their behavior in front of you. Sure, it would be nice and a kindness and consideration that your brother might consider lighting up ... (read in full...)
I am having a really hard time adjustting to Americans.
Q. Ok so I know this is going to upset a few people and I am sorry but I really need some advice. So 4 months ago I was transferred from my office in Melbourne Australia to New York. I didn't really have a choice my work moved my role here so if ...
A. 18 April 2012: Ahh Cindy! The whole "I feel like you're not listening" thing versus "You're not listening to me" makes sense. We're all taught to use *I* statements in conflict and confrontation to minimize, and to specifically use the words "I feel like" versus ... (read in full...)
I'm overweight and meeting my LDR boyfriend for the first time, how do I prepare myself for rejection?
Q. I've been in an LDR for about 6 months and next month, he's coming to my country to meet me. I'm very fat and from the very beginning, I made sure he knew that. I mentioned it and even sent him full-length photographs so that he knew exactly how I ...
A. 18 April 2012: Yeah! You gotta tell us how it goes! I'm actually excited for you to see how you like him!
All my best wishes to you!... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible?
Q. Is it wrong to want to have safe-sex with as many beautiful people as possible? Some background info before the women on here start calling me a 'player' etc.... I'm 23 years old and was a virgin up until last year. For most of my life, women...
A. 18 April 2012: Cerberus is right - you shouldn't discount the clubs, because it's widely understood that that place is ideal for hookups and one-night stands without lying and false promises.
If you use women for sex under false pretenses, promising relation... (read in full...)
I am having a really hard time adjustting to Americans.
Q. Ok so I know this is going to upset a few people and I am sorry but I really need some advice. So 4 months ago I was transferred from my office in Melbourne Australia to New York. I didn't really have a choice my work moved my role here so if ...
A. 18 April 2012: Funny, I had a bit of a culture shock when I went to New York, and I live in Minnesota. American culture varies widely state to state, and region to region. I remember a few trips to Dallas and being happily surprised by the geniality of strangers ... (read in full...)
How do I know when I'm reaching orgasm?
Q. Hey there. So i've been dating this guy for 3 months now, and i really enjoy being with him. We have sex regularlay, and it is always amazing. The thing is, before him i never really orgasmed with anyone else, so for a while i was still in wo...
A. 17 April 2012: Most definitely you feel release. You really really know if you've reached orgasm, and it's feeling good because it's the build up.
You should work on this yourself, alone, and get to know your own body, because an orgasm is amazing. Imagine ... (read in full...)
How do I cope with my sexless marriage?
Q. Alright, since my last question turned into a "what are you doing?" response page...I'll add more to my question. My wife and I have two sets of twins (11 yo girls, 7 yo boys) and we nearly have a sexless mariagge. She and I met when I was ...
A. 17 April 2012: First of all, *I LOVE DEXTER!* One of my all-time favorite TV series, and I wonder what Deb's gonna do now that she's "seen", you know?
ANYWAYS, I have a *fantastic* idea for you. Seriously, you might not have even considered this!
You are... (read in full...)
My friend stares at my wife, and she tends to touch him and dress sexily when he is around, yet I know she dislikes him as a person! What should I make of all this?
Q. Hello people ! My problem is a bit complex. me and my wife are happily married for 10yrs and love each other a lot.I also have a good friend whom we both have known since childhood. Often he comes to our home with his wife and kid for dinner. But ...
A. 17 April 2012: I think it would be easier on YOU if you stopped inviting him, because I highly doubt your wife would go for him if she's seeing him as being nasty to his own wife. In fact, if she really views him with disdain like you said, she might actually be ... (read in full...)
I told my creepy co-worker to back off, now he has should I give him his stuff back?
Q. I posted a question on here about a creepy security guard who is six years older than me (he's 26-I'm freshly 20) and constantly following me around, staring at me while standing over the front desk (I work in a museum) and always wanting to walk me ...
A. 17 April 2012: I thought about this one, and I think you might have been just a bit too harsh at this stage. You skipped a step, and you shouldn't go from Facebook friends and gift acceptance straight to verbal bitch-slap unless he groped you or something.
... (read in full...)
Completely infatuated with a girl at work but I'm her superior at work, I'm married and she has a boyfriend!
Q. Need help interpreting things. Completely infatuated with a girl at work. I think mainly because I feel that I would occasionally get some vibes... Don't want to misinterpret anything. She's really cute, slightly shy. Plays with her...
A. 17 April 2012: You should go home and ask your wife how she feels about your infatuation with this co-worker, and then you should ask your superior (I'm guessing you're not the owner of the company you work with) how they'd feel if you, a married boss, started an ... (read in full...)
My friend stares at my wife, and she tends to touch him and dress sexily when he is around, yet I know she dislikes him as a person! What should I make of all this?
Q. Hello people ! My problem is a bit complex. me and my wife are happily married for 10yrs and love each other a lot.I also have a good friend whom we both have known since childhood. Often he comes to our home with his wife and kid for dinner. But ...
A. 16 April 2012: I actually respectfully disagree. I think you're rather fixated on the fantasy of her being with him, and you choosing the words "my wife dresses a bit i would say sexily on such occasions". Are you sure your wife isn't merely dressing up for ... (read in full...)
I'm overweight and meeting my LDR boyfriend for the first time, how do I prepare myself for rejection?
Q. I've been in an LDR for about 6 months and next month, he's coming to my country to meet me. I'm very fat and from the very beginning, I made sure he knew that. I mentioned it and even sent him full-length photographs so that he knew exactly how I ...
A. 16 April 2012: If he's seen recent pictures of you and thinks you're beautiful, then you have nothing to worry about!
Do you have a webcam? I think you're fine, but that might be a good idea for you if you're concerned about his being shocked to meet you.
... (read in full...)
What is the average time for a couple to move in together?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for 9 months now, i asked him if he wants kids with me and he said yes, but I'm wondering what is the average time it takes a couple to move into together? He is making efforts for me he met my mom and sister and for ...
A. 16 April 2012: I agree with Cerberus and everyone on here. Moving in isn't the expected "next step" in a relationship.
My view is that moving in may be a convenience, a cost saving tool, some view it as a "test run" of sorts, and I don't judge anyone who deci... (read in full...)
Is it still cheating if I was with a girl not a guy?
Q. hey guys..so last nite i had friends over..two girls and a guy..we had some vodka and ended up drunk..this girl and guy left about 2am..and i was left with the other girl..we went inside the house and had sex..it was my first wit a girl.she is ...
A. 15 April 2012: Would you consider it cheating if your boyfriend were secretly having sex with other men behind your back? What makes what you're doing any different? When you give your heart and/or body to someone else, the gender is absolutely irrelevant.
... (read in full...)
I slept with my best friend and now hes being distant
Q. I met this guy a year ago and we had instant attraction and started seeing each other. We were just sleeping together and hanging out for 2 months and got along really well but he was holding back a bit. We stopped seeing each other cause he wasnt ...
A. 15 April 2012: You're not going to like what I have to say to you about this situation, but here goes:
This guy is a cancer to you. He is toxic. Some toxic people don't feel initially toxic, but they insinuate themselves into your life, break apart your tru... (read in full...)
Will a vibrator help me regulate my sexual desires till I meet someone and be in a real relationship?
Q. hi all , im thinking about buying a vibrator , i'm 17 and a virgin and i'm not in a relationship and i feel a bit lonely , i want to buy it but i'm afraid it will make me crave sex even more. so i guess my question is will a vibrator help me ...
A. 15 April 2012: You don't have to be 18! It's healthy and a great stress reliever! It's not a replacement for sex, it simply relieves tension. I don't think it'll reduce your desire for a boyfriend, but it'll certainly relieve that pent-up feeling. ... (read in full...)
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