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*rhit1007
writes:I broke up with my girlfriend ("Rachel") last week from a series of fights and a serious change of feelings. I received a wedding invitation to my roommate's wedding a couple weeks before then and RSVP'd assuming I'd bring Rachel.My other ex, "Kelly", and I have "bumped" into each other quite a bit since Rachel and I broke up. At my school, last week is traditionally a big party and drinking week. So... the "bumping" into was more or less hey I'm drunk, let's make out.. or come to this bar so we can dance and make out. We had lunch the other day too... but that was planned before I broke up with Rachel.Now... is it acceptable to ask Kelly to go with me to the wedding? Or should I just talk to my roommate, and tell him I'm going stag?If it makes any difference, I'm graduating in a few weeks and moving about a week after the wedding for a job.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 April 2012):
 As long as you RSVPed you were bringing a +1, then you can bring Kelly. Either way, you need to tell you roommate ASAP so he has an accurate head count chairs and catered food.
Bring Kelly, she sounds like fun...and this isn't anything serious. Right?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 April 2012):
 First, I'm really sorry about your breakup with Rachel. Breakups are really traumatic, and I know that your mind is reeling from this change.
Second, you should go stag unless your roommate gives you permission to ask someone else. A couples RSVP isn't like a restaurant reservation. It's not you and a "plus one" of your choosing. They invited specific people, and they specifically invited and expected Rachel. The power to switch or substitute a guest should remain with the ones who are paying -- the bride and groom. Any changes should be approved by them before being made.
Third, and this is just advice, I know you're raw from your breakup with Rachel, but you should heal before bringing an ex into the picture within a week after breaking up with your girlfriend. You've gotta give yourself time to heal before jumping into the sack with someone -- ex or otherwise, or it'll get a whole lot messier.
Finally, congratulations on your job, graduating, and new life coming up.
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