My affair has gone horribly wrong!
Q. Hi, I'm in a jam. Well I'm married for 17 years and I had an affair for the first time in my marriage, I met this guy at work and fell head over heels for him but I told him from day one that I'm married and I'm not leaving my husband for no one, he ...
A. 4 April 2012: You're afraid that he won't forgive you and will leave?!?
That attitude is not surprising -- it took a great deal of selfishness and lack of loyalty to have an affair in the first place.
His safety and his very life might be in danger, yet you'... (read in full...)
My affair has gone horribly wrong!
Q. Hi, I'm in a jam. Well I'm married for 17 years and I had an affair for the first time in my marriage, I met this guy at work and fell head over heels for him but I told him from day one that I'm married and I'm not leaving my husband for no one, he ...
A. 4 April 2012: Do you love your husband?
Here's the thing -- this guy fights anyone who spoke to you. If he is this unhinged, your husband's safety and possibly his life is in danger the minute this lunatic gets out of jail.
If you love your husband, you'll ... (read in full...)
We have a baby on the way and he's speaking to another woman on twitter, please help?
Q. help! I am 8 months pregnant and I just found out two weeks ago my boyfriend of a year was talking to other female on twitter when i asked him about it he told me he just be playing with so I put him out in an attempt to get him to see that he was ...
A. 4 April 2012: Natasia's absolutely right. I think all I'm about to do is say the same thing in a different way, but I want to make a point:
Blocking his number, throwing him out of the house, and telling him not to call you are Nuclear Events when it come... (read in full...)
Do I follow my heart and chose one guy or stay with the other guy and always wonder "what if"?
Q. I have been in a relationship with Daryl for 2 years now. He has a child with another woman and we have definely had our ups and downs. I do not get along with his family at all. But I'm pregnant. I love daryl he's a good guy and he's been talking ...
A. 3 April 2012: Hold on -- before I get all romantic with the whole "Notebook love" vibe, you mentioned that 4 years ago, he wanted to leave his fiance for you, but your brother took issue with it?
4 years later, is that fiance now his wife? Is Kyle now a marrie... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 3 April 2012: You *did* have a bright future ahead of you. Now you don't.
You do realize that you went to Vegas with friends, right? They know what went down there. They know you were disloyal, even though I'm sure you denied getting naked with a stranger... (read in full...)
Is he more than a sex buddy?
Q. My sex buddy and I consider ourselves a but more than that we hold hamds , and after sec once I tried to leave and he pulled me onto his bed. He likes to wake up to me , we open up when we hangout with friends it's no surprise when we kiss. He saw ...
A. 2 April 2012: The only way these questions will ever be answered is by TALKING to him. If you can't have a conversation about what kind of relationship you have or want, then you shouldn't have sex with him. A sexual relationship isn't a good idea if you can't ... (read in full...)
Sent my FWB some pictures of me, should I ask him to delete them? Or should I trust that he wont show anyone?
Q. okay i don't really know where to begin, but i met this guy 3 months ago, and after talking for a few months, we decided to be Fwb( this was mid Feb) we have seen each other once since we agreed to be fwb although we have not actually had any sexual ...
A. 2 April 2012: I'm with Cerberus on this one. What's done is done. Best thing to do is to end contact with him, since both FWB AND sending nude pictures are poor judgment.
Just learn the lessons, move on with your life, and hopefully you'll disappear from his... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to say to a child "I will break your legs"?
Q. Do you think its right that a mother would say to her own child "I will break your legs"?. My mom said this to my little brother who is nearly twenty but still lives at home. Apparently someone approached her and said he was with her daughter buying ...
A. 2 April 2012: It's not like he's 4, so there isn't that imbalance of power that causes statements like that to cause an undue amount of fear in a little child.
Some families interact using hyperbole. Statements such as "Come in after curfew again, and I'll gro... (read in full...)
Do all girls squirt? Do they ejaculate?
Q. hey i know that this is a weird question but have to make it clear...in boys case cumming means ejaculating but what does it mean in a girls case?do they ejaculate too?what makes them tell that they are cumming?? actually me and my gf are sexual...
A. 2 April 2012: The vast majority of women do not "squirt", and those that do aren't doing it using the same mechanics that cause men to ejaculate. With some women, the contractions squeeze on their Cowper's glands, causing the secretion of the Cowper's fluids. ... (read in full...)
Ended up having sex with another man while at my bachelorette party at Vegas!
Q. ***Before I begin, please don't judge me for what I did, I already know it was wrong, and I feel horrible*** I am enganged at an amazing man who I love very much, our wedding is about a week away. This past weekend my girlfriends and I went to Ve...
A. 2 April 2012: You need to tell him. He deserves to know that you were unfaithful before he commits to you personally and financially. You had casual sex, which put you at risk for a disease (doesn't matter if a condom was used or not), but even more ... (read in full...)
Broke up a year ago but I'm missing her and want her back
Q. Me and my girlfriend of about 1 year broke up a year ago. We both moved on and started seeing other people but I'm finding myself missing her again, I'm thinking about her all the time and I'm starting to want her back... I've no idea how she feel...
A. 1 April 2012: If she's with someone else still, then leave it alone.
If *you're* still with someone, then leave it alone! You didn't mention if the someone else you were seeing is still in your life. If she is, then don't be a cheater!
So I'm going ... (read in full...)
Was it wrong that I had sex with my best friend's son? His dad and I are not in a serious relationship and never have been
Q. I had sex with my best friend's son. His son is near my age and though we have had a past including being intimate, part of me doesn't see it's that wrong but the other part does. His son pursued me for a while, flirted, we went out together to ...
A. 1 April 2012: Your best friend is a guy who is obviously older than you by hopefully 20+ years or so? This is really awkward, and if it came out, you may have just torched your friendship with the guy.
How would you feel if you had a daughter and your guy... (read in full...)
I now regret taking him back after his fourth cheating episode!
Q. my partner of two years has technically cheated on me and i have taken him back for the fourth time and now i am regretting it what should i do?...
A. 31 March 2012: Technically cheated?? Either way, he was disloyal to you. Why do you reward disloyalty with loyalty??
What's making you stay in this relationship where you keep getting hurt over and over? Are you afraid of the future?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks of me as a breeding factory, if I can't have kids, he'd leave me!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 2.5 years with someone who is wonderful, caring, supportive, etc. We have been through a lot, and I sincerely saw him as the one. He already considered us married but it doesn't work that way for me. ...
A. 31 March 2012: I'm glad he came to his senses and started talking. I didn't think it was about fertility in the end. Hopefully, he'll keep talking and you two can put together a plan that addresses your long term financial goals.
... (read in full...)
My Friend will not associate with unattractive People, is this common?
Q. I'm 40, he's 22 and we've only been friends a short while. He's very intelligent - and I thought deep, until he told me that he doesn't associate with unattractive people because it badly reflects on him. He's heterosexual and his male friends ...
A. 31 March 2012: Let's say your friend said:
"I only hang out with white people"
"I only hang out with people with money"
"I only hang out with young people"
"I only hang out with non-smokers"
"I only hang out with (fill in the religion)"
"I only ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks of me as a breeding factory, if I can't have kids, he'd leave me!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 2.5 years with someone who is wonderful, caring, supportive, etc. We have been through a lot, and I sincerely saw him as the one. He already considered us married but it doesn't work that way for me. ...
A. 31 March 2012: Oh, one last thing.
This is not about fertility! This is not about breeding factories.
(Just making sure I emphasized that).
Sorry this happened to you...... (read in full...)
Boyfriend thinks of me as a breeding factory, if I can't have kids, he'd leave me!
Q. I've been in a relationship for about 2.5 years with someone who is wonderful, caring, supportive, etc. We have been through a lot, and I sincerely saw him as the one. He already considered us married but it doesn't work that way for me. ...
A. 31 March 2012: Wow, I am going to go in a massively different direction with my advice than the previous aunts. I'm seeing a few things here that disturb me, and I think personally, OP, that you were set up.
I think he wanted to call it quits with you all alon... (read in full...)
What are the boundaries of cheating?
Q. Ok so I feel like I should know this already but I don't. What are the true boundaries of cheating on ur bf/gf ??? Cause one of my friends thinks it's when u have sex with someone else, another thinks it's when u make out with someone else, so ...
A. 30 March 2012: The boundaries of cheating are different for everyone. Some people consider porn watching by their partners cheating, while other people live in open relationships.
The real test is - what would you have a problem with your boyfriend doing?
... (read in full...)
I agreed to an open relationship, he said we'd talk about it once I was back off holiday but still no word....should I mention it?
Q. Ok, so I've been seeing this guy for the last six weeks. 4 and half weeks ago, he said he could only be in a relationship with me, if he had the chance to have sex with other women otherwise he wouldn't be happy in the relationship. so I said I ...
A. 30 March 2012: Ugh, if this were my boyfriend, the relationship would never have made it to Week 4, much less week 7.
He's exposing you to a *lot* of risk, wanting a relationship with you yet having sex with many women. Add to that the knowledge that he'd nev... (read in full...)
Do you think I should lie and tell my family that I have a job, or should I just tell them the truth?
Q. I'm nervous about going to a family party this weekend. I'm unemployed, and my family members have really good jobs, and they seem posh ( i'm not saying that in a bad way ). They live in different parts of the country .I am from a very small town ...
A. 29 March 2012: You're focusing on your ego and forgetting a golden opportunity here. I know it sucks to be unemployed, and everyone else on here has it right in saying that in this economic climate, you're very far from alone. Most people have friends or ... (read in full...)
What is the meaning behind my ex sending me a text "good luck with your life"?
Q. My ex just sent me a message saying "good luck with your life".We broke up two months ago, why is he contacting me?.When we broke up another time before that, he got intouch after a couple of months then too and he sent a message saying he hoped my ...
A. 29 March 2012: If your life is better off without him, then ignore his tweet. If you keep breaking up and getting back together, then maybe it's time to move on.
I say ignore.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend lost her license for 5 years. How should I handle it?
Q. My girlfriend lost her license for five years. We have been dating for eight months. We both have children and we live about 45 miles apart. How would you handle this situation?...
A. 29 March 2012: Hold on a second. Why did she lose her license for five years? I just looked up in different states reasons for a revocation of that length, and they all were for pretty serious and/or repeat offenses, usually hinging around DUI's or drug ... (read in full...)
Can men and women really be just friends?
Q. I have got my girlfriend over 4 times with guys on a compromising positions, when I ask her about these guys she says they are her friends only and nothing else. Okay my problem is I told her severals times that I personally don't believe on such ...
A. 29 March 2012: I think there are very rare, and I mean RARE circumstances where men and women can truly be platonic friends, but I would be highly suspicious about hanging out with 4 guys in compromising positions.
There are boundaries in platonic friendsh... (read in full...)
I can't get out of this affair!
Q. Hi, I need help. I am a maried woman and mother of 2 and had an affair with a man i met on the internet. About 6 months after the affair started my husband found out and i asked him to leave the house because at the time i thought i was in love ...
A. 28 March 2012: There's a saying you can't unscramble an egg. No amount of crying and pining and regret will ever change what you did, and why.
The thing is -- you're still with him. Why does this guy have the power to "not let" you leave? Do you make your own... (read in full...)
Do any of you have this fantasy? Have you acted on it? Was it fun, or do you deeply regret it?
Q. My wife and I have this recurring fantasy of me watching her get picked up by a guy at a bar or club and hooking up with him while I watch from across the room. The fantasy always stops short of sex, and never involves them leaving the bar, except ...
A. 28 March 2012: Here's the thing. You're fantasizing on this with the eyes of a man. It *will* unlock a door for sure. The real danger in this is precisely the same reason why women don't fare as well in a Friends with Benefits situation. Women all too often ... (read in full...)
Instead of investing in us and our family b/f buys a flat! What's wrong with him?
Q. What is going on inhis head? Myex and Ibroke up several months back, we have 2 kids so we have to be civiland havecontact. to cut a long story short, I waited a long time for him to commit to me and our kids, when I thought is finally got the chan...
A. 28 March 2012: You're not married to each other. No matter how long people play house, that doesn't equal a commitment. You both had 2 kids, you both lived together, you both had sex, but unless you two invested your lives together in marriage, there isn't a ... (read in full...)
She's the one who is getting him to cheat on me!
Q. the guy that i've had a crush on finally asked me out, we've been dating for almost a week. and i think he's cheating on me. he's been texting my friend ******** and she's always getting him horny. at first, she said she was happy for us both ...
A. 28 March 2012: *She* isn't doing anything to you. Focus everything on your crush. He keeps texting her. He IS the player type if he's saying anything to this girl besides "BACK OFF". He wouldn't get horny unless he wanted to be so.
She's interested in your ... (read in full...)
Dumped for a rich guy: was girl being shallow or practical?
Q. Yeah so a couple weeks ago this girl I was seeing for a few months. Really pretty girl, my friends even said he was hot. I'm an average guy, maybe a 6 on a scale of 1 to 10. I make a decent living but def not rich. Anyway, to make a long story short ...
A. 27 March 2012: I thought about this question for a bit, and I think I should respond to you by reading between the lines of what you wrote, rather than only respond to what you wrote.
There are two issues at play here. The first is your ego. I feel for you,... (read in full...)
I messed up and my girlfriend broke up with me, how can I turn this around? I need her back!
Q. I lost someone dear to me. My girlfriend. I messed up and she saw where I had flirted with other girls on facebook. I lied and said it wasn't me. The truth came out. We broke up, and exchanged violent words. Man have I messed up! I want her, so bad ...
A. 27 March 2012: Yeah, Cindy you said it better than I did!
With respect, I didn't post to "have a go" with the OP, hurtbutstronger, and I didn't have any malice towards him when I wrote what I wrote. I wasn't trying to kick him while he's down. However,... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend with my heart, but I can't trust his "friend" whatsoever. Should I be worried that something will happen between them?
Q. Here's my situation: I've been officially dating this guy for a little less than a month, though we've been together for about a month and a half... When we first met we instantly clicked! I couldn't take my eyes off of him, and from what everyone...
A. 27 March 2012: If it takes him a while to get over it, he shouldn't be dating other people. He shouldn't have contact with her. She's not a friend! She's a love interest!
You've been dating less than a month. Right now, your relationship is just beginnin... (read in full...)
I messed up and my girlfriend broke up with me, how can I turn this around? I need her back!
Q. I lost someone dear to me. My girlfriend. I messed up and she saw where I had flirted with other girls on facebook. I lied and said it wasn't me. The truth came out. We broke up, and exchanged violent words. Man have I messed up! I want her, so bad ...
A. 26 March 2012: Right! Why not face to face???? And, why on earth were you flirting with other women on Facebook anyways?!? I wouldn't trust what you said either and would have a really hard time taking you back.
What reassurance does she have that you don'... (read in full...)
I love him to bits but he is hurting me all the time! Should I stay or should I go?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for almost 3 years, but lately we are having a lot of arguments. He has started to become friends with these other guys, at first I kept telling him to go out with them because I didn't want him to feel lef...
A. 26 March 2012: He's already broken up with you. You just keep hanging onto him though. He got all of his stuff out of your house, tells you to F off, tells you he doesn't want you anymore,
It's already over! I know he's pretty much your first, but if he ac... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend with my heart, but I can't trust his "friend" whatsoever. Should I be worried that something will happen between them?
Q. Here's my situation: I've been officially dating this guy for a little less than a month, though we've been together for about a month and a half... When we first met we instantly clicked! I couldn't take my eyes off of him, and from what everyone...
A. 26 March 2012: If I haven't said it before, they can't be "friends" if he's had feelings for her. That's out of bounds!... (read in full...)
I trust my boyfriend with my heart, but I can't trust his "friend" whatsoever. Should I be worried that something will happen between them?
Q. Here's my situation: I've been officially dating this guy for a little less than a month, though we've been together for about a month and a half... When we first met we instantly clicked! I couldn't take my eyes off of him, and from what everyone...
A. 26 March 2012: Nothing else matters except this:
"BUT, there was another girl that he has been trying to go out with for about 4 years"
That's all that matters! If he's got you, why has *he* been trying to go out with her?? He's calling her "psycho" because... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and he cheated on me. Should I give him another chance?
Q. im 19 years old and my boyfriend is 21 years old. Last week my boyfriend went clubbing with his friends and brother while i stayed home alone. I am 6 months pregnant with our first---twins. While he went clubbing he started dancing with this girl ...
A. 25 March 2012: Hold on, something's not adding up on this one.
He cheated on you LAST WEEK, someone taped it, and she already knows if she's pregnant?? That seems too soon unless she's either lying or is pregnant by someone other than your boyfriend, which se... (read in full...)
How do I know if her emotional affair got physical?
Q. I think I am ready for a divorce. It has been 15 months since I found about my wife's affair. She was having an affair with my little cousin brother/best friend. He is married also with one child. We have three children, and have been married ...
A. 24 March 2012: Kissing *is* physical.
But I know what you mean. If they met 6 times, and twice at his place, I bet anything it went physical. 10 months of sneaking off to private places, and it didn't get physical?
If they were together 10 months, I bet it... (read in full...)
The family hate him, but I am falling in love with him
Q. Hello, i am in love with my bestfriend. He is 19 years old like me and we have known each other for 17 years. He lives pretty much two houses away. Our friendship has had its ups and downs. There was a point in time when we didnt talk to each other ...
A. 24 March 2012: Hi Ash -- you missed a huge part of your question, and on this information, the entirety of my advice to you.
Why do they hate him? What do they say about him? Not knowing why they hate him or what context they told you they hated him in is re... (read in full...)
Why does my husband like to mentally undress my female unattractive friend?
Q. My husband has admitted that he likes to undress my female friend whom we have met on two occasions, mentally in his mind. However, he claimed that he doesn't find her attractive and is not fantasizing about having sex with her but merely her figure ...
A. 24 March 2012: The answer is....it's not possible. Come on. "Undressing her" with his eyes means that she's sexually arousing to him. It's gross him telling you that. He needs to keep his eyes and his commentary to himself.
Ask him how he would feel if you s... (read in full...)
We had sex for the first time then he told me about all the other girls he had
Q. Hes been with a lot of other girls, and I want to be the last one. We just had sex for the first time, and when he was taking me home he started talking about all the other girls hes had. It made me feel really bad, but i didnt tell him cause I know ...
A. 24 March 2012: I will agree with C. Grant on this only if he's older than you...as in 3 or 4 years older. Otherwise, if he's your age (13-15), I'd be suspicious that he's lying to impress you because he's self-conscious about his lack of experience.
I say that... (read in full...)
Sexting with a co worker and all of a sudden it just went cold. Why?
Q. I recently got reunited with an old co worker. There has always been some kind of sexual tension between us. He is white and I am black. We live in the South and even though it is seen here, if you want to get up in the community you better not show ...
A. 24 March 2012: This one's easy. You are both married and cheating. I'm guessing his wife either caught him, or he knows she's on to him.
Emotional cheating is cheating. Sexting someone not your spouse is cheating and very disloyal. If I were his wife and... (read in full...)
My wife is matron of honor, and the best man is her ex!
Q. My wife and I have a question about weddings and what to do. My wife has this very good friend. After me, I guess you could say she was her 2nd best friend. She's getting married this summer. She asked my wife to be her matron of honor. My wi...
A. 23 March 2012: This isn't an instance where the wife is going out with her ex behind your back. This is a wedding where she's not there for her ex, but rather is there for her friend -- the bride.
The fact that the ex was her "first" doesn't even factor. ... (read in full...)
She lied to me about her relationship with her husband, but I still have to see her at work. What should I do in this situation?
Q. I am married and in love with co-worker since 4 years. We share very intimate relationship like soulmates. Few months back she got married and she started to hide and lie things from me with regards to her relationship with husband inspite of ...
A. 21 March 2012: You're married, yet you have a trust issue with the woman you're currently betraying and lying to your wife in order to have a relationship with? Any affair, including an emotional one, is built from the start by the destruction of trust both in ... (read in full...)
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