How can I show my boyfriend I really love him with out having sex ?
Q. how can i show my boyfriend i really love him with out having sex with him i am planning to be with him for a very long time any ideas tips it would realy help!...
A. 26 May 2012: Is your age accurate, and you're 13-15 years old??
I will say this to you, that if this boyfriend is after you for sex and keeps pushing the subject even after you've told him you're not ready, and he's actually told you that it's a way to show ... (read in full...)
A hook up from 3 years ago suddenly wants to see me. He just broke up with his girlfriend. Am I rebound?
Q. About three years ago (summer 2009), I hooked up with this guy who I thought could be more than just a friend (and it was a mutual feeling). We tried to make things work between us (sexy/ flirtatious texts), and logistically it never did/could ever ...
A. 25 May 2012: Sure, you could be rebound and most likely are, but it's also possible that you were the "one that got away" in his eyes as well. It sounds from your post that life got in the way of you two being together, and the timing was bad.
I say go for i... (read in full...)
Do I explain to my ex why I deleted him from my facebook?
Q. This is a long story, I will try to condense it... Split with my ex in December. We were together almost 4 years. In that time we were long distance 50% of the time due to me being in Uni. I visited him every holiday. He visited me once, begrudgi...
A. 22 May 2012: You need to come to grips that you were more into him than he was into you. If he's an ex, he should have already been off of your Facebook. Breaking up with someone is a Nuclear Event, meaning it's a finality in a relationship. Can there be ... (read in full...)
I asked my husband to move out but he's acting in front of his visiting family like everything is just fine between us!
Q. i have a controlling Husband trying to prove me wrong and put me down quite often - making jibes at me infront of the kids and not helping out at home generally. I work full time and look after home/ two kids. Etc. I warned him before that i had ...
A. 22 May 2012: I can easily tell you why he's acting the way he's acting. Because he's absolutely right about you. You make empty threats like a toothless lion, and you aren't really interested in his moving out or ending the marriage.
You told him to move out... (read in full...)
He said I stink down there and it's probably the food I eat!
Q. Hey friends, me and my guy were out today evening and we were talking about having sex 2mrw at his place. He asked me if he should full shave? i said its your wish but just wash your men hair down there, so it smells good. He suddenly said that i ...
A. 21 May 2012: Here's the thing, though. The timing is the issue here. Yes, a woman's diet can affect what she eats, sure, just as a man's diet affects his flavor, so to speak. The thing is, a true issue of smell would most likely have had manifested in other ... (read in full...)
He said I stink down there and it's probably the food I eat!
Q. Hey friends, me and my guy were out today evening and we were talking about having sex 2mrw at his place. He asked me if he should full shave? i said its your wish but just wash your men hair down there, so it smells good. He suddenly said that i ...
A. 20 May 2012: Here's the thing. Women always get flak for asking "leading" questions that guys don't dare answer truthfully. Question like "Does my butt look big in these jeans", or "Is she pretty" referring to a celebrity or another woman on the street. In ... (read in full...)
I can't get rid of the feeling, I'm feeling gross and ashamed!
Q. i am a straight guy who is in a long distance relationshp with the prettiest girl in the world..but due to some reasn..my gf and i cant talk everyday..its been 3 weeks since i talkd to her.today on omegle..i came across a bisexual horny guy.and he ...
A. 20 May 2012: You shouldn't feel ashamed about experimenting bisexually. Nothing wrong with that. However, you should be ashamed for essentially cheating on your girlfriend, long distance or not. Imagine if she were doing things like showing her breasts to ... (read in full...)
How can I get a cougar woman? This is a personal choice of mine, and I wish to get me a relationship with one.
Q. Hi, everyone. I have a specific goal that I wish to acheive. I'm in my early 20's, I still am a virgin, I STILL don't know what a kiss feels like, etc. So, I figure, to kill 2 birds with 1 stone, I should get together with a cougar. However,...
A. 18 May 2012: Hmm...I could answer this in more than one way, but I guess one question that kept coming to me to ask you is...are you wanting a relationship with a lady who is older than you, or are you simply looking to scratch a sexual itch with a "cougar" with ... (read in full...)
I fear my vagina isnt good enough for my boyfriend
Q. So, my boyfriend and I have sexual relations. He isnt my first, and well I feel ashamed to have sex with him for that reason... We were watching this t.v show, with Wesley Snipes(black guy) and he was married to an Asian woman, they showed a scene ...
A. 18 May 2012: Hmm, you could improve sexual sensation for him by buying him a fleshlight and telling him to go f*** himself. Seriously, he doesn't deserve you, and he's blaming you for his inability to reach orgasm through intercourse.
It's obvious that he ... (read in full...)
What is the average age when a man feels ready to settle down?
Q. Hi this is just a quick question. I was talking to a male friend recently and he mentioned an average age that men feel ready to settle down. I was just wondering what is a mans average age to settle down thanks ...
A. 17 May 2012: It's less about the age and more about what his friends are doing. A guy's profession plays a big part in this, because if he's in law school or med school, it could be into the 30's based on when his career is established, and mid-20's for a guy ... (read in full...)
I don't have a penis, am I ever going to be enough for him?
Q. When my boyfriend looks at porn, it's of transvestites. i've also found emails where he's talked to transvestites. When i ask about it he gets really upset and denies everything. i'm very hurt that he won't be open with me. He's admitted to ...
A. 17 May 2012: I think you're right. You're not going to be enough for him. Liking transvestite porn is one thing. Emailing them regarding sex is inappropriate, and you'd have to forever look over your shoulder whenever he got a tranny itch that needed ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks I cheated on him but I didn't!! I was with the other guy just to pick out a birthday gift for my boyfriend!
Q. So I'm 18 and my Boyfriend and I have been dating since we were 15. His birthday is coming up in about 3months and I wanted to get him something special for his birthday. And he's been wanting a guitar since forever. So I was planning on getting him ...
A. 17 May 2012: Who was it that told him that you cheated? That's kind of a big deal to know that, because whoever it is has a vested interest in seeing you and your boyfriend split. Obviously, it's someone that your BF holds in high esteem to believe it. Have ... (read in full...)
I've been interested in my friend for over 3 years and our mutual friend asked me not to tell her yet, only for me to find out that he's been having sex with her!! I feel so betrayed by both of them!
Q. I have been interested in a girl for over three years. I've never looked at another woman the same way. We are very good friends and we share a mutual friend. The reason I never said anything to her was because I discussed it with our mutual friend ...
A. 17 May 2012: First of all, I know you're in pain, and we'll get to your friend and this girl in a second, but I really have to ask:
Why the hell did you sit on your butt for three years without making a move??? You had a friend tell you not to say anything... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale.
Q. I don't know if I should worry or not. My boyfriend and I have been together for 10months. He is 20 almost 21 years old. And well... My boyfriend wants to have sex with a shemale. The other day I found out that he's on craigslist looking to have sex...
A. 15 May 2012: Cheating is cheating, whether he's in love with the person he's wanting to have sex with, or whether he wants anonymous fetish sex. Don't put up with that crap. I wouldn't be surprised to hear that he's already cheating on you. This sort of thing ... (read in full...)
I feel so low when my boyfriend talks about other girls
Q. I feel so low when my boyfriend talk about other girls, celebrities ect its like he doesnt understand it may bother me, as if hes talking to one of the lads, what he says with the boys is up to him but it really gets me down when he will complete...
A. 14 May 2012: He lacks manners and respect for you in this area. Would he, when summoned to his boss's office, pass loud gas while discussing business with him?
At dinnertime with his parents, would he sit back in his chair, reach his hand down his pants, a... (read in full...)
Should I give it another go with him or just end things?
Q. Ive been seeing someone for over 3 months now. At the beggining everything was great and couldn't be happier. Recently his ex girlfriend who he has a baby with has been getting involved. Threatening me and saying she will always get him back because ...
A. 14 May 2012: Let me try to be subtle here:
Run. Like. Hell.
Got it?
There is no future.
There is no respect.
There is no winning.
There is way too much baggage.
Your friends aren't idiots.
You will flush your life down the toilet.
... (read in full...)
Should I share this dark secret with my boyfriend?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for about six months, and have a great relationship. However, I feel like a fraud... he tells me that everything about me is beautiful, and I feel ugly and empty inside. He thinks I'm beautiful and he loves me, ...
A. 14 May 2012: I will tell you this, and I know you're wrestling with it inside, but I couldn't be any more ardent and fervent in my opinion about this:
If you've been tested for STD's and came out clean, and there are no children from these encounters, then I t... (read in full...)
I'm already insecure and boyfriend likes to wind me up
Q. I cant stop my way of thinking and its going to end up killing my relationship and probably destroy myself in the process. I have the greatest bf ever, he is the one I know Im going to end up marrying, we've talked about it and everything betwe...
A. 13 May 2012: First of all, I don't think he's bullying you. However, I think he's sending you a message to ease up on him and yourself. He's already told you that he loves you as you are, but you can't let things sit. Not only that, but you're putting ... (read in full...)
I had a huge fight with my crush!
Q. Earlier I had a huge fight with my crush. He vented to some of his friends and of course the girls (especially his friend Emily, that I think likes him) took his side. They act super protective of him and Emily has done and said things to try to ...
A. 13 May 2012: I'm not going to say either way whether you should go. I'm more interested in this fight you had with this guy. What was it about? Starting arguments with a guy you're interested in isn't exactly how to garner the right attention.
All I'll tel... (read in full...)
Can I have other view points please on what to do? My wife is disrespectful and takes me for granted
Q. I married my wife when we were 20. I fell head over heals with her - nothing in the universe mattered. I was in the Marine Corps at the time and we never had money given the terrible pay. I was discharged in '90 and started my civilian career in I...
A. 13 May 2012: I noticed something when I was reading what you wrote. She's spoiled, materialistic, and does take you for granted, which is clear and apparent if what you're saying is true. I want to make it clear that nothing I'm about to say excuses her, nor ... (read in full...)
What are some ways I can stay feeling confident and sexy without his verbal approval?
Q. Help! i recently realized that my boyfriend NEVER compliments me verbally. however, i'm pretty sure he thinks i'm awesome. . . right? or else he wouldn't be with me? what are some ways i can stay feeling confident and sexy without his v...
A. 12 May 2012: You stay feeling confident and sexy by believing that you are. If you know you're beautiful and sexy, you don't *need* to hear it in order to validate you.
That being said, it's a sign of affection to hear it, and it feels really good when you... (read in full...)
We argue all the time and it always seems to be my fault! Should I postpone our wedding? How do I fix this without breaking up with him?
Q. Hi guys, I'm 20 years old and have been living with my boyfriend for a year. Everything was amazing up until a month or so ago, we have been arguing a lot and I'm finding my self taking the blame for every thing bad in our relationship as I am ...
A. 11 May 2012: You're right. With these arguments popping up, you shouldn't even think about being married to him yet. Arguing three times per week isn't normal or healthy, and if that's happening, marriage should be out of the question until it's not ... (read in full...)
Best friend hitting on my g/f. Now that she's told me she doesn't want me to confront him
Q. Hi Guys,i am 24 years old and my girlfriend she is 22. My girlfriend of 3 years told me that my best friend lets call him J(who is also a very close friend to my girlfriend,the 3 of us have been friends since we were kids) has been hitting on her,b...
A. 10 May 2012: I think your girlfriend shot him down enough for the both of you....for now.
However, if there's another incident, then you should confront him. It's okay not to trust him and to distance yourself from him a bit. He made a play for your girlfrie... (read in full...)
If they're bigger are they more sensitive?
Q. Hello, I have a quick question. You know the inner lips of a woman-- the labia minora? You know how some women have longer ones and stuff? I wanted to know, does that increase feeling in them? Like would they be more sensitive than a person wit...
A. 9 May 2012: Person is absolutely right. The source of your nerve endings branch out into the labia, but have nothing to do with the labia itself.
The nerves focus on your clitoris and branch out into and inside the labia. The closer to the clitoris you are,... (read in full...)
Fiance won't leave his ailing mother to move in with me
Q. i have been with my fiance for 4 years. i am 41 and he is 49. he is my true soulmate and we have been very happy together.unfortunately he lost his dad 2 years ago and his mum became unwell so my fiance decided to move back home and look after his ...
A. 9 May 2012: First of all, it's not emotional blackmail for her to tell him that she's lonely and wants him there. He's taken really good care of her, and she's not ready to cut the strings, so to speak. One of the worst traumatic events of all time is either ... (read in full...)
I know I'm in the wrong and I can't stop!
Q. Hi there, I think I really need help, maybe professional.. I have an irresistible urge to snoop in my boyfriend's e mail and facebook. its bigger than me and I cannot stop it, its like satisfying an urge. I never found anything suspicious on his ...
A. 8 May 2012: Abella's right. I'll add that if I ever dated a guy who snooped like that, I'd drop him. If you're so terrified and insecure over your boyfriend's activities and online life, imagine losing him when he finds out you're hacking into his stuff. You ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't seem to want to spend time alone with me
Q. I can't tell if my boyfriend wants to hang out with me or not. Pretty much weve been together for almost a year, and until now we were both at diffrent colleges two hour driving distance away; so this is the first time we are together in the same ...
A. 8 May 2012: It's possible that he's not as into you as you are into him. Maybe it's because you're there and so available to him that he's used to you always asking and making the plans.
Maybe you should get busier in your own personal life. If he wants to... (read in full...)
My friend wants to leave his controlling wife but now she is pregnant
Q. My best friend marriage is a disaster, he always loved another women but still married his current wife. She know about his feelings and was sure that he will get over it. But last year it was very hard so he was going to break up with her and get ...
A. 8 May 2012: I agree with eyeswideopen here.
Understand that if a man is married and is in love and longing for another woman, his wife is going to be labeled as controlling no matter what. She could be the greatest woman in the world, but as long as she's an... (read in full...)
Was he being over the top when he talked about my beauty? And will he still think I'm beautiful when we meet?
Q. Maybe i'm being stupid, i met this guy and he said i was the most beautiful girl he'd ever seen, he couldn't stop looking at me because he said it was hard to believe how gorgeous I was. He kept forgetting what he was talking about, or even what I ...
A. 7 May 2012: Be on your guard. It's not normal for a guy to start gushing all over a woman when he first meets her. He "can't believe" how beautiful you are? Sure, you might be beautiful, but the point is, any guy who gets excessive like this right off the bat ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said "he's the boss of me, not me the boss of him!"
Q. Hello, I have a boyfriend we have been together for 2 and a half years hes and have recently hit some problems and we broke up for about a month, but after some talking we got back together. But yesterday he got annoyed at me for something ...
A. 7 May 2012: Not even in a marriage is someone the boss of someone else. A marriage is a team of equal partners working together.
This guy, in declaring that he's the boss of you, basically just said that he owns you. If you're okay with being his property... (read in full...)
How to I get my point across to my g/f about her drinking without upsetting her?
Q. A little backstory: Because of family history and other reasons, I do not drink. I don't tell others not to drink (though I may try and limit when I can tell they are going overboard). Last summer, my gf went on a trip to a foreign country. Up to ...
A. 6 May 2012: I couldn't disagree more with janniepeg here. She is of age, and she is an adult. Telling her parents would do what actually?
This is about compatibility. Drinking is legal, and she has a right to drink as much as she wants providing she's no... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of my boyfriend's brother during sex
Q. Recently I've been having really weird thoughts about my boyfriend's brother and it's actually starting to worry me. My boyfriend and his brother are hardly anything alike. Looks or personality wise. In fact, people joke that one of them is adopt...
A. 6 May 2012: I think you summed the entire issue up already -- you and your boyfriend used to have a more exciting love life. You've fallen into a routine, and you're getting a bit bored.
What you need to do is redirect your thoughts. If you're getting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is marriage material yet I feel threatened by his intelligence and lash out at him
Q. My boyfriend is exceptionally intelligent. I'm a neuroscience major (4th year), and worked in a lab doing research in the summer of my second year. The study was related to IQ -- regardless, it required each participant take a standardize 30 m...
A. 6 May 2012: Hold on a second. After I finished and sent my post to you, OP, I kept thinking that there was something I left out of my reply. So, I read your post again, and I wanted to point something out to you:
Did you say that he manipulates other wo... (read in full...)
Boyfriend is marriage material yet I feel threatened by his intelligence and lash out at him
Q. My boyfriend is exceptionally intelligent. I'm a neuroscience major (4th year), and worked in a lab doing research in the summer of my second year. The study was related to IQ -- regardless, it required each participant take a standardize 30 m...
A. 6 May 2012: You do realize that criticizing him like that can do lasting damage, even after you make verbal amends? Imagine if he were to mock your weight or your chest? You didn't simply try to cut him down to size, you dealt an ultimate low blow, and you ... (read in full...)
Using my tongue giving blowjobs
Q. I've been reading up on how to give good blowjobs, and I know that using your tongue well goes a long way, but I'm a little unsure about some things. I'm fine giving attention to his sensitive spots if that's the only thing I'm doing, but if I've ...
A. 5 May 2012: Geeze, every time I talk about the details of oral sex, I feel like I'm gonna get into trouble with the mods, because there is a fine line between relaying technique and getting too pornographic. My apologies in advance if I cross any lines here, ... (read in full...)
"I love u," I texted. "Not a chance" from him when I asked if he felt the same way. Now this text. What does he mean?
Q. Hai. Okay i fell inlove with a guy at my school. He was always looking at me strangly for a year. It hit me by surprise and i immediately fell inlove with him. We never talked, im afraid of talking to him because he s one of the most wanted ...
A. 5 May 2012: You go from introducing yourself to saying "I love you"? That's way too fast and looks desperate and clingy. You don't really even know him. How can you know that you love him? Don't ever mistake feelings and infatuation for love. People don't ... (read in full...)
Are some people just not meant to have a partner in life?
Q. I'm 23 years old, and I'm still a virgin. The only romantic experience I had was during my first year of university, which was basically just a kiss. I spent a considerable amount of time working out at the gym as a teenager, and managed to get into ...
A. 4 May 2012: I think that only those who don't want a partner in life don't have one. Otherwise, unless you're an axe murderer, you have just as much of a chance for love as any!
I was my husband's first girlfriend. Until I met him, he had never even kis... (read in full...)
How do I address this question with my FWB without making him jealous?
Q. Hi I am in a bit of a difficult situation and would really appreciate any advice you people can offer I am in a fwb I thought we were together properly for a few months but he told me he didn't want a girlfriend so I evetually got my head around ...
A. 4 May 2012: Your FWB doesn't have the right to be jealous. If he doesn't want a girlfriend, then he is disqualified from burdening you with his jealousy. You are each other's no-strings sex toy until you get bored and feel like doing someone else. You can ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married now. So why does my ex go to such lengths to remind me he is not a jerk now?
Q. I am have been happily married for 4 years now and have a two year old little boy. Recently an ex messaged me through facebook. He was a major jerk and hurt me pretty bad while we were dating. That's why I broke up and never spoke to the dude ag...
A. 3 May 2012: I think Cerberus is on the right track here, and what he's saying is some of the story.
If this was years ago, this guy may, in fact, be wanting to make amends for his past behavior. He might still harbor feelings for you and is wanting to inser... (read in full...)
If your boyfriend did this for you, would you like it?
Q. Ok... well please bear in mind that my girlfriend has only ever been with jerks. For some reason she thinks im too good for her, when in reality its the other way around. She had only ever gone to the cinema really and she would have to pay for her ...
A. 3 May 2012: First of all, you are awesome! I love romantic guys, and just the fact that you're asking this question makes you a keeper in my book! Unless she has serious issues, she'd love it! You have no idea how many girls on here wish their guys were more ... (read in full...)
I don't want to date him if he's dating my friend!
Q. What if he's done something with my friend? I'm starting to like him.? There's this girl I met at my gym a few months ago. We hit it off. She's a nice girl and I like her. We have so much in common. Anyway, there's this guy who works there...
A. 3 May 2012: You met this friend of yours a few months ago, and she dropped out of the gym? This is simple. Talk to her and tell her what's going on. Tell her that this guy asked you out for Sunday, and ask her what's going on with her.
Your decision... (read in full...)
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