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writes:I've just found out I'm pregnant! I'm 16 and I'm really happy because I was trying for a baby. My form tutor at school has somehow figured it out and keeps asking if I'm pregnant. I'm reluctant to tell her because I dont want the information getting around just yet as I'm only about 6 weeks gone. She has sworn not to tell the deputy head but I am unsure as to whether she will tell any other members of staff or my mum? As far as I can tell there is no policy at my school regarding pregnancy. It's not child protection and I'm of a legal age to be having intercourse. Would she have to tell any other members of staff? And if so do they have a right to tell my mum or can it stay confidential? I want to tell my friends and family in my own time. I feel it's too early to break the news yet as I had a miscarriage about 2 years ago when I was almost 9 weeks gone. I'm scared of the same thing happening again so want to wait until I'm at least 12 weeks to tell everyone once the risk has decreased. I do want to tell my tutor that I am pregnant though as she is really supportive and is always there for me. I do not get on well with my mum which is why I cannot go to her. Can my tutor tell any other members of staff? And will they tell my mum? I'm in year 11 and 16 and leave for study leave in four weeks and then only come in for exams. Then I've finished school completely. My tutor is also leaving at the same time. Please help soon because I know she's going to keep asking me tomorrow and she won't stop! I won't be able to hide it from her for much longer because she knows me so well! Also can the school make you take a pregnancy test?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 June 2012): you need to tell the babys father too
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reader, Abella  +, writes (24 April 2012):
 This is good to involve your Mom. I do hope it all goes well.
If you feel the depression ever resurfacing then try something like this one below, or any of the other links mentioned earlier.
http://www.befrienders.org/helplines/
Regards
Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for all your advice and for not being judgemental Abella. I will find a time to sit down and tell my mum sooner rather than later and I will try to accept help. When I lost my baby I pushed everyone away and did suffer from depression for a while but I've got through it and came out stronger the other side
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reader, Abella +, writes (24 April 2012):
As a post script, though this is important. What sort of counselling did you receive to get over the grief of losing your first baby? Losing a baby is tough. You would have gone through some of the stages of grief. Hopefully you would have been helped to move through the stages of grief at your own pace.
But I am wondering if you are also stuck in a stage of grief that is still hurting you inside.
Even if you think you did eventally get over the grief I wonder if there are remarks still ringing in your ears that hurt you deeply when you had a miscarriage.
This is another area to deal with. Ask your Doctor if the Doctor can recommend a professional who can help you to explore your feelings over the loss of your first baby. Just in case there are still some lingering issues.
You will never forget your first baby who will always have a place in your heart. Your second baby needs you to be strong and ready to face life. And the stronger you are emotionally and the better supported you are in every way can only benefit you and your new baby in good ways.
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reader, Abella +, writes (24 April 2012):
Hi
You sound strong and resolved for the path you have chosen.
Just be aware that it will not be easy and that it is OK to ask for help, seek help and make use of help.
You Mom may have her own issues that she is grappling with.
If your Mom causes you serious concerns then read the book called 'Toxic Parents' - it is sobering to read. And it has some wonderful advice to overcome the biggest challenges you could ever imagine. For the child of a toxic parent.
The book is likely to be in your local library - though I bought mine online. It is a great guide to dealing with one's emotions if one has had to deal with any toxic parent issues or if one wants to learn and understand just how tough it can be if there are any seriously undermining and distressing parenting issues for a person who has suffered any toxic parenting.
On the other side, from your Mom's point of view she may just be feeling over-whelmed herself. She may be focusing on keeping you safe and hoping that with your intelligence that you want to attend University. But it seems that you want to focus instead right now on a baby. Maybe your Mom had aspirations for your future. And finds she has a strong and determined and focused daughter who knows what she wants and knows how to focus on goals that are important to you.
The things that can bother a parent may be exactly the same attributes and qualities that make a child, eventually, as an adult, very successful in his/her chosen career or calling in life. Perhaps ask your Mom to think about that remark. For what you can and will achieve in life is still a work in progress.
Your Mom may know what she wants to say to you but not be able to communicate it to you without there being a case of uproar on both sides.
There is no one better placed to know which buttons to press than a close family member. They know what makes you happy, what makes you sad. That is why being mean to the other party causes such a huge erosion of Trust. You let your hair down in front of family. You should be able to trust them.
They know when they are making a snide remark or a dig, even if they say otherwise. They know the things to say that will really hurt. That is why families where the trust has been eroded (by doing all those mean things above) are harder to 'put together' again.
Try to think of anything you have in common with your Mom. When she first held you I bet she was filled with love.
When she saw you walk your first steps I bet she was so excited. When she saw you get sick I bet she fussed and worried and took you to the Doctor. If there are problems try to focus on the things you do agree on. There are always something. Try to recall something really nice that your Mom did for you in the past.
When trust goes out the window then so too (often) go the memories of the good times. Recall those memories.
So you want a meal together. Agree that you are both hungry. So you want to eat in or eat or, or make something. Compromise if you must, sometimes. Or think outside the box for a different solution. Don't immediately start fighting about the aspect that you do not yet agree on.
Single out the areas of consensus.
Yes I know it is very very difficult. Especially if you have a toxic Mom who wants to twist your words or go the route that she knows is the polar opposite of what she knows you want.
Getting along with your Mom is preferable.
But I will not lie - there are many families where it is not possible.
Sometimes you have to agree to disagree and leave it at that.
Your Mom should be the one doing some of the fence building. But maybe she is hurting inside too.
Please come back to DearCupid any time you want some support. With over a million answers already and over a quarter of a millions questions asked already there will be an Aunt or Uncle or two or three or four who will be willing and able to give you good advice in the future, when you need it.
Just try to keep calm. That is important and your baby will appreciate it as will you.
If someone is upsetting you then walk away. Some things are not worth the aggro generated. You have a baby on board, so you need to keep it calm.
Once again my Very Best Wishes to you
Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your support abella. I'd never thought about getting pregnant at such a young age but then when I fell pregnant at 14 I started preparing for my life to change and for being a mum. I don't think that feeling ever left me even after I miscarried. I felt like a mum without a baby. I've done child care before and baby sit and I love it. I know a lot of people here will disagree but I'm mature for my age. I'm no longer interested in boyfriends, parties, drinking etc. I eat well and do everything possible to ensure a healthy pregnancy. I have all the right medical support in place but just don't want to have to go through the drama with my mum and school again until it's necessary because of what happened before and I hope you can some how understand my decision.
Two of my closest friends know I was trying for a baby. I have a lot of savings that were left to me as well as a job and already have plans for child care from a trusted friends aunt who is professional and I would not be led on by men or anyone who thinks of me as vulnerable. I like to think I am quite strong and not easily led or persuaded. Thanks for the advice and warning though :)
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reader, Abella +, writes (23 April 2012):
well done for visiting the clinic and taking the folic acid. Please take good care of you. At 16 you may feel confident about the future and all it holds.
But it is uncharted territory and I do hope you can reach out for far more support as I think you will need it.
you will appreciate that help once you start tapping into all the help resources available to you in England.
What has been the strongest motivation within you that has driven you to want a baby so much? It must be something very important to you. It IS a huge decision. I know you will need support, the sooner the better. More so after your baby is born.
Time never stops still with babies and children. They never stop growing and learning every step of the way.
And babies are babies for such a short time. Then toddlers and then nearly ready for school. Three to four years can go so quickly. Or seem such a long time, with all the incessant demands a baby and then a child will make on you. Babies only know that they have a need and that you will fix things for them and make it all right for them.
Then there will be all manner of things your child will want and need once they start school. And at home.
ThIn fifteen years when you have reached your early thieties you will be a parent of a teen yourself. And maybe a grandmother by the time you reach the ages 45 to 50.
The time will fly.
Time for dating boys will be restricted. And as a vulnerable young Mom you also need to be careful of some people who target such vulnerable young Moms. Thinking they are an easy target. Be extra careful of any one who is way too eager to baby-sit your child. Your child will rely on you for love and protection at all times.
Sadly, too, some men automatically assume a single parent woman is 'easy' to seduce, so steel yourself to deal with such low-lifes.
Try to tap into support of a good local community group where you can learn to trust good people and form good friendships with other young Moms as a support base in your area.
If you can please borrow some books on pregnancy and on parenting. There is still so much to discover and learn.
Please take extra good care of you. For this is a vulnerable time for the two of you.
Best Wishes
Abella
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): I was raped at 16 and fell pregnant and due to religious reason and stict family, I had to keep it. I couldn't sit my GCSEs so I failed. And what have future do I have? A teen mum with post-traumatic stress disorder, no qualifications, unable to talk to anyone and a baby I have to feed.
Although I do love her, think it through. There will be other times you can get pregnant. Don't be like me.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (23 April 2012):
 Yes ? A steady, lucrative , secure job at 16 ( while you are still in school ) which will enable to support in full autonomy yourself and your kid ? With no degree, no specialized skills, no job experience ? and , out of curiosity, where is the baby going to stay while you go to your full time job AND to school at the same time ? Oh please get real. In your own best interest.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (23 April 2012):
 OP, you have two choices.
1. Hope this all stays secret and risk the life of your unborn child because you were too immature to take responsibility for yourself.
2. You are open and honest from Day 1, act like a grown up and put the health of your child first.
- as a side note, women still die from complications during pregnancy, so it is essential that you get the correct medical attention. The risk is far greater for teenage girls, as your body is NOT fully developed.
Why are you concerned about keeping this secret? What are you afraid of?
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reader, Abella +, writes (23 April 2012):
Thank you Cerebus for the heads up on the Doctor confidentiality. I will keep that in mind. Your advice is always soundly based.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionAnd just because I do not wish to tell my mum and I'm wary of the school finding out does not mean I'm disregarding my health. I've already been to the clinic to confirm the pregnancy and I'm taking folic acid
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionJust for everyone's information I have a steady job and also a lot of money saved. I'm not just some girl who made a mistake and will end up on benefits. I'm predicted good grades at school.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): OP Abella has given you great advice, except she is wrong about doctor patient confidentiality. 16 is the age of consent for medical treatment in the UK but 18 is the age when you can have confidentiality. Now doctors will keep things confidential for 16 year olds if they believe there is no risk, but you are a massive risk OP. You have had a miscarriage before and you are at high risk for serious complications. Also the fact that you won't go see a doctor, planned this and won't tell your parents shows a distinct lack of responsibility.
It's not a judgement OP, it's reality, you want to be a mom but you already don't want to do what's best for your child. You'd rather risk another miscarriage and permanent damage to your health than face your responsibilities.
OP a good mother would never let pride get in the way of making sure that her child has the best possible chance in life. You're not even giving your child the best chance at being born, you're just keeping it secret and crossing your fingers. I wish you the best but honestly I fear for you and your child. There is something very seriously wrong here and this isn't going to be the beautiful little birth you think it will be unless you get medical attention as soon as possible, unless you get your parents on your side to ensure you eat right, have enough rest and do all the things necessary to ensure that this child has the best chance possible but you're just burying your head in the sand. I'm sorry but if you can't even do the simple task of going to the doctor and telling your parents then you're not ready to be a mom.
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reader, Abella +, writes (23 April 2012):
Schools may vary. But teachers do often talk amongst themselves. So once a "secret" is shared then it is often no longer a Secret.
Your Tutor though does sound very supportive.
You should not be showing until you are around three to four months. So if you are already showing at six weeks you may be very tiny. This is why you need to take really good care of you. And your baby.
Doctors though are supposed to respect privacy and confidentiality.
And there are specialist support agencies that will (usually) respect privacy. Accordingly I have listed some possible resources that may help you.
The first thing I thought of is that you need a wealth of support. You certainly need to see a Doctor and start your care program to ensure you are getting all that you need as well as that your baby is getting all that your baby needs.
I have always taken Calcium supplements when pregnant as I do not like milk and rarely cheese. Just the yoghurt and all the vegetables I like would never be enough enough. You may also need to supplement the iron you consume from food sources. Your Doctor will also explain why folic acid is very important for your baby if you are not eating enough of this essential nutrient.
Please consider making an appointment with a doctor as soon as possible and if you are not comfortable with the first one you choose then consider asking for an alternative. Though I am sure the Doctor will be supportive. Tell the Doctor to please respect your need for confidentiality.
Though your Mom will need to know eventually. Maybe your tutor can provide you with additional support when you break this news to your Mom if you and your Mom do not always enjoy a happy relationship.
Please consider a visit to your nearest Citizen’s Advice Bureau. They are free and they will know good local sources of support you can access. I do not know where you are situated so I have just included one to allow you an idea of what they can do to provide you with help and a list of resources to help you.
The Gingerbread people - see below can explain what benefits are available to support you financially in England as a single teen parent in England
Across England you also have the Brook organisation. I have included some links below.
www.brook.org.uk
http://www.brook.org.uk/pregnancy/having-a-baby
or call the national Ask Brook helpline: Free and confidential info for under 25's – Ask Brook 0808 802 1234 (this is for England)
http://www.brook.org.uk/pregnancy/having-a-baby#school
http://www.teenissues.co.uk/coping-as-a-teenage-parent.html
Gingerbread-Teenage Pregnancy Floating Support – Stoke-on-Trent
www.gingerbread.org.uk/content.aspx
Helpline: 0808 802 0925 - for one parent families - and what benefits are available.
(this is just an example - there are hundreds of CAB all over England. Here is just one: Citizens Advice Bureau. ... Stoke-on-Trent City Council, Civic Centre, Glebe Street, Stoke-on-Trent ST4 1RN, UK.
What you are contemplating is not going to be easy. You will be giving up a lot and the burden will be heavy at times. And expensive. Try to purchase a new cot but some things you need can be obtained as second hand items.
You are going to need to draw on all your strength and all your energy to do this. There will be sleepless nights. There will be times when it will see over-whelming. This is why seeking support from every available source from Good People is so important.
All the sites I have suggested above are, I hope, FREE ones. If any are not FREE then write to me please, and tell me, and I will cross them off my list of resources to use in the future.
And remember what other people think of you is THEIR business, not yours. Let them worry about THEIR business. Your first priority now is to decide what is best for you and your baby and how you will go forward and how much help you are prepared to accept to help you get through this.
I became a single parent due to becoming a widow. And yet I can tell you now it was not always easy. There are pressures. When you baby is not well and you have the flu as well it is difficult. Your baby will rely on you 24 hours a day and 7 days a week.
Is the father of the baby prepared to provide real support when it counts? Or is he unavailable? If the latter it will not be easy. So lean on others for all the support you want as you will need it.
Try to make peace with your Mom if you can, as the first three months after the birth are so very very tiring and you will appreciate an extra pair of hands to help you in so many ways, if your Mom is willing to help you
Best Wishes
Abella
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (23 April 2012):
 It is up to your tutor to decide what she wants to do with the information you give her. Because you are under 18 you are a child, you are still at school (even if it is for a few weeks) therefore you are technically in the care of the school until you leave. If your tutor feels you are at risk she may tell another member of staff within the school (most school have counsellors or specialist people who deal with the pupil's personal problems).
My boyfriend is a teacher, and he has to keep all information given to him by a pupil confidential, however it is a legal requirement for him to tell the appropriate person at his school (the school counsellor) when the child is 'at risk' i.e. being abused at home, pregnant, struggling with a bereavement etc. So if your 'tutor' is a standard teacher in the school then for legal reasons she will have to tell someone who is qualified to deal with the pupil's personal problems.
So I doubt the information will get back to your mum. But this tutor may have to tell someone else at school otherwise she would be compromising her job.
But as the other aunts have said - even just for the sake of your health, you need to tell your parents and get all the help you can. You have had a miscarriage before, and teenagers are medically prone to more problems when pregnant so you need to get help.
I'm not going to judge you on what you have done - you are already pregnant so there is not a lot we can do to change the situation. I am very sad that as a taxpayer I'm going to be paying for another child to have a baby and live in a council flat free of charge, but there we are. I just hope you raise your child with better morals and values than the ones you currently have yourself.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (23 April 2012):
It's not just your life. The heck it is. It's the life of a poor innocent creature who would deserve the kind of mature, sensible, unselfish nurturing that you are so obviously not ready for.
And, it's the life and the money of UK tax payers who see other very important health and social services being eliminated or cut down because public resources have to accomodate the misguided, whimsical decisions of brats like you.
When you'll be able to pay for everything out of your own pocket (prenatal care, childbirth, hospitalization, C- section if needed,pediatrician, housing, childcare, food , clothing, school and after school programs, etc.etc. ) then nobody can say anything ( well, not really, there is still the moral issue of the social, emotional, psychological disadvantage you may expose an innocent child because of your irresponsibility ).
Until you put your hands into your parents 's or ,worse, your community's pockets, they are entitled to judge and disapprove.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 April 2012):
 P.S. The average cost of raising a child to the age of 18 in the UK as of January of this year is now 218,000 pounds.
Who is paying this amount?
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (23 April 2012):
 "I'm not going to answer any judgemental comments as it's my life and I will choose how to live it"
I will not be apologising for what I am going to say.
Your behaviour is absolutely disgusting. You are an incredibly immature, selfish and stupid little girl.
This are not just my words...these are the words of every person reading this article, every teacher at your school, your parents and every parent of your friends. You will be pushing your baby around and this is what every adult will be thinking. I hope you can live with this jugement every day for the next 6 years.
"I'm going to go and get myself pregnant because I WANT A BABY AND I CAN DO WHAT I WANT BECAUSE ITS MY LIFE!!" Do you not see how much you are acting like a spoilt little brat? Do you not see how you will be damaging yours, your childs and your familys life?
Celtic tiger has said everything else.
As a UK citizen who pays taxes I am incredibly angry at childeren like you who make stupid decisions and are causing this country to fall further into recession. You can't understand this now because you dont have a job or pay rent, tax, utilities but one day you will and I hope when you realise just what a shitty decision you have just made you will be thinking "Oh crap, I dont have enough money for hot water, electricity and to feed myself and my child, maybe I shouldent have got myself pregnant at 16".
Judgemental yes, but someone had to say what everyone is thinking. And in this case, every parent and tax payer has the right to be judgemental.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 April 2012):
With all due respect, it's not your life until you live on your own. In a matter of months, this whole issue of confidentiality will be nonexistent.
You can't live your life while your decisions cost those around you. What will happen if the reason you fear to tell your mom and friends (a second miscarriage)comes to pass?
Will you try again for another baby? Sorry, but unless it truly *is* your life, you are doing a grave disservice to all of those you involuntarily force to accept the risk of your actions.
I say again to you -- it's not yet your life unless you can take the risk of a child without costing someone else financially and their time. Because you're pregnant now, that point is moot, but the point of telling people now isn't. It's not your life. I'll say it again...it's *not* your life. Your mom has a right to know, and it's unfair that you're making this decision to not tell her while she supports you unless you are planning to move out before the baby is born, become emancipated, and not cost her one single cent in supporting your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI'm not going to answer any judgemental comments as it's my life and I will choose how to live it. Thank you for advice so far. I really hope she can keep this confidential. She knows about my previous miscarriage and didn't divulge that info
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 April 2012):
First of all, I'm not going to judge you. However, I see a real stumbling block in your scope of thinking at this moment. Imagine driving a car at 100kph at midnight on a dark country road, and instead of having headlights, you're holding a small flashlight out the window and hoping it'll give you enough adequate light to see what's ahead of you. Anyone trying that one out will eventually and quickly find themselves more intimate with a tree than they want to be.
Likewise, you're not seeing the forest for the trees. You're not putting on the high beams of your brain any higher than "can my tutor tell on me".
Like I said, I'm not judging, but do you have your house in order? I mean, when you go on vacation, you pack a bag, tell your friends, save enough money, plan the hotels you're going to stay at, buy the plane ticket, decide what you're going to wear and what you're going to do, and so on.
The first question is -- are you living with your parents? If you're a dependent, this means your parents are caring and providing for you, and that means for your baby as well, since you cannot live on your own yet.
Second, will this child's father take an active role in parenting? Has he secured financial means to help support your new baby?
Third, who's going to care for your child while you're at school? Are you going to drop out?
My point is this -- I get why you want to wait to tell your family if you're at 9 weeks, but your mom has the right to know of your decision TO have a baby, because you're not making decisions for yourself right now. You're spending your mom's time and money too, since you cannot take care of yourself.
A decision to have a baby turns into a decision to have a toddler, which turns into a decision to have a kid, which turns into a teenager, etc. Your tutors, your mom, your friends and family are your greatest support system, and while you're looking at the downside of telling them (i.e. shaking up their world and yours), there are upsides too.
Understand, you're spending other people's money, allocating their time, and changing their lives. Because they love you, and your child will be their family, you need to bring them into your life. Because they love you.
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reader, Hugh.J +, writes (23 April 2012):
 "Celtic tiger", I think you may have missed the point. Living off benefits is the aim of "pram-faces"!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2012): Okay you have a lot of questions, here's the facts.
There is no law to say your tutor must reveal this to your mom but ethically they must because you need to go see a doctor as soon as possible, if they withold this information and you have complications then they lose their job and all trust in their ability to perform their job with their students best interest at heart. Especially because you previously had a miscarriage. It is essential that you go to a doctor. If your tutor tells no one then they break a lot of ethical rules that we teachers are trained to uphold, it is in your best interest for your parents to know as soon as possible. OP it is in the best interests of your unborn child to go get medical help here ASAP, if you want to be a mother then you have to put your unborn child first and take the bit of aggro your parents throw your way. You see you can't just wait 3 months before you go see a doctor OP, the first three are the most dangerous and you have no right to doctor patient confidentiality because you're not 18 and your parents will be told.
Basically OP you have to tell your parents so you can get care, you are running the risk of another miscarriage and you risk infertility and the ability to bear children in the future. It's time you do what you have to to protect yourself and your unborn child. Your parents are going to find out soon because your tutor will tell them. You should tell them first and get the prenatal care you need as soon as possible OP or you may lose this child and lose the ability to have children in the future. You have nothing to fear by telling them. Even if they're pissed for a little while it will pass.
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (22 April 2012):
You may be over the legal age to have sex in the UK, but you are still under 18, so technically still a child, whether you like it or not.
Because you are a child and would be classed as a "teen mum" you would be considered to be more at risk, with regards to medical problems etc.
The fact that you have already had one miscarriage (at 14!!!!!) suggests that you should not keep this to yourself. You need proper medical supervision from Day 1. That means telling your parents, and getting their support.
If you are mature enough to have sex and 'plan' to get pregnant, then you are mature enough to face your parents and take responsibility for it.
As for the school and your exams - again this is something that needs to be out in the open. You obviously have no plans to continue with your education once you have done your GCSE's which I think is terribly sad. But, when you are sitting your exams, you could be suffering with morning sickness, and feel very bad and potentially risk your exams. You may be physically unable to sit your exams at all.
If you are unable to sit your exams, you will fail.
Your school needs to be aware of this, in order to put into place other measures, which could involve re-sitting your exams after the baby is born.
The school needs to be made aware of your condition. Not only have they got your safety to consider, but also the safety of everyone else around you. You could get pushed in the corridor, you could faint.... they need to know what they are dealing with. Health and safety. If you truely value the safety of your child, you need to be open and honest about this.
In order to have any kind of decent living when you are an adult and to be able to support your family, you NEED to get your GCSE's. Really, you should also continue with A Levels to get the best possible start, that will enable you to have a well paid job and not live off benefits.
How do you plan on supporting your baby? Have you considered how you will pay for it, clothes, food, where will you live, who will support you?
You need to tell your parents, tell your teachers and they will be able to help you get all the things you need. Medical appointments,antenatal classes, emotional support.
Now is the time to start acting like an adult, be open, honest and truthful. Time to take responsibility for your actions.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (22 April 2012):
 You can ask to speak to your tutor in confidence, but your tutor can't promise to not say anything to anyone else. She will only talk to the necessary people, she won't go blabbing it to everyone.
This is actually quite a serious issue and i'm surprised that your school doesn't have a policy on pregnancy! Well one will certainly be written after this! I don't think that any staff members who know would be allowed to tell your parents and if the school doesn't have a pregnancy policy i doubt they could force you to take a test, but don't hold me to that.
I'm not going to say anything about being pregnant and trying for a baby at such a young age... i'm sure others will have more to say on that.
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