Will a vibrator help me regulate my sexual desires till I meet someone and be in a real relationship?
Q. hi all , im thinking about buying a vibrator , i'm 17 and a virgin and i'm not in a relationship and i feel a bit lonely , i want to buy it but i'm afraid it will make me crave sex even more. so i guess my question is will a vibrator help me ...
A. 15 April 2012: You don't have to be 18! It's healthy and a great stress reliever! It's not a replacement for sex, it simply relieves tension. I don't think it'll reduce your desire for a boyfriend, but it'll certainly relieve that pent-up feeling. ... (read in full...)
I usually have high standards, so why am I into this average looking girl?
Q. Usually I have very high standards (it takes a fair amount of beauty to get a 8-10 mental rating from me), but I have recently met this girl who I would have never looked twice at in the street and I don't know why I am so taken with her...?...
A. 15 April 2012: This girl's in a whole different league than what you've previously been used to.
You grew up in the world of CD and digital music, but I can tell you -- I grew up with cassettes. I was totally happy with them, rewinding, fast forwardi... (read in full...)
Are there men out there that are just mean to their kids for no reason?
Q. I have been with my man 7 years we have two kids. Sometimes he is really mean to them yells at them for nothing an cussin at them. Other days he can be super dad I tell him it's not fair I have to watch my children go through that I tell him he ...
A. 15 April 2012: He's cussing at toddlers???
Sorry, but I'd break up with a guy who did that if he refused to quit. Verbal abuse can be just as damaging or even moreso than physical abuse. Those are just babies, and he's going off on them like that??
Your du... (read in full...)
Too much precum ruins the mood for her
Q. Before we have sex with my girlfriend, during foreplay I tend to release significant amount of precum. Sometimes it drops on her or touches her and she thinks that it is disgusting and gets her out of the mood a little. I don't want to wear the ...
A. 14 April 2012: Is she new at this?? Sex is about all those wonderful fluids all over the place, starting with the spit-swapping glory known as deep kissing!
Does she give you oral sex? If she's squeamish about your pre, might I suggest training wheels? ... (read in full...)
How should I flirt with a co-worker who is twice my age?
Q. Ok, well there's this mature lady who works at the same company as me. In my opinion, she is sexy as hell. She's a bit more than twice my age. Infact, her son, who I knew personally is three years older than me. INFACT, her son has two kids, which ...
A. 14 April 2012: Whatever you do, don't call her a hot grandma or say anything that highlights the age difference!
Other than that, she might think that you'd never be interested in her, so all you've gotta do is ask her out! Before you do, think about what she... (read in full...)
How can I lessen the huge amount of anger towards my father and the woman he had an affair with?
Q. Hi, i'm 15 years old, and recently discovered my dad is having an affair. I HATE HIM! How the fuck could he do this to my mom and our family! I found out when my mom found out, and my parents don't believe in hiding things from me and my siblings. ...
A. 13 April 2012: First of all, it's okay to be mad! You don't have to feel guilty about being angry. Your dad shattered your world by cheating on your mom, and it's devastated you.
If you have someone like a trusted adult you who's apart from all this and not ... (read in full...)
He's leaving me to stay with his ex and his children!
Q. I'm having a very hard time...just yesterday, the guy I've been in a relationship with for a year told me he couldn't do it anymore because he hurt too much from not seeing his children. We've been living together for a while now, he recently told ...
A. 13 April 2012: Yep, he's going back to his wife.
He misses her, the domesticity of their being together, and the family dynamic of a two-person household. Soon, sexuality will follow, and they will work at being a family again.
Unfortunately... (read in full...)
My boyfriend smacks other girls butts and lies about it!
Q. Okay my boyfriend is really sweet but he keeps smacking other girls butts and he lies everytime i bring it up what should i do? I have been going out with him for 5 months and i don't want to lose him. Please answer this...
A. 13 April 2012: He's your age? 13-15?
Trust me, you *want* to lose him. Being immature is one thing. Being a liar is a really really bad trait in a boyfriend.
He needs to be careful -- sexual harassment and unwanted sexual touching can get him in trouble a... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to let me pay for his vacation?
Q. I have a boyfriend who I want to go on vacation with. My brother and his girlfriend have been asked to come with us, and it's all looking good so far. We're planning on catching a last-minute flight to save on money, as last minute flights are real...
A. 13 April 2012: Don't do it! Your boyfriend is *really* smart not to let you pay for it and is *extremely* smart not to let you lend money to him.
If you value your relationship, you'll not have anything to do with paying his way or lending him money. Ever. T... (read in full...)
How can I have a relationship when I don't trust women?
Q. All I have in this world is my balls and my word. And I don't trust women. I am not saying they're all bad. I just think when the times get tough, they disappear. And when the times are good, they love you. Am I wrong? With an attitude like this, ...
A. 12 April 2012: You don't trust all women??
Truly, you have failed to understand the most basic fundamental rule in relationships, and now you've utterly committed yourself to making sure that your theory on trusting women must become reality.
First, never ... (read in full...)
Do I confront my wife about her cheating or just file for a divorce?
Q. i have discovered that my wife of six years is having an online affair,as if thats not bad enough the third party involved mentions in his emails about my children being as his own children and says they will all be together as a new family soon,i ...
A. 12 April 2012: First of all, I'm really sorry your wife is violent. Domestic abuse is really horrible no matter what the initiating gender is. If you feel like you are in danger due to her violence, then this is a delicate situation.
First of all, before y... (read in full...)
She's a virgin and I don't know if I can handle it
Q. This is a long one. I'm 22, she's 23, and she's amazing. We've been together for about 8 months and so far she's everything I want a woman. There are just 2 issues. 1st, she lives far away. She is currently going to school in Israel and will ...
A. 12 April 2012: Are you serious?!?
I can tell you this right now -- your love is selfish. You're trying to give her an ultimatum for her to give you sex, or you bolt?
You should skip the ultimatum and let her go. I actually feel bad for her that she has to ... (read in full...)
Why do some girls look hot smoking and others don't?
Q. Why is it some girls can look sexy when they smoke and others just look chavvy and it's a turn off? When i'm out I see girls smoking all the time, but I don't like smokers I find them disgusting (the smoking). And it makes even the most beautiful ...
A. 12 April 2012: Heh...I'm guessing that you were so attracted to this particular girl that she could have been flossing, biting her nails, chewing an entire pack of gum, letting off a monstrous 3-alarm belch and pulling off a high heel so she could sniff the inside ... (read in full...)
I think we have lost our physical connection, should I break up with her?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for almost two years now and I don't like the way things are going. We haven't had sex in the last 30 days, and before that it was once every two weeks. Also every time I hug her I feel like she doesn't really mean it, ...
A. 11 April 2012: There's a saying -- the body doesn't lie.
I'm guessing that it wasn't always the case? When you first started together, the physical intimacy was a lot more than it was now, and not just the frequency?
How's your emotional connection? Hav... (read in full...)
Virgin, left husband, now dating but not sure how men will react to my virginity
Q. This is a unique situation I am in. Married for 10 years. Never consummated my marriage with my husband. I am still a virgin. We are now separated and heading for divorce. This was not the primary reason for us splitting. There were other issues ...
A. 11 April 2012: I don't know if this will make you feel better or worse, OP, but given what you said to us in your follow up, you are no longer a virgin.
Legally, penetration, however slight, is enough to complete the act. If he even got a centimeter in, then... (read in full...)
This girl I work with is cheating on her fiance! Should I tell him or stay out of it?
Q. Should I say something? Or say out of it? There is a girl Ive worked with at work that I got to know very well. Ive even met her fiance about four or five times when he stops over at are work to pick her up which they will be getting married ...
A. 11 April 2012: The girl is a co-worker. It can get really awkward at work if she knows you busted her.
I know how you feel, and I'd be writhing too with the information.
Boy, I'd either tell the fiance ANONYMOUSLY or have a heart to heart with her and ent... (read in full...)
Everyone knows we will never get married except for my boyfriend!
Q. Can anyone help? To cut a long story short, I've been with my boyfriend for 2 years. 10 months ago he asked me to marry him but it turns out he just wanted a wife to live with and look after his parents. I told him I didn't want to get married...
A. 11 April 2012: So, my understanding is that you want to marry him, but you do NOT want to live with his parents and assist in caring for them? That's understandable -- you want to start your own family instead of just being free labor.
The issue is whether ... (read in full...)
Virgin, left husband, now dating but not sure how men will react to my virginity
Q. This is a unique situation I am in. Married for 10 years. Never consummated my marriage with my husband. I am still a virgin. We are now separated and heading for divorce. This was not the primary reason for us splitting. There were other issues ...
A. 11 April 2012: The Aunts before me make good points, but I think this actually could be an issue with guys you meet in the future.
The *reason* why you didn't have sex during the 10 years that you were married is a big issue. If it was for medical reasons ... (read in full...)
She was a virgin when she met me but had dated a guy before me, I get so jealous because of this! Am I wrong? What should I do?
Q. I'm 5 years of marriage and i am my wife's first man, she was virgin before me i wasn't. The fact is she used to date a guy by distance and we have a lovely friend who is this guy parent! I get jealous everytime we have to go to a child party or to ...
A. 10 April 2012: She was a virgin before she met you.
You were NOT a virgin when you met her.
You have 100x the sexual history that she did, yet you're obsessed with her interest in some other guy before she met you?
There's something really obsessi... (read in full...)
Can it be harmful to have sex during a period?
Q. So..me and my girlfriend had sex while she was on her period. ( please don't judge) I was wondering if this was bad in any kind of way? Like can it harm our bodies and stuff like that. Thank You...
A. 10 April 2012: No worries about judging! It's a matter of personal preference whether or not you and/or your partner want to have sex while she's on her period. Some women like it, others don't.
As far as if it's bad, nope! Not at all! The only thing to... (read in full...)
I lied to her and told her I am still a virgin
Q. Before I officially went out with my girlfriend, I was a virgin. However, during the time I was getting to know her (we weren't going out yet), I had sex with two other girls. A few weeks after we actually decided to make it official that we...
A. 9 April 2012: I'll say this -- do not even think about sex with her until you come clean.
Heh...you're in some hot water, I think you know. You were seeing this girl (getting to know her, you said), so she was thinking you were beginning a relation... (read in full...)
Why does he press on my bladder area during foreplay?
Q. Hi, My new partner likes to press down on my bladder area just above the bikini line during foreplay but this really makes me want to pee. Is there any reason why a man would like to do this? I'm so worried I will eventually pee on him but I als...
A. 8 April 2012: I'm guessing that someone in his past really got off on it, or maybe HE gets off on that, since the bladder will press on the prostate or the clitoral area/G spot. That's probably why you like the intensity of it, though you also feel discomfort.
... (read in full...)
Should I try to date this gym rat who reminds me of my ex husband?
Q. I met a new guy and he says he is falling for me - I am uncomfy with that. I have just started dating again after taking almost three years off after a BAD relationship. The new guy tells me how he is falling for me and that he can see us together ...
A. 8 April 2012: He hasn't known you for a week, but he says that he's falling for you? You're right. You should be nervous. There would be something off-putting about smothering affection and the "falling for you" talk all in the first week of knowing each ... (read in full...)
My FWB chose another girl so why does he act jealous?
Q. I'm confused.My best friend is a guy,and we've had a..well..more than friends thing for over a year now.Nothing official,and I guess people would call it friends with benefits.We do act like a couple,and everyone thinks we're together.A couple of ...
A. 8 April 2012: Heh...Janniepeg. :)
If I think about elks, the images running through my head are the male elks spraying their territory and themselves. Kinda makes me forget that I was trying to make any sort of analogy! My parents made me watch way too many... (read in full...)
In 6 months b/f is going into the Marines. Do I just let him go?
Q. I'm 14 years old and a freshman in highschool. My boyfriend of almost two months is 18 and he's is a senior. I've had the biggest school girl crush on him since the beginning of the year. One day, I was eating lunch alone and he walked up to me and ...
A. 8 April 2012: Actually, it's not your decision to make. Whether you emotionally let him go, or you try to hang onto him, he's going.
You're 14 and he's 18. There's too much of an age gap at this point in your life, and you're going to experience such new thin... (read in full...)
I can't stop crying, I want my ex back!
Q. I am crazy about my ex. We broke up last May because we were so far apart. Now we live 20minutes away. I've seen him a bit since I moved closer but he only comes around for like a week then disappears again. He has done this too me three times. The ...
A. 8 April 2012: You've gotta stop playing games! The whole "get him jealous" thing and telling lies about your life is an immature move on your part.
Before you think about crying, think of how he's treated you. He comes around once in awhile, has sex with you... (read in full...)
My FWB chose another girl so why does he act jealous?
Q. I'm confused.My best friend is a guy,and we've had a..well..more than friends thing for over a year now.Nothing official,and I guess people would call it friends with benefits.We do act like a couple,and everyone thinks we're together.A couple of ...
A. 8 April 2012: It's an ego thing. Imagine a kid with an action figure. He gets bored with playing with his action figure and gets a new one. He's playing with his new action figure, but he doesn't want any other kid playing with his first action figure.
All t... (read in full...)
Where is the 'clit' on a girl?
Q. i saw it before, like, being talked about, but i dont know ware it is. im just really curious, u know? i am confused about that an i never learned that stuff either. we dont have that at my school. all we got taut was not 2 get stds and stuff....
A. 7 April 2012: Sex for the first time *can* hurt, but there are many things you can do to minimize discomfort. After the first time or so, sex definitely doesn't hurt.
What causes the discomfort is your hymen, a thin layer of skin that covers over your vag... (read in full...)
Where is the 'clit' on a girl?
Q. i saw it before, like, being talked about, but i dont know ware it is. im just really curious, u know? i am confused about that an i never learned that stuff either. we dont have that at my school. all we got taut was not 2 get stds and stuff....
A. 7 April 2012: Don't worry! Nothing is stupid about wanting to know more about yourself and your body. The more you know, the better off you'll be. The *last* thing you want is some guy telling you what will feel good to you in order to get what he wants.
... (read in full...)
Where is the 'clit' on a girl?
Q. i saw it before, like, being talked about, but i dont know ware it is. im just really curious, u know? i am confused about that an i never learned that stuff either. we dont have that at my school. all we got taut was not 2 get stds and stuff....
A. 7 April 2012: Hey! First of all, good to see you on here! We're happy to help you.
First, to get a basic diagram of your anatomy, go to Wikipedia.org and look up "clitoris". This will give you some good scientific-sounding info on what it is, a picture ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend said even though marrying and having children with me would muddy his bloodline, he would overlook it!
Q. Im a 26 year old british asian female, my 31 year old bf is a white american male. We have been together for a few months and recently he expressed a desire to have kids one day in the future. Of course this is great! I would love children with ...
A. 7 April 2012: Good god almighty, what's this studmuffin's day job, running around with a pillowcase on his head and burning crosses??
First of all, please please PLEASE do not think all Americans are like that. This guy is a brown stain on the underwea... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: Wait a second!!!!
You had sex with him after 2 weeks?!?
If you're this cautious about someone in order to run a background check, then you should hold off on sex for a lot longer! There are personality traits that wouldn't show up on a bac... (read in full...)
B/f has pics of his ex saved on his computer and says that he still loves her, but in a way where he cares about and worries about her
Q. Hi. I have been with my bf for 18 months and he recently told me he still loves his ex, but in a way where he cares about and worries about her. He tells me I am his future etc. This initially caused some tension between us but I want to believe ...
A. 5 April 2012: Hmmm...is he in contact with his ex? After 18 months, he shouldn't be seeking out new pictures of his ex and saving them to his computer. That's a bit off, and sounds like he's not quite over her, to be honest.
His saying that he still loves he... (read in full...)
Should I just have a one night stand?
Q. I'm a female in my mid twenties and haven't had sex in over eight months. I am constantly horny and masturbate almost everyday. I have never had a one night stand with a guy because I always feared stds and what not as well as my reputation because ...
A. 5 April 2012: I'd skip the drink, but as long as you are safe, why not?
I've never liked one night stands, as I usually reserve sex for when I'm in a strong relationship.
One thing to keep in mind -- you say you're picky? A one-night stand is the OPPOSITE ... (read in full...)
How do I change the way I feel about the fact that my girlfriend has had previous sexual partners?
Q. I have a girlfriend with a great personality and character- I find her very attractive and I can see something long term with her and I know she feels the same way. I am 26, and a virgin (not from a lack of oppertunity, but because I am hesistent to ...
A. 5 April 2012: First of all, those reservations are totally understandable. From a woman's perspective, I can tell you that if she's wanting to have sex with you as part of a long term relationship, she's thinking about you.
You might not have thought ... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: I didn't see your follow up when I posted my message.
There's also a fine line between learning from your past and holding your future partners responsible for your past partner's sins. You will hold yourself back and turn even the good guys awa... (read in full...)
Do I tell the guy I'm dating that I did a background check on him?
Q. So, I have been seeing this guy (43 years old) for 2 weeks now, and decided that things have been getting more serious and I should do a background check on him. I do that to anyone I start dating because I have children I need to think about. Don't ...
A. 5 April 2012: I wouldn't do a background check on him unless something he's said or done, or something you hear from someone else about him throws up a red flag. But that doesn't mean not to do it! I would say that you should only do it if you have "probable ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, and not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend.
Q. Hey, so I found out today I'm pregnant, possibly by about 6 weeks, despite using the pill, and I'm not sure how or even if to tell my boyfriend and need some advice. We've been together 18 months now, and are looking for a house to buy together....
A. 4 April 2012: This is a big turning point in your life.
The issue here is whether or not you see a strong future with your boyfriend, or will he betray your trust again.
Both of these things happened in the early stages of your relationship. The sexting at ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for guys to carry a knife?
Q. Hi, I have a short, but somewhat odd question: is it normal for guys to carry knives? A guy that I'm thinking about dating carries one and I don't understand why. I tried to ask him but my friend was there and she just said: "why wouldn't he carry a ...
A. 4 April 2012: What kind of knife is it? A survival knife or a Swiss Army knife are very useful! It always bugs me when people rip open shrink wrap with their teeth!
If it's a huge Rambo knife, and he's always taking it out, or he has a hair-trigger temper, ... (read in full...)
My affair has gone horribly wrong!
Q. Hi, I'm in a jam. Well I'm married for 17 years and I had an affair for the first time in my marriage, I met this guy at work and fell head over heels for him but I told him from day one that I'm married and I'm not leaving my husband for no one, he ...
A. 4 April 2012: You're afraid that he won't forgive you and will leave?!?
That attitude is not surprising -- it took a great deal of selfishness and lack of loyalty to have an affair in the first place.
His safety and his very life might be in danger, yet you'... (read in full...)
My affair has gone horribly wrong!
Q. Hi, I'm in a jam. Well I'm married for 17 years and I had an affair for the first time in my marriage, I met this guy at work and fell head over heels for him but I told him from day one that I'm married and I'm not leaving my husband for no one, he ...
A. 4 April 2012: Do you love your husband?
Here's the thing -- this guy fights anyone who spoke to you. If he is this unhinged, your husband's safety and possibly his life is in danger the minute this lunatic gets out of jail.
If you love your husband, you'll ... (read in full...)
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