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writes:What if he's done something with my friend? I'm starting to like him.?There's this girl I met at my gym a few months ago. We hit it off. She's a nice girl and I like her. We have so much in common.Anyway, there's this guy who works there. She says she chats to him and he's asked her out on a date a few times but she's not into so she kept saying no to him.One day I was ill so I didn't go to the gym but my friend went and we were texting whiles she was there and after her work out she told me she was going to the guys office.I didn't her from her after that. She stopped coming to the gym I asked her why and she says she's been busy with work. She also texted me saying she has something major to tell me.She hasn't told me yet and is been about 2 months now cause I don't see her.This guy has been flirting with me and he's asked me out on a date on Sunday. Now I'm starting to like him he makes me smile.But I don't want to go on a date with him if he's done anything with my friend.I think something happened with her and the guy that's why she stopped coming to the gym and that's that something major shes gotta tell me.How do I find out if anythings happened between them?What should I do? Should I go on the date or not?
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reader, BETTERFLIRT  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 You will not know still be she or he tells you. You mentionned that you start liking the guy that for me is a simple attraction. If you are seroius in wanting something from him then be curious to get the news about their status. Maybe what she has to explain you has nothing to see with her and the guy. Do not pressure yourself because she was flirted by him. That is normal. If she does not love him you are free to give to the boy his chance otherwise profit from his statement to fall in love with. I know this can be bothersome depending on both your and her marital education nonetheless I do not see any problem in this to get someone who was fliting with your best freind. Anyway that is me.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (3 May 2012):
You’re just speculating that this thing your friend wants to confide in you about has something to do with this man, you’ve absolutely no proof. The only thing you do know is that she turned him down. So if she’s a good friend, tell her about the date. If there’s a problem, she should let you know. You are unaware of any history between them: don’t make a decision about whether to go on this date or not on the basis of something that you don’t even know has happened. Make your decision on the basis of whether or not you’re interested in this man, and getting to know him better.
If she is interested in him, or if things have happened, she can’t reasonably be upset with you anyway if you’re unaware. Just be honest.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): Pick up the phone and tell her the situation. No big deal OP. Just give her a call and tell her you're considering a date with him but won't if they've something going on anything happened between them.
Sounds like a bit of a player to me OP using his position and job to score women. I bet she's not the only customer they've lost due to him doing this which is why he's not supposed to be doing that.
Watch your back, because his job is his hunting ground and there'll be plenty of other women there to chat up.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 May 2012):
 You met this friend of yours a few months ago, and she dropped out of the gym? This is simple. Talk to her and tell her what's going on. Tell her that this guy asked you out for Sunday, and ask her what's going on with her.
Your decision is based on whether or not you want to keep your friend. If they're dating, or if she likes him, you should back off of him. However, if she doesn't care, or if you're no longer friends with her, then you can do what you want. The key is talking about it with her!
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