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anonymous
writes:Help! I just found out my my boyfriend of 7 months has cheated on me. He kissed another girl while he was wasted at a party....and Prom is a week away. We already have tickets and i bought a $500 dress. My family is super excired to see us go. Im not sure what to do, What is the best choice?
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reader, YouWish +, writes (1 May 2012):
 Heh, if you drop this guy, and then show up at the prom by yourself or with a friend and tell them what happened, they'll make sure you forget about that sorry sack and have a blast!
Don't let this guy ruin your prom. Have you talked to him about getting wasted and kissing someone else?
Remember, Fatherly Advice gives you some serious wisdom. Alcohol is illegal, and he's getting wasted and making horrible choices as a teenager. What if instead of kissing this girl, he got her pregnant?
Prom comes once in a lifetime. I seem to remember dancing with a few guys at my prom, and I came with a boyfriend!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 May 2012): Lets be honest here, its prom. And I doubt you want to make some huge "independent woman" statement. I know you would much rather go with him than alone. Or with friends. And you bought a 500$ dress! And it was just a kiss, when he was wasted. So heres my idea. Go with him, have a great time, and then the next morning break up with him.
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reader, Latti +, writes (1 May 2012):
I agree with 786! The kiss...he'll never remember....your prom....you will remember FOREVER! Don't let some cheap, drunken kiss ruin your prom & the memories to come. Your better than that! I would have the best night of my life...with him. Look unforgettable, smell delicious & treat him like sh**. At the end of the night....make plans with other friends & lleave him on the curb!
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reader, cutejennykitty +, writes (30 April 2012):
Yay Lucky786!! That's exactly what I would do. A kiss is so not worth $500.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (30 April 2012):
 Do you have to have a partner, is there a reason why you cannot go by yourself?
Go to the prom, put on the best face you have and go as a single, independant woman who doesnt accept cheaters in her life.
You have a week to make sure there will be some girlfriends there who will willingly make you part of their group.
Time to show the world women can get by without having to hang off a man's arm, that being cheated on is not the end of the world, it is possible for women not to fall in a heap when life throws curve balls.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (30 April 2012):
 As a Dad, I'm a lot less worried about the kiss than I am about the Substance Abuse. It is very sad, but if you cant trust him to make good decisions about kissing then can you trust him to make good decisions about driving? and Money? and anything else that might be part of your prom plans?
I could forgive him, at your age, for thinking about other girls. But if he brought alcohol or drugs with him on your date you could be charged with the same crimes he is committing. I could never forgive him for getting my daughter arrested.
In life, people make mistakes. When they do we need to learn to forgive them. But, we do not need to give them our trust right away. So my answer is no don't date guys who get so wasted that they can't make good decisions.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (30 April 2012):
 I LOVE Lucky786's answer... but it takes a very strong person do to that... I couldn't pull it off...
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reader, Lucky786  +, writes (30 April 2012):
 I would wear the dress, get my hair done and go the prom with him. I'd smile sweetly, laugh with my friends, enjoy the music and have a good time.
At the end of the night, I'd hug him and whisper in his ear "thank you for a lovely evening. By the way I knew before tonight that you cheated on me. But even a weasel like you wasn't going to ruin my prom. Now f*** off."
Then I'd leave.
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reader, daniellexxxx +, writes (30 April 2012):
 Hi have you spoke to him about why he cheated on you? I wouldn't put up with it the saying once a cheat always a cheat.. But a kiss maybe a mistake everyone deserves a second chance. But are you willing to give him that and move on and forget about what he did... You need to make a decision..
Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 April 2012): If there is nobody else you can ask, or its not possible that you could just go with a group of friends then my advice my be harsh, but he did cheat after all so then in that case I would act like you forgive him, go to prom with him since the dress is bought and then break up after prom. I would break up with him anyway, because you are both young and he CLEARLY wants to play the field, so move on.
Good luck.x
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (30 April 2012):
 Go with friends instead?
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