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writes:I signed up to an online dating agency and saw an ex of mine on there. We broke up 3 years ago but she had described me as her ideal date! Right down to body type, hair and eye colour, personality traitsDo you think she might just have a type or is she still hung up on me?
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reader, BETTERFLIRT  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Not necessary. This can be a subconsious rejection sign that she wants to completely delete you from her life. Now, this does not mean you were unhelpful even loved by her. Note that we human being fight againts our own mind above all when we want to make head with something.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Sounds like maybe you were her physical type but the personality and compatibility weren't there, as you are her ex. I wouldn't put too much stock in it, honestly.
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reader, person12345 +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Type and compatibility are totally different. My "type" tends to be thin with dark shaggy hair, dark eyes, and sharp/pointy features and then personality tends to be shy and nerdy. I've dated several men who fit that description but I was only compatible with one. Personality varies wildly across different people even if they look the same, have the same interests, and more or less have the same behavioral traits.
I wouldn't read into it that she's hung up on you so much as that she has a particular type she's attracted to. It's been a really long time since you were dating, I think if she was hung up on you she would have tried to be with you again.
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reader, janniepeg +, writes (3 May 2012):
 Having a preference for a type doesn't mean a relationship would work out with that person. She narrows her choices down, to start with. It would only be a bonus if she gets all the size, eye color and personality together in one person. I have a certain size and race I like, but I wouldn't care too much for eye color.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (3 May 2012):
 I don't think she's hung up on you, I just think she is clueless about what she actually wants. I mean if her "wants" is an exact description of you then why on earth did she break it off with you? Apparently you are her dream man!
But no, people just don't know themselves or value/see what is right in front of them, or understand what it is they actually want. I too had an ex who once described the "dream woman" in front of friends, while I was present so I heard it. It was the EXACT description of me. It actually provoked me, when he was the one who dumped me. I mean come on.. My thought at the moment was: "if the perfect woman is THAT then you just dumped her you moron..."
I don't know.. maybe we were too perfect for them? Or maybe they just really have no clue about what they actually need to be happy, and it isn't any of the ideal traits they list up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): Maybe she is lol but it could just be that she want like that type of person weird to me tho u oviously broke up 4 a reason y would she want the same type lol but 90 percent chance she's not over u
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (3 May 2012):
There’s no reason to think it’s not just a type preference. The question is, why do you want to know? If it’s curiosity only, I suspect it’s a question for which you’re not going to find the answer, and if it’s over between you it probably shouldn’t matter to you either way. If you want her back, it’s more important to address the reasons why you broke up in the first place, assuming she either is still in contact with you or would be willing to hear you out if you make contact. My suggestion to you though is to concentrate on finding your own special some-one rather than focus on this, because it may not mean anything that she’s looking for some-one similar to you, and if it’s over it’s pretty irrelevant anyway.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2012): Just her type, if you were her ideal date then isn't logical she would go for that same kind of ideal again?
3 years and the fact she's with someone else tells me she's well over you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (3 May 2012):
 It may be a bit of both. You might have been her type when you dated her, and then again, she might have remembered the good parts of you too. I'm leaning more that it's a type thing than that she's subconsciously pining for you specifically. Just because a woman buys another car of the same make and/or model doesn't necessarily mean that she's pining for the former car. Just means she likes the style.
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