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writes:I have been friends with this guy since high school and we used to live in the same neighborhood. Four months ago he moved away and since then we had stopped talking, about a week ago he texted me and he told me that's he's going to the army for a year or two and he said that he liked me since the first day we met. I know that I liked him too and I told him how I felt. Sometime we spent hours talking and other time he just ignored me or he is waiting for me to text him first and I'm the one always ask him questions he never asked me anything. I don't know why he told me he likes me now when he's going away and does he really likes me? Or he is just a player? He keeps calling me gorgeous and pretty every time is that even mean anything because that's all he has been saying about me? I'm confused I don't know what to believe. Please if anybody can give me any advice that would be nice thank you.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (8 May 2013):
 You're from the US? Did he say he was going into the army for "a year or two"?
If that's what he said, he is full of crap and is grooming you to use you to sleep with you. He's using the tired old "I'm going off to war" schtick because it works.
Army enlistment is 4 years. Not a year. 4 years with an inactive reserve of an additional 4 years. Very rarely is there a 2 year active/6 year IRR. For him to say "A year or two" and being so vague means he wants some quick tail.
There is no future in your relationship. If he is not consistent in communication now, and he is not asking about you as a person and only commenting on your looks, then you know in your heart what this is. He's playing you, lying about how much time he's spending in the Army, and he's a time-waster.
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reader, Abella +, writes (8 May 2013):
 He wants to have a friend who he trusts and who he can write to while he is away.
Yes he's been thinking he likes you and he is interested to get to know you slowly the old-fashioned way.
He feels comfortable with you. If you are happy to be his penfriend and see where it develops from there then trust him like he's trusted you.
A penpal way of connecting is a tried and true old fashioned way to get to know a girl and all that she likes, and vice a versa, from a distance. Once it was the most common way a guy signing up for the military got to know a girl back home. It may work. It may not. But you will sure know him as a man really well, by the time his time away is over. If he writes regularly, and if you reply.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (8 May 2013):
 The "I like you " can be sincere, but I think you may be tryng to get a lot of mileage out of a simple " I like you ".
That he likes you, and precisely that he likes your face and body ( "gorgeous " " pretty " ) can be totally the truth. He finds you attractive- big deal, you probably ARE. That does not mean that he would be interested in having a relationship with you, an LDR as for that. As usual, mind the actions not the words . If he is lukewarm, sends mixed signals, lets you initiate most of the convos, does not want to know anything about you... he probably does not want to date you , or to have anything serious with you. Which, does not make him a liar when he says he likes you. It's just that maybe you want this " like " to bring you in a direction that he is not considering, or not yet.
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