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writes:Ok so here's the deal. Last Friday, I got drunk and high with two of my friends and this guy I'm interested in. I've only known him for few weeks but he's really cute. Anyways I'm on this new medication for depression and I guess it messed with my tolerance or something cause I got drunk really fast. I completely blacked out. The next morning my friends filled me in. Apparently I started crying and asking my crush why he wouldn't sleep with me,repeatedly tried to make out with him,flashed him and my friends, made out with my gay guy friend,and then of course I threw up everywhere (not on anyone, thank God)My friends said he told them he thought I was hot and would sleep with me when I was high not drunk. Obviously this was pre-blackout. So I guess I have a couple questions. Did I completely ruin things with this guy?Is it worth going after him or should I give up? My friends think I haven't screwed up completely cause he's a party guy, but it sounds like I made a complete fool of myself! And I don't want him to think I'm like that every time I drink, cause this has literally never happened to me before. My friend gave me his number and said I should text him and apologize. Should I? Also he and I aren't close enough to hang out one on one, but my friends said they'd be willing for us all hang out. Should I do this? I feel like it'd be so embarrassing and he'd just laugh at me! Help me please!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2013): You are illegally drinking. Im 32 and married with two lovely kids. I suggest first apoligizing to the boy, then waiting till older to party hard.( i had waited until 21, and got drunk hard, i know your problem) And guess what, the guy who i had to apologize to, is my husband, and the father of my children. Good luck sweet heart
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reader, Dionee'  +, writes (13 May 2013):
 I have a friend taking meds for her depression and the number one instruction was not to drink any alcohol while on the medication. How could you miss that? Its either you didn't read the leaflet, there was no leaflet or you weren't told but even so, you should have known.
Don't drink alcohol after taking your meds (that means you've got to stay completely sober for the duration of the prescription which means no alcohol for you at all!)
I doubt that this guy you're crushing on is even a good pick for you cause he saw how drunk and disgusting you behaved and now knows that you've got a thing for him and want to "sleep" with him so now the ball is in his court. He has already said he would definitely sleep with you but when you're not drunk which disgusts me cause he will, and you will be left wanting something more afterwards whereas he will skate out having gotten what he wanted cause he simply knew he would get right with you . . . Is this the kind of person you want to be with?
Since he is a party person, what makes you think that he won't probably leave you after and continue going to parties and picking up little girls like you with his "gOod looks" cause after all, he is "cute" so he will use that to his advantage.
Not saying it will turn out like that but you don't know him well enough to believe that it won't.
You should apologize but leave it at that.
Time to think with your head and not your heart. Don't drink alcohol with your meds and when you're off them, don't drink around this guy cause alcohol will make you do things you have thought about in your conscious mind and blame the alcohol when you realise you've messed up. Something to think about. Just advice but what you decide to do with it is completely up to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 May 2013): When you got the new medication, there should have been a patient information leaflet with it. Go back and read it now; if you don't have it anymore, look up the information online. Look for what it says about drinking while taking the med. There are some medicines that become very dangerous when mixed with alcohol.
Blacking out is really scary, and you were lucky to be with friends instead of someone who took advantage. If your med comes with a "Do not drink alcoholic beverages" warning, listen to it and don't court disaster.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 May 2013):
 First of all, he's got honor if he didn't take advantage of you. That's a plus. Second, if he's a party guy, he understands blackouts and most likely has seen people having them.
Listen to your friends and go for the hangout. Then talk to him...SOBER of course.
Finally, being blackout drunk means you burned out your brain's ability to create memories. That happens because of how fast you got drunk combined possibly with an empty stomach. You must drink responsibly. Alternate drinks with water, eat a healthy meal, and slow down! Blackout drunk is terrifying and has cost some people their lives because of driving, or choking on vomit, or unprotected sex.
It's good to feel embarrassed. But make it more about this guy and make changes in your drinking habits and vow never to make yourself that vulnerable ever again.
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