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writes:Hello, what am writing about is, I was seeing some one about a year ago, he was a prince charming kinda guy, treated me great, about 3 months, my ex was in jail, the one who phy. abuse me, beat me, choke me, just a bad guy, but I was in love with him, when he got out of jail, I went back to him an broke the good guys heart. I'm wondering now if the good guy would ever talk to me again,I made a bad mistake, going back to the bad one. I am not in love with the bad boy any more, I miss my prince, so do I try to con tact him, he told me he was in love with me, do you think he still misses me, I do know he is seeing some one now, but we had a great time together, I know now, I was wrong leaving him. He made me smile, I miss that, Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 May 2013): Stop and think. You broke someone's heart and they moved on to find someone else. You made a bad choice, and want to know if you should back track and re-enter that person's life?First of all, you are old enough to know better. Going through a breakup is hell. Taking a risk and offering someone your heart, only to be rejected for a piece of sh_t???Now you ask if you should make this poor guy re-visit the pain, because...oops, I chose the loser and that was a mistake. You made your bed, now sleep in it.Get on with your life. Leave him alone. You blew the chance you had; because you are a person who makes bad decisions. He deserves better than that. Life presents us with golden opportunities, as a limited time offer. You make the decision then and there, or you live with your choices.This guy met someone else, and now you want to dismiss the other man he met; because you are having second thoughts, and things didn't work out for you. How selfish!Fate protected him from you; and that's how it should remain. Someone more deserving has entered his life.You made a choice. Now live with it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2013): You are human and made a mistake because all humans make mistakes. You have to lead with your heart on this and call the good guy up and say I made a terrible mistake. Say no more and see if he will meet you and talk with you. If he doesn't you still owe him a heartfelt apology even if he says you don't have to give on. If he agrees to meet and talk lay out your heart and tell him everything be absolutely honest. Look him in the eye when talking so you can gear how he feels. He may say what the ---K here? So be prepared for that response. But just maybe you might be given a second chance. Most good guys would do that. But the question will be how long are you willing to work at getting back the trust that got thrown out the window? It is going to be a hard long road back. Are you willing to put it all out there to get a chance at getting the relationship back on track? Don't be surprised if you get that second chance if you don't get the hugs and kisses you enjoyed before throwing it away the first time. Don't be surprised if he acts skeptical at first or seems removed. So I believe any chance at love even the second time is worth the chance. As you know now from your experience there really isn't that many good guys out there contrary to public opinion and your friends. And just maybe God willing you will have a opportunity to get that good man back again. And if you do get him back don't ever ever put your self in that situation again. Seek professional help if necessary. Do what it takes to keep the bond and intimacy together with only him. move forward xoxo
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 May 2013):
 Hopefully you didn't cheat on the good guy with the bad guy, or you pretty much made your bed and have to lie in it, because cheating is a nasty thing to do.
However, if you didn't cheat on him and you broke his heart by breaking up with him before going back to your ex, then you simply should tell the good guy that leaving him was the worst mistake you've ever made in your life. The biggest barrier to getting back with someone you dump is completely in the ego. Give him the vindication that you are really sorry, that you made a horrible mistake, and that you failed to see just how amazing he is.
But if you cheated, there's a trust issue as well as an ego issue. I can't help you with what to say, but it would be that much harder to convince someone you cheated on to take you back.
Also, is this "bad" criminal guy out of your life for good? I mean really for good, as in you terminated all forms of contact and blocked your number, social media, and email to him? Saying "I don't love him anymore" isn't enough. Are you at the point where you don't want anything to ever do with him anymore for life?
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (5 May 2013):
There is no way of knowing if he'll take you back if you don't try. When you do, try to be a apologetic as possible, but don't say anything you don't mean. I guess my first move would be to call him and tell him you made a huge mistake leaving him and if he would meet you just so you two can talk. If he doesn't return any of your calls or says no, then leave him alone. If he tells you no, he might change his mind later, but it's not likely if you pester him, plus you can't wait around for someone that might never come back. You'll have to move on. Either way. You'll probably need to give him some time. I'm willing to bet that he feels a little betrayed.
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reader, loony10 +, writes (5 May 2013):
i think you should stop being so selfish and try meeting someone totally new. who knows if the good guy will want you back, talk to him and ask him. if he says no, know that he owes you nothing and you should move on. you already deserted him once, how does he know it won't happen again?
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