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anonymous
writes: Dear CupidMy bf of 2 years dumped me thru phone. He was very mean and verbally abusive to me all the time and broke up with me yesterday. We started working in the same office 2 months back. I cant quit my job, noone in office knows we are dating, I will be seeing him on daily basis in office, how do i handle not being hurt whenever i see him and he being moved on and im struck with all the love i have for him. Please help me.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 May 2013):
I agree totally with YouWish. He’s been your boyfriend for two years. He’s mean. He’s verbally abusive and he’s chicken shit (breaking up over the phone is the mark of a coward).
IT will pass with time. Best advice. DRESS well. Be well groomed. SMILE and talk to everyone. BE very CIVIL to him if he comes to you. SAY NOTHING bad about him or to him. IGNORE HIM as best you can. IT will drive him NUTS to realize he’s nothing and is worth less than GOO on your shoe.
It will take time. And when you want to scream and rant and rave… TYPE IT OUT… type hard and fast… everything you want to say to him… just do not say anything to him at all. He does not deserve it.
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reader, lady123 +, writes (5 May 2013):
what a complete utter douchebag ! 2years and he just ended it with you on the phone pah ! ...well your much better of without the likes of him...man like that just suck out your energy..he has done you a favour, you really dont need to be with a douchebag like that...go to work as normal, stay strong and resilliant ..be civil and formal and dont chase after hm..your better than this,it will be hard at first but you will over come it..till to the point he becomes a flea in your mind...take this time to heal and just focus on you
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reader, YouWish +, writes (5 May 2013):
Well, if he really treated you badly and was verbally abusive and dumped you by phone like a little coward, be thankful you're not the person he moved onto, because obviously this guy is an immature waste of space for any girl unfortunate enough to have dated him.
Focus on your job no matter if he's there or not. This will take time, but discipline your mind to associate seeing him to feelings of distaste or disgust and pity instead of hurt. 2 years is a long time to be sure, but to be honest, what you're more in danger of is his destroying his relationship with any future women and having him try to weasel his way back with you.
2 years, you see each other at work, and he dumps you by phone. What a gross person and not worthy of your esteem or your pain or hurt. He's a contemptuous coward, and you're better off without him.
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reader, Lady in Love +, writes (5 May 2013):
breaking up out of anger is not something that means you are out of his life for ever! you should worry if he did it face to face because only then it would mean that he thought about and that he is sure of his choice, yet on the phone means that he can not do it face to face because he loves you too much!
do not show him how much do you miss him, act formal, give him the chance to fall in love with you again!
go totally dressed u every day, let every one complement you and get him jealous!
i am sure he will come back crawling when he knows how unimportant his presence or absence is in your life, and if he didn't do it then i am sure another man will fall in love with he improved experienced knew you.
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