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writes: I am dating a guy who is 6ft 4 and thin.I have not been dating lanky men since i was in sixth form.but he is just so different.However. my mum who I am very close with has mentioned I might get bored or feel unprotected as he is not muscly in build. I am not sure what to make of this. Can skinny men protect their women? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): Skinny Popeye looked after skinny Olive Oil ok:)after he ate his spinich.
Mum is talking rubbish and sadly obviously has a shallow outlook on true grit. A hulk can protect you in some way but this does not say that he will protect your feelings or be a gentleman to you.
Get mom to feed him some spinich if she is so concerned.
The MIND and SPIRIT is where true grit really matters.
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reader, dougbcoll  +, writes (13 June 2013):
 "can skinny men protect their women " my answer is yes. it comes down to what is in the person. because he is tall and skinny does not make him a coward. any guy that is worth being with would, and should be willing to fight for his woman to protect her. i am afraid your mum is wrong judging him by looks, or size.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 June 2013): What kind of protection do you have in mind? These days men don't carry swords and don't duel to defend their women. These days you need a smart man who knows how to protect you from financial institutions, scammers, and all other types of indecent people out there. In the rare situation of physical threat, even I (100Kg man) can not do anything against a man who is holding a knife or pistol.I think it's more about female taste. I know skinny guys are not exactly what girls wish for. So I guess your mum isn't attracted to your boyfriend and is trying to change your mind about him.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (13 June 2013):
 I think the best way a guy any size has to protect his woman- and himself- is to keep her out and away from places/environments/situations where things are likely to go out of control and end up in physical violence. Nowadays we live in a violent, unchivalrous society, - lots of people carry guns and knives, and even Hulk Hogan , bare handed, can't do much against a skinny guy with a sharp blade.
Maybe your mom has seen too many old black-and-white movies where the two contendents fight with fairness and sportmanship for the belle of the ball : they take their jackets off, remove their watches, go discreetly in a back alley ( never fight in front of the ladies ), duke it out, and at the end , shake hands with no hard feelings.
Yeah right.
I think the best defensive weapons is your BRAIN. Use it as much as possible to stay out of trouble, and trouble spots, ignore stupid alcohol fueled provocations, and LEAVE if you notice things warming up too much. That's not being a wimp- that's being smart.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 June 2013):
 Your mom is absolutely off the mark on this one. A thin guy can be just as much of a protector as anyone else. Thin can means agile and fast. The best guys in my TKD class growing up were nearly toothpicks, and they could kick the teeth out of a muscleman's mouth before the muscle guy even thought of moving.
But seriously, do you want your primary decision regarding a guy to be whether he's good in a fight or not?? I don't know about you, but some muscle guy with a temper who loves bar fights and drama isn't half as good as a skinny (or heavy!) guy with a brain, a sense of humor, and an overall high-caliber guy.
Skinny guys can easily "protect" their women, but that's about 1/100th of what makes a good man. Personally, I can take care of myself, and I try to avoid fight clubs as much as possible. My son has been in Kung Fu for 5 years through the local network here (he didn't want to be in TKD...grrr), he's skinny and a few years ago, we were sparring (I was wearing pads on my hands) and he nicked my left eyebrow with his toenail. I was so proud of him...and then I broke out some fricken toenail clippers! The little brat almost had TALONS! heh.
I think what your mom was sorta saying was that SHE didn't find him personally attractive. All that matters is if YOU do!
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