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writes:me and m boyfriend have been dating for about two years and a half and now we lived togther for a year and a half. Now he doesnt want to live with me what should i do ? I scared that at the end he wont change his mind. Reply to this Question
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reader, sarahrose20  +, writes (4 September 2010):
well maybe it was just a way of him venting his anger if you fight a lot then back off hes just really stressed i know if this is the case then you prob wanna strangle him half the time n when you feel like that you guys bicker which turns into an argument if this is the case then when you start getting angry say i love you give him a hug n leave the room if he follows say give me 5 min alone POLITELY n you should be able to talk about wat was causing your frustration with him without losing control its a tactic i use every day n it really works as long as you stay calm always remember it takes 2 ppl 2 argue n one to stop
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): The bottom line is that you cannot force someone to love you. If he wants to leave set him free. You know the old saying--if he comes back it was meant to be. Mine did not come back, but someone new did and now we are married with 2 children
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reader, YouWish +, writes (4 September 2010):
 Aww, there's not much you can do about that if he's feeling that way. However, if you both have a lease and his name is on it, he still has a financial obligation to keep up his end of the lease. If he bails on you and leaves you holding the bag, you can sue him in small claims court for his part of the rent and utilities.
However, if that's not the case, then all you can do is let him go. Don't try to change his mind, and don't...I repeat...DON'T get all weepy, clingy, and emotional. In fact, be slightly aloof about it as if you're almost happy he's going. There's a small possibility that he'll be thinking "WHAT?!" and wondering why you're in such a hurry to get him out.
There's a possibility that he just really wants out of everything, in which case, the dignity and strength and composure you display will go a long way to helping you heal, and boosting his respect for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 September 2010): I'm sorry, but if he doesn't want to be with you anymore, there's not much you can do. Try to talk to him about it and see why he feels that way. Have you been fighting about something? If you have issues, try to work them out with him. Sometimes, though, there's no way to fix things; it's just over. And if he doesn't change his mind in the end, then you don't want to be with him, anyway.
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