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female
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anonymous
writes:Hi, I have a new boyfriend, he is 35 and i'm 42, and finally I seem to have found someone who matches me in personality, sexual appetite and pleasures, however, he has a 'girthy' penis.Monday morning I felt like i'd been kicked in the crotch, I felt so bruised, (My labia was sore too, but i know how to prevent this) and I couldn't pee a full bladder, Tuesday, I was peeing better and today I can finally walk and sit without singing ow ow ow.Does anyone know if this is something that will always happen, will i eventually 'stretch' to accomodate him? or do I have to find other ways to not allow full penetration?.I'm gutted, as he is ideal in every way, will his large penis always be a problem? Reply to this Question
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reader, mrvhappy +, writes (5 September 2010):
Hi,
I have had similar problems with my ex's.
The best thing to do is to ensure that you are well lubed to start with..either via foreplay or use something like KY jelly.
The 1st few times, I always let my lady go on top so that she can decide on the depth of the penetration..ie stop when it becomes painful/uncomfortable...and then build from there
Good Luck and Enjoy!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): Lots and lots of lube and less vigorous thrusting on his part. Experiment with different positions and see which ones work the best. Talk to him and work together so that it can be mutually enjoyable for both of you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2010): I wish I could help; I certainly empathise.
I think you should definitely strive to stretch.
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reader, charliesdevil73  +, writes (2 September 2010):
 You should stretch eventually, but seeing a doctor about it wouldn't hurt. If you feel comfortable talking to the doc, ask how to avoid this until you do stretch. And, yes, do use more lube for now, it will help. There may also be certain positions that could help this situation as well.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (2 September 2010):
 Actually my best friend has this same problem..He is too big for girls, well the girls he tends to end up having sex with are nothing but a bag of bones, a few virgins here and there. In fact let me phone a friend on this one...
Results are in...lots of lube is recommended, certain positions are crucial such as from the side and doggie style, and be careful with missionary do make sure your pelvis elevated to aline with his penis, tend to avoid girl on top, relaxing and taking it slow. Sex at minimum of 2 times a week will allow you to adjust accordingly over time. Hope this helped!
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reader, YouWish +, writes (2 September 2010):
 You will stretch until you fit him like a glove. In the meantime, maybe you can use more lube and try to take it much more gently, so as to "break you in", so to speak.
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reader, LLindy87 +, writes (2 September 2010):
 your vagina will probably stretch out over time, it will continue to hurt until then though. Thats really a pity, to be sure I'd talk to a doctor about this, I know its an awkward subject but they would know best.
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