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writes:Dearcupid , iam a 18 year old young women,i started dating last year,and m stil a virgn,i have been dating m boyfriend for over a year and 7 month,he now want to have sex with me,but iam not ready i feel like i need to talk to hm first about how i feel,and the anther thing that is holding me back is that ,i feel like m not recieving enough love from him,plz i need your help Reply to this Question
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (1 September 2010):
 The first part is simple. You don't want to have sex until you're ready.
The second part is not cool. Sex should *never* be a reward for behavior, nor should its witholding be used as a weapon to correct someone's behavior. Just admit that you're not ready, not that he's not doing enough or expressing to you properly how he feels about you.
When you have sex, it's an expression of *your* feelings towards him. That may be in response to his feelings towards you, but make no mistake, your physical expression is yours alone.
If you don't feel like you're "receiving enough love" from him after a year and seven months, then why are you wasting your time with the guy? You should find someone more compatible with you, and you should free him to find someone who is more ready to have sex with him if that's what he wants. There's no right or wrong in this, just compatible or incompatible.
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