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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2011): "Is protected sex before marriage alright?"
Well yes, what would not be alright about it??? :-s
"Or sex after marriage will be better?"
Yes, sex after marriage is also good... probably just as good as it was before marriage...
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (23 March 2011):
 I believe that you as a person need to figure out what your stance is on the subject.
I personally wish I would have waited, at least until I have met the right guy (my fiance) not necessarily before marriage, but I wish I would have waited for him. Because I foolishly gave my virginity (at 18) to someone who I thought loved me, but turned out to only want to be the one to bed an 18 yr old virgin. I got a beautiful son out of it who I wouldn't trade for the world.
I think as long as you are safe while having sex there isn't any harm in having premarital sex. There are people out there who believe it's okay for men to sleep around, but not women but the majority in today's society won't care about your sexual activity.
Good luck to you and hey, at least you are thinking about protection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): As long as youre protected, as you say, i dont feel it would be a problem.
Also.. as long as you are in a serious relationship. Like DoubleM says, i can see that it might be offputting if a girl (or boy/ man too) has a LOT of prior experience. But if you ensure that you only have sex with someone youre committed to then i dont see it as a problem
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reader, DoubleM +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Well, albeit as an older contributor here, I disagree that "in today's society you won't be judged for whichever one you choose," referring to premarital sex versus abstention from sex before marriage. However, I hasten to add that as a teenager in the early 1960s, I was among the first in my "class" to get laid, and rarely was I particularly "safe" about it.
The question could be, "Did having premarital sex affect future relationships?" Well, not very much for me as a young male during the 1960s-70s. But it did matter, to some degree, whether the girls were "experienced." I know it sounds sexist, but even today, please know that many males will be at least somewhat judgmental when it comes to serious marriage potential with very experienced females.
Am I just an old fuddy-duddy? Well, I have friends in their 20s and - things have not really changed all that much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Sex will be better after you've learned about yourself and your lover, and learned how to COMMUNICATE. A marriage certificate will not add or subtract from the process...
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 March 2011):
 BRING BACK THE CHASTITY BELTS!!!!
Just kidding. :)
Realist is right. That is a decision for only you to make. Views on sexuality have changed so much and even now are so different in different countries and cultures.
Your choice is what fits for you physically, mentally, and spiritually.
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reader, The Realist  +, writes (23 March 2011):
 That is a strict matter of opinion. As long as you are safe at all times then it is purely your choice. No one can tell you different and in todays society you won't be judged for which ever one you choose.
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