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writes:I have been married for 3 years. Recently I have been noticing gay porn popping up on our computer. I confronted my husband about and we talked about it. He said he doesnt jerk off to it or anything and its just kind of a kinky curiousity thing, but he keeps looking at it. I dont know if I should talk to him again about it, or if I should be worried or anything.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 March 2011): Okay, he's more than curious, don't believe for a second he hasn't jerked off to it. he may not have cheated on you with another man, but he's definitely hit himself up....
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 March 2011):
 Gay porn may not mean anything except that he's exploring images that arouse him. There are porn images of guys having sex with their lawn tables, but that doesn't mean that they're about to switch sexual orientations any time soon.
I wouldn't worry, but just quietly mentally file it away under "that's interesting". Don't dismiss it, but don't take action based on that one thing.
If he stays communicative with you about it, you have nothing to fear. But if other irregular things start popping up, just keep your eyes open. I'm not saying to distrust him or rifle through everything he has. I'm just saying to keep your eyes open. He has your trust unless he breaks it, not the other way around.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 March 2011): Some people just get off on taboo. Like the dirtiness of it maybe turns him on. He definitely jerks off to it if hes looking at it that much.
So it might be like the taboo thing, the other thing it might be that he is gay or bi.
If he is bi and still enjoys sex with you its no big deal. If he is into you and faithful then it doesnt matter who he finds attractive because he won't act on it.
If he does you have bigger problems.
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reader, St. Nowhere +, writes (22 March 2011):
 Make your call on this. If your comfortable with him doing that then don't worry about it. I personally find it strange that a apparently straight male would look at gay porn. I know you don't want to hear this but your husband might be bi, but he settled down with you because he has a slight preference for females over males. Just my theory. I would try to see a psychologist by yourself or a counselor if it would put your mind at ease
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 March 2011): He's probably bisexual and looking at the porn because it excites him. And he probably jerks off to it...I mean, really. Who looks at porn for any other reason?! I'm involved with a man who's bisexual and I don't think it's a big deal. Your guy is pretty open about it so if you have further questions, ask. Chances are good that if you're open to hearing whatever it is that he has to say, he'll tell you what's going on. And then once you know, you can make a decision as to whether you can live with it or not.
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reader, cupidus  +, writes (22 March 2011):
 That would just freak me out!
But eh, every curiosity is online ready to be found.
Could be he's wondering about a friend or picking up some sexual positions. Or the ultimate, but I wouldn't go there without a full conversation filled with many open questions.
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