Tatoo turn off!!! How do I tell her?
Q. I have a dilemma. My girlfriend has a tattoo. It's not very large, and its right in the small of her back. The problem is, I really don't like it, and for a bad reason. A tattoo in that spot just has negative associations for me: 'tramp stamp' an...
A. 14 March 2008: As an update: here is a strange thing. Totally out of the blue (we've not discussed this in over a year) my girlfriend sits me down and tells me that she's seriously considering getting the tattoo removed. She didn't want my opinion (she knows it ... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at porn? A man's perspective, please.
Q. Why do married men look at porn? I have an agreement with my husband (of 9 years)that strip clubs, magazines, movies and surfing the net is fine...but i found a subscription to a web site that featured one girl. I found this to be pushing it. ...
A. 14 September 2006: Martini you make some good points.
The hypocracy of society on this issue is mindblowing.
For example, here is a recent photoshot from a well known WOMANS magazine that is in my opinion more offensive than the majority of porn...
http... (read in full...)
I'm a 23 year old virgin with a 5.5 inch penis. I feel shy about having sex...help!
Q. i am 23 old virgin and i have 5.5 inch penis .should i feel shy from having sex ? i feel shy :(...
A. 31 August 2006: Men are to penis size like women are to body size.
Men always think their cocks are too small.
Women always think that their bodies are too fat (or too thin, or too something)
Hence telling a man his cock is too small is like telling a ... (read in full...)
Are her orgams real or fake?
Q. I think i gave my girlfriend an orgasm but i dont no! the last three times me and my girlfriend have had sex she has been on top and after about 10 mins she says she feels a pulsing inside of her a few mins later she says she has 1 big pulse an...
A. 31 August 2006: There are orgasms. Then there are Orgasms. And ORGASMS, and O-R-G-A-S-M-S!!!11!!!!11one!!11
It sounds like it mighth be an orgasm. Maybe an Orgasm. But not an ORGASM.
If you are trying to give her an orgasm through intercourse then you're onto... (read in full...)
This older woman at work is copying my style, its awful, how can address this ?
Q. Could somebody please give me some advice on how to handle a situation at work, im 25 years old and have my own sense of style, recently i have noticed as well as many others an older women of about 40 is buying cheap copie of my clothes and wearing ...
A. 31 August 2006: Sorry to say this, but you're being ridiculous. Get over it.
So you have your 'own sense of style'?. Right. Sure you do. I guarantee you that there's a thousand other girls out there with the same sense of style. Probably 10 thousand. A hundred ... (read in full...)
I kissed a guy just after he argued with his wife...was I wrong to do that?
Q. i kissed a married guy with kids and enjoyed it, it was after he had an argument with his wife outside the pub, and she punched him in the face. He told me he was gonna leave her and we kissed i would have done more but my friend pulled me away, i ...
A. 31 August 2006: Yes there is something wrong with what you did. Plenty of things. Here's a few:
- You did something that would be really upsetting to his wife. Why do your feelings matter more than hers?
- You kissed a random man outside a pub and would have d... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask my girlfriend to shave...
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for not that long and just started to have sex, but she doesn't shave. It doesnt bother me that much but I would prefer it if she did shave. How can I approach this problem?...
A. 30 August 2006: It's ok to ask, but don't push it on her if she acts unenthusastic. Its a little bit too porn star for some people... (read in full...)
Can multiple partners harm you ??
Q. i am a single 23 year old woman and i have been into swinging for some time now but i have only ever done it with one person at a time. coming up soon is a multiple partner party were there are anything from 3 times the amout of men then women t...
A. 30 August 2006: The pill is good to be on given your lifestyle, but you should be using condoms as well. Otherwise you could end up with a collection of STDs, perhaps even an incurable one. You probably are, you just didn't mention it.
Other than that any phys... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 30 August 2006: Well I am a ginger haired male. Certainly growing up you get a lot of stick for it from some people. I always figured that if thats the most original insult they can come up with, then they are the ones that are lame.
The girls never seemed t... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at porn? A man's perspective, please.
Q. Why do married men look at porn? I have an agreement with my husband (of 9 years)that strip clubs, magazines, movies and surfing the net is fine...but i found a subscription to a web site that featured one girl. I found this to be pushing it. ...
A. 30 August 2006: The division between him looking at porn from one specific girl, and porn in general, is artificial. It exists in your mind as a big difference, but I suspect very few other people see it as significant. It sounds like your husband doesn't, or if he ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and obsessed with my weight!
Q. hi, im 20 yrs old, i am obsessed with my weight, i go to the gym maybe 3 or 4 times a week, constantly checking my weight, if i even gain 1 kilo gram in 1 week i become very depressed, im constantly checking my body for fat, i feel guilty everytime ...
A. 30 August 2006: For your height and age, your weight is normal. If anything it is a little below, you are certainly not overweight.
It sounds like you have serious issues with eating. You don't sound too thin right now, but if you keep up your behaviour you coul... (read in full...)
I'm 16..he's 15 and he's talking marriage and babies! I need to end this. Any ideas on how to do that?
Q. yey people got a huge problem my boyfriend keeps on talking to me about having kids and starting a family and settling down. and im really not ready for it all i mean im onli 16!!!!! and he's onli 15!!!!! i need to end it now befor it gets too far ...
A. 30 August 2006: When is he thinking this will happen? Is he saying that he wants to get married and have babies one day in the distant future? That's probably fine. But if he's saying he wants to do it soon, then he is way ahead of his time (and not in a good way). ... (read in full...)
She offered herself up for sex and I turned her down! Should I have done that?
Q. hi,theres a girl at school and well we were gettin on real good,and on her birthday the other night,we were both drunk and she got some condoms out of her pocket and offered me sex.i said i gotta go and went home.should i have turned her down?...
A. 30 August 2006: Why did you turn her down?
If it was because you don't find her attractive, or have any desire to be in a relationship with her, or because the moment wasn't right, then you did the right thing.
If it was only because you were nervous and scar... (read in full...)
Why are so many people getting divorced ?
Q. I noticed in a survey that 2 in 3 marriages end in divorce in UK (so will probably be higher in america). Why are so many people in UK getting divorced? Or is it more frequent in certain areas or social classes...
A. 29 August 2006: Malyce is 100% right about the ME thing. I work in marketing, it is painfully obvious that pretty much every project I work on emphasises this more and more. I have sat in marketing presentations where all anyone has talked about is 'empowering ... (read in full...)
Is there different ways for a termination of a pregnancy?
Q. I am worried I might be pregnant. I do not want to go to clinic for an abortion. is there an alternate way of termination?...
A. 29 August 2006: No it is the only way, after the first few days at least.
But if you are not sure you are pregnant, the first thing to do is to go and buy a home pregnancy test and find out. Once you are sure you can decide what to do.... (read in full...)
Why do married men look at porn? A man's perspective, please.
Q. Why do married men look at porn? I have an agreement with my husband (of 9 years)that strip clubs, magazines, movies and surfing the net is fine...but i found a subscription to a web site that featured one girl. I found this to be pushing it. ...
A. 29 August 2006: I very much agree with Pete's points here, and don't agree with the first response.
I find it interesting that men will argue with lines like 'this is a condition of our species' when pornography is a new invention. At least accessible pornogra... (read in full...)
What's the best position for sex???
Q. Im just curious to find out which is the best sexual position....... xxx...
A. 29 August 2006: There is no best sexual position. That's like saying 'whats the best food?'. Everyone has different tastes, and no one likes to eat the same thing all the time.... (read in full...)
Why are so many people getting divorced ?
Q. I noticed in a survey that 2 in 3 marriages end in divorce in UK (so will probably be higher in america). Why are so many people in UK getting divorced? Or is it more frequent in certain areas or social classes...
A. 29 August 2006: Is this the moment where we get depressed about the decline of society, and how things used to be much better?
There are many many reasons.
Divorce is easier to get. Women are more able to support themselves. Divorce doesn't carry a stigma. ... (read in full...)
I really want to make it work, On the other hand I don’t want to be a doormat
Q. My male friend and I (he’s nearly 23, me nearly 31) are getting ourselves in a confused state with one another and need some help. We both really like/fancy each other like crazy. He has asked me to be his girlfriend but I am a little wary of ...
A. 29 August 2006: At the end of the day you will never know until you try. We'd all like to have an easy opt-out of relationships card 'just in case' ... rewind the clock, no pain, no baggage, try again. But we don't get to have that.
I'd caution labellin... (read in full...)
Why wouldnt he have called me ?
Q. there was this really reaLLY fit guy that i was seeing, we went out on 2 dates and we talked on the phone and we went to the pictures and i gave him a hand job and then he went quiet and called me less and less and now he doesnt call me anymore and ...
A. 29 August 2006: It sounds like he changed his mind. Chasing him is probably pointless, it will just be frustrating for you and make him even less keen on you.
Men sometimes play a strange game. They are keen to have sex, and will be keen from very soon after yo... (read in full...)
This is a bit of a Jealousy/insecurity issue, but please hear me out and please help...
Q. Hi guys. This will sound to all of you like a ridiculous problem. I have real jealousy and insecurity issues. I have a long distance relationship with my boyfriend of two years, and Im very aware of how attractive he is. He is coming over to...
A. 29 August 2006: Jealousy isn't restricted to 16 year olds. Especially with a long distance relationship, it can be very difficult to deal with. One of the toughest parts is that it can feel impossible to escape from.
I would suggest your share your feelings... (read in full...)
I'm 14. How do I tell him I don't want to go further?
Q. ok well ive been gd m8s with this boy 4 about a year now and 2 days ago we started seeing each other. I really like him but hes 16 and im 14 and I know he will want to go further with me and I dont know how to tell him how much i like him but not ...
A. 29 August 2006: You just need to come out and say it. It's not easy, but it really is the best way. You'll find you'll be glad you did. You'll be happy that you said it and feel good about yourself, and he will respect you for coming out and saying it (even if he ... (read in full...)
I am so scared that another girl is going to take him away
Q. I have been with my bf for alittle over a year now. Just recently he decided that he wanted to cool things off and be single for awhile. Things are great between us. I knew that going into this relationship he was suppose to have time to himself ...
A. 29 August 2006: In my opinion, what he is doing is not OK. You don't just take a time out from a relationship and put someone on hold like he is suggesting. Relationships are not something that you just switch on and off depending on the emotional weather. ... (read in full...)
After sex this guy didnt talk much to me
Q. so im sleeping with this guy, and he's said things like we're perfect for each other, he wants to know everything about me, and how he's glad i like him for more than just "ass". the thing is, the other night we finished, and he was just hanging ...
A. 29 August 2006: People aren't always in a chatty mood. And one of the good things about becoming comfortable with someone is that you can spend time with them without feeling you have to talk all the time or be entertaining.
I wouldn't make an issue out of it un... (read in full...)
I got a hair cut and it turned off my gf! She ignored me and wouldn't even kiss me...what's up with her?
Q. Right this is going too sound strange but i had my hair cut the other day and i had too much off so my hair is shorter than my usual medium length etc... My girlfriend loves my hair longer and swept over but yesterday she was acting as if i was a ...
A. 28 August 2006: It does sound strange. I hope her name isn't Delilah.
Perhaps give it a few days then ask her if she really does hate your new haircut. If she says yes, ask her why. If you catch her at a good moment you'll hopefully get an honest answer and you'... (read in full...)
Does he fancy me?
Q. I'm 14, does my boy mate fancy me cos he's always txting me like every night. One night he asked if I could send him a picture of me naked! I said no obviously. He always smiles at me when I walk past. Does he like me do u think?...
A. 28 August 2006: From your description, I'd say 99% chance of... Yes!
You did the right thing by not sending your picture by the way. Imagine how it might have felt if that picture ended up on all his mates phones the next day...
So be careful. ... (read in full...)
He used to want marriage and kids, now he doesn't? Do I leave him?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together almost four years. He's 23, I'm 27. We have talked about marriage off and on for most of it, and we always talked about having one child (he certainly doesn't want more.) Now, he's declaring that he doesn't EVER ...
A. 28 August 2006: Ouch. You are in a difficult situation. The kind of age difference you have can be really hard to handle since you have your biological clock ticking and he is still in the young 'don't tie me down' phase of his life. It's hard to reconcile.
I've ... (read in full...)
Tatoo turn off!!! How do I tell her?
Q. I have a dilemma. My girlfriend has a tattoo. It's not very large, and its right in the small of her back. The problem is, I really don't like it, and for a bad reason. A tattoo in that spot just has negative associations for me: 'tramp stamp' an...
A. 28 August 2006: You make a really good point Wendy. The scar will always be there, perhaps that will 'remind' me as much or even more than the tattoo. Or my imagination will find something else to fixate on. ... (read in full...)
I want to try anal sex with my gf but she's worried about the pain! What's the best lube to buy?
Q. my and my girlfriend have a strong sex life we have tried various things doggie style etc etc but now i am wanting to try anal sex she is curious about but what puts her off is the fact that peole have told her that it can be painful but she is ...
A. 28 August 2006: I suggest you look at this web site:
http://www.puckerup.com/
The 'advisor' section has lots of good articles on this and related subjects... (read in full...)
Met a girl while out in Spain, trouble is she lives in Norway!!
Q. I recently returned from a holiday in Spain. I met a girl there and we got really close. She's British but lives in Norway and I live in the UK. I'm 15 and it would be difficult for me to visit her. She's 14 and is under the same circumstances. I ...
A. 28 August 2006: Did you get her contact details in any form? You can email, instant message, text message, and talk over voice and web cam. There's lots of options! (We used to only be able to be 'pen pals'...). You two can stay in touch and then keep a look out ... (read in full...)
Tatoo turn off!!! How do I tell her?
Q. I have a dilemma. My girlfriend has a tattoo. It's not very large, and its right in the small of her back. The problem is, I really don't like it, and for a bad reason. A tattoo in that spot just has negative associations for me: 'tramp stamp' an...
A. 28 August 2006: Interesting to see how harsh some of the responses are here! I hope from my question it's clear that I don't think my wishes in this respect are particularly reasonable. The problem is, I'm still faced with my intense dislike for her tattoo. Thank ... (read in full...)
I practice kissing when alone... is this normal and do others do this ?
Q. hi, 1)first question: im 14 and never kissed anyone before :( but at night i always kiss my hand and pretend its the person i fancy. is this normal or is there something wrong wiv me? does everyone do this? 2)second question: will kissing my hand ...
A. 28 August 2006: It's very normal! Lots of people have done it, though most won't admit to it. People practice kissing all sorts of things (I don't recommend a cactus btw).
As for whether it will make you a better kisser? No, not really :( The only way to get good... (read in full...)
I love him but, He has a hooker pipe
Q. Hi I am 13 and very upset because even tho we have split up me n my x-boyfriend still like eachother and he knows how much I hate the thought of drugs but tonight he said he had a hooker pipe which is like a bong. He has said he has had weed in the ...
A. 28 August 2006: If you are really anti-drugs and your boyfriend is into drugs, then you two are going to have problems. You should consider whether you are right for each other.
I'm not going to tell you that marijuana is ok, but as far as drugs go, it's much les... (read in full...)
He gets hard but can't get off! It's making me feel as if I can't please him. Help
Q. im hoping i can find some advice here.the problem is that my boyfriend has trouble getting off during sex. any kind of sex,even oral sex although he can get off that way sometimes but it can take hours.it doesnt bother me exactly,the only thing is ...
A. 28 August 2006: I have had this problem myself. It's quite unusual, but happens more than many people are aware. It is particular in that most people feel it would be a 'nice problem to have', but in reality it isn't. It can undermine sexual confidence for both ... (read in full...)
My husband is trying to meet girls on the interweb!
Q. My husband is trying to meet with girls on the net. I know cause I go through his emails without him knowing of course. Me and my husband have been going through some problems and im not sure if this is why he's doin this. To be honest, I dont think ...
A. 26 August 2006: Your reaction is very understandable, under the circumstances.
What you could consider is that quite a few people who make contact over the internet, like your husband is doing, are not really planning on going through with it. It's a way of fanta... (read in full...)
Go to the party that my ex will be at and annoy my current GF?
Q. OKay, so I got invited to this party by a good friend of mine, which i know some okay friends will be going to. But the problem is is that my ex-girlfriend is going to be there, and i have no desire to see her until i am forced to by school (seeing ...
A. 25 August 2006: Perhaps you can take your new girlfriend to the party with you? Stay with her as much as you can during the party. She'll probably like to be with you and your friends, and your ex will see you together. If you two play it cool then she can't really ... (read in full...)
My BF tells all his mates about our sex life!
Q. I just found out my boyfriend is telling all his friends about our sex life. I dont know what to do! Should i end it?...
A. 25 August 2006: Hmmm. My experience has been that most girls talk about their sex lives with their girlfiends in intimate detail! Boys rarely do it, and when they do, the level of detail tends to be much lower.
Have you asked him to stop? He may not realize ... (read in full...)
Got drunk, slept with my best male friend. Now I have deeper feelings and am getting depressed about it...
Q. He's been my best friend for more than two years now, and I've been in love with him from the day we met. We recently had a brief fling that started as a night of drinking too much. I knew it was a bad idea because I knew he wasn't really interested ...
A. 24 August 2006: Perhaps just throw caution to the wind and profess your undying love for him? Sometimes this happens to long-time friends and great relationships come out of it.
This may not be the sagest of advice, but sometimes things work out. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
He says he won't get a divorce for 2 years and wants no strings sex. Should I go for it?
Q. I have been seeing a guy for about four months, however he still lives with his ex, I wanted to wait till he moved out before we became serious, but he said he didnt want me to throw away what we had. I thought i loved him and things progress...
A. 24 August 2006: You need to insist on the kind of relationship you want. If he won't give you what you need then you shouldn't sleep with him. Whilst relationships are all about compromise, there are certain fundamentals that no one should compromise: love, ... (read in full...)
I think I was too 'easy' with him. Do I try to win him over or just learn from this experience?
Q. Hi, Ok so here it goes........... I fancy my best mates cousin who is only a couple of months younger than me (im 19) well we all meet up for her b'day and he tried to kiss me whilst i was dancing with him, i pulled away and everything seemed f...
A. 24 August 2006: I'm sad to say you could be right. Some men have an unfortunate switch in their heads that, once they've had sex with a girl, labels her as a 'easy'. You can't win, you are attractive until you give in to the attraction, then you are no longer ... (read in full...)
Newly married. My wife earns more than me, is against me socialising and is FULL of herself! Feel I made the wrong decisision...
Q. Please help me if you can, Well I don’t know where to start, I was a happy successful person, confident with life and my achievement in life and with people around myself, I was going to the gym, meeting friends and family nothing at all excessiv...
A. 24 August 2006: I'll tell you what I think may be going on. I could be wrong, but see if what I say rings any bells for you.
Your description of your wife sounds to me like someone with deep insecurities that are being masked by being an over achiever. This is ... (read in full...)
What to do with my not so "everyday" journals ?
Q. I know this problem may seem a bit silly, but it is worrying me, and I WILL have to make a decision one day. It has been playing on my mind more than usual as my father died recently, very suddenly, and at a young age, so I know how unpredictable ...
A. 24 August 2006: A counter example, for contrast: my girlfriend was in a similar situation to you. She ended up destroying all her diaries that she wrote when she was younger, although she kept the more recent ones. She has told me that she doesn't regret doing it ... (read in full...)
150 girls or less!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and, except for my problems with his past and the number of one night stands he's had, everything has been fine. Today, we were talking about it and he said I'm being silly and I'll never find someone ...
A. 24 August 2006: My best friend has slept with about 150 women. The thing is, he's really very nice, and it is in a way a tragedy. Like watching a train wreck happening in slow motion and you can't do anything about it.
He had a son early, and then was left by ... (read in full...)
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