My married guy has made me wait 5 months, and he promised to leave his wife in 3!
Q. Will he leave her for me? For the first time in seven years I have met someone I really love. Only thing is he is married. The woman he is married to is 10 years older than him She is 51 and he is 41 and I am 29 years old. I have only been da...
A. 3 July 2006: Leave him. If he then leaves his wife for you then that at least shows his intentions.
Read DrPsych's advice... will you really be able to trust him? Trust is much harder than it seems... (read in full...)
What is a posh wank?
Q. I've heard my mates talk about it but I'm too embarrased to ask what they're on about.......... What is a "posh wank"?...
A. 3 July 2006: Modern sexual slang? Seen 40yr old Virgin...
"...its not about these rusty trombones, these dirty sanchez, and these cincinatti bowties"... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me wanting sex with my parents downstairs??
Q. Hiya. I have a problem with my dad. In September, i am going to be starting college and my boyfriend will have a job by then, so that means we will only see each other at night, so we'll have to go in each others houses, the problem is my dad,he w...
A. 3 July 2006: Something you need to know. Almost all fathers HATE HATE HATE the idea of their daughter having sex. It's really hard to think of something that you would hate as much. The idea of it will make his skin crawl, he'll feel angry, irritated, and, well, ... (read in full...)
I slept with him and now he only says hi, if I was to text him what could I say?
Q. Hi i have liked a guy for six months, he has already told me he doesnt want a relationship because he knows he will mess me around. He texts me all the time though. He arranges to meet me but never calls to say lets mett up now, i often see him ...
A. 3 July 2006: Re-read what you wrote, imagine it was written by someone else. What would you think?
"He told me he doesn't want a relationship... I drunkenly slept with him... he hasn't been in touch since ... I can't stop thinking about him... do I need to ... (read in full...)
He is looking at porn and imaybe pregant!!
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my boyfriend for eight years.We have lived together for most of that time.Just recently we have started trying for a baby. This morning I went on the internet and checked the history. Up came loads and loads of porn site...
A. 3 July 2006: This is a common issue. The looking at men bit is unusual, but i wouldn't worry about that unduly. It's quite normal for men to be turned on by other men yet not want to have sex with them. Women seem to like looking at other women too, after ... (read in full...)
My past has given me baggage, but I want to be upfront about it before getting into a relationship. Wrong or right?
Q. I just got back from a rehab center in January. It has been a big part of my life and I am proud of the accomplishments I have made. I'm not afraid to share it, but I come with a lot of baggage. I usually think it's best to be upfront and honest ...
A. 3 July 2006: I do think honesty is the best policy.
It's not easy. By sharing your past you can easily scare someone off, intimidate them, or set them up for jealousy or other difficulties. But it's worth it.
It's worth it because a good relationship rel... (read in full...)
Is it me or is my penis too small?
Q. I am 15 and my penis is about 5 and a half to 6 inches long when erect. I did not see a problem with this until a boy in my class was laughing at somebody else for only having a 6 inch when erect and the other lads al joined in during the day. the ...
A. 3 July 2006: You are exactly average size. ie, completely normal... (read in full...)
My girlfriend thinks I'm too good for her!
Q. My girlfriend thinks I am to good for her, how do i convince her that I am not to good for her?...
A. 30 June 2006: Bev's advice is really good. It is a long term project to help someone improve their self esteem, but you can help. Do remember though that at the end of the day only she can really truly build her self esteem.
People suffer from low self esteem u... (read in full...)
My gf' cannot have proper bowel movemnts after we had anal sex. What's wrong?
Q. My girlfreind and I had anyul sex for the first time now she cannot have a bowl movement unless its small and painful, whats up? please help yours SK...
A. 30 June 2006: She should be ok soon. If it persists go see a doctor. It does get easier but you have to make sure you are very gentle.... (read in full...)
I cant seem to find the right guys to date! What is it I'm doing wrong ?
Q. I seem to have a problem attracting the right men. e.g at work there are 4 blokes that have asked me out. One of them is married and one has a fiance and i am not planning to wreck a marriage any time soon. one is a divorced badboy and the other is ...
A. 30 June 2006: You know, you might just be on to a good thing. It's healthy not to settle for the someone you know is not the 'right' person. It is better to be single than to be with the wrong person (something I wish more people realized younger).
Just ... (read in full...)
He just never listens!
Q. Hi, lately I feel my boyfriend hasn't been listening to me. I don't know how else to encourage him to stop being distracted or be interested in what I have to say. I just feel like nothing I say is considered important to him, and I feel like I ...
A. 30 June 2006: I call that 'being absent'. I've done it, I think every man I know has done it at one time or another. You can talk for 5 minutes getting nods and 'yes', and yet you somehow know that not a word you have said has sunk in. It's like the person is ... (read in full...)
I confessed all because he gave signals he felt the same, but he says hes already settled! How do I face him ?
Q. Arggghhh!!! I feel like banging my head against the computer screen, i feel so stupid! This goes back quiet a while. This guy who comes down the local pub is absolutely gorgeous, he's kind funny and has always been there for me. Once me...
A. 29 June 2006: Well he whispered in your ear that he loves you. That has a VERY clear meaning in my book. None of this 'friendly love' business... what he said can be taken to mean one thing...
... which then turned out to be untrue.
I'm not surprised you fe... (read in full...)
He wants an open relationship, but not THAT open!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for 6 months - i love him alot, i was a virgin before (oral virgin aswell) but i have kissed other guys in the past. he gets mad at me because i have kissed other guys. anyways, he told me that he has sexual fantasys ...
A. 29 June 2006: He is being absurd. Crazy. Nuts. Ridiculous. Trust me when I tell you he is being completely unreasonable. It's ok for him but not for you?? It's really not OK.
It is very important that you are clear about this. If he goes after other girls yo... (read in full...)
My best friends brother told me we're not a couple, we're just having sex!!!
Q. My best friend's brother and I started a relationship, we got on really well and enjoyed each others company. Now he's told me we are just two people having sex and will never be a couple. I told him I thought abit more about him than that and now ...
A. 28 June 2006: He's using you. Stop having sex IMMEDIATELY. Do not under any circumstances sleep with him. Make it very clear to him that if he wants you he's going to have to work at it, and that you're only interested if he wants a serious relationship. Do not ... (read in full...)
My husband don't have an interest in sex with me, just actresses on the computer...
Q. we have been married for 3 years,my husband is no longer interested in having sex with me but i have found that he has been looking at pornography on quite a few occasions,he has admitted that he searches the net for particular actresses and then ...
A. 28 June 2006: First of all, know that you are not alone. This problem comes up often here, many other women are suffering like you are. So don't think that you are somehow being unreasonable or strange or 'different'. You are not.
You have several things y... (read in full...)
How to make "it" bigger?
Q. I dont know how to make my dick bigger? How can i do that im only 14 years old....
A. 28 June 2006: Did you know that 95% of men all want their dicks bigger? And yet more than 80% of women are happy with the size of their boyfriends dicks?... (read in full...)
Lied about my past because it's not me today. Now I've lost her trust!
Q. Help! I have recently lied on my gf for 3 months about my past! I need help on how to regain that trust that we use to have before she knew. Here's the deal. My past is not who I am today, but I lied to her about my past relationships cause it...
A. 28 June 2006: I'm guessing that she has found out you lied?
Then you need to come clean about all of your lie, and especially why you lied. If she feels you are being 100% honest with her (an effect best achieved by being 100% honest...) then she might just sta... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best mates boyfriend!
Q. Please help i've really fallen for my best friend's boyfriend. Me and my best friend have known each other for six years and we are so close we are like sisters. I would never do anything to hurt her. I live in a different country to her now but I ...
A. 27 June 2006: It sounds like him and your best friend are in a good relationship. Because of this you have to suppress your feelings and let them be. It's not easy, but to try to push this would be treachery of the worst sort towards your friend.
Fortu... (read in full...)
Did she only say we could remain friends to let me down gently, can we ever be friends anyway ?
Q. My ex girlfriend has a new boyfriend and after 4 months I still want her back. I dream of her every night. Things are not to bad at work I am just about getting by but I really suffer and miss her at the weekend. She was my first real love and we ...
A. 26 June 2006: I feel your pain :(
There's very little you can do. Just let time pass and the pain will slowly subside. If you are lucky you might fall for someone else, which will provide some relief. However, if you are on the 'rebound' then it's easy to ... (read in full...)
We want to try the "back door" but I'm worried it might hurt...
Q. Does anal sex hurt? Me and my bf have always joked about it and said we never would, but we were drunk and tried it but it wouldn't go in properly. Now I'm kind of turned on by the idea and want to try it again. Will it hurt if he goes in deeper?...
A. 26 June 2006: If done wrong it can be VERY painful. If done right, then not at all.
I reccommend this site: http://www.puckerup.com/. Click the 'anal advisor' section link in the left hand navigation.
If you do do it, just make sure you want to do it. L... (read in full...)
He surprised me by saying he doesn't want anything "too serious", so do I tell him about my feelings?
Q. I've been seeing this guy now for about 3 months. When we first met he was still with his ex-girlfriend and he was telling me how controlling and possesive she was. He told me that he's tried breaking up with her but she puts the guilt shame on ...
A. 26 June 2006: Sorry to say this but this sounds like a recipe for heartbreak.
When a man says "I don't want anything too serious" what he really means is "I'm going to continue fucking you until i get bored and someone else suitable lets me fuck them". T... (read in full...)
He wont look at me or kiss me during sex, why is this ?
Q. How come my bf won't look at me or kiss me during sex and only enjoys doggy position? He has also started massaging my anus. Does he have gay tendencies?...
A. 26 June 2006: It probably has nothing to do with being gay or not.
It sounds like he has intimacy issues with sex. You need to talk to him about it, tell him what you have experienced and tell him that you would like to be intimate with him.
Some things y... (read in full...)
He persued me for 1.5 years now we hooked up for 4 weeks he's already gotten cold feet!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 weeks. We,ve known each other for about 1yr 1/2, everytime we saw each other he'd ask to take me out, but because he is 2 years younger than me i put off the idea. Eventually i agreed, and we had the best ...
A. 22 June 2006: I definitely agree with Irish below. It sounds most like you were a 'conquest'. Once the chase is sucessful, interest wanes quickly. It's horrible to be on the receiving end, especially since he's a long term acquaintance and not someone you just ... (read in full...)
What size of penis do women prefer?
Q. ladies! what size of penis do you prefer? don't tell me size doesn't matter please. obviously 2inches erect is very small and 8 inches erect is very long. but which size do you prefer?...
A. 22 June 2006: Men have the same attitude to their penisis that women have towards their own bodies. Just as women always think there is always something that could be improved (thinner, more toned...), men always think there is something that could be enlarged ... (read in full...)
I'm married but I'm considering this other guy may make a good, potential f**kbuddy..
Q. I thought this 28yrs old guy at work was very attractive and i knew he was in a serious relationship for the last 3 years. I am 35 yrs and married for 16 years and have 3 kids. We talk alot at work because what we do we need to be in contact alot. ...
A. 22 June 2006: Well if you go ahead we'll see you back here in a couple of months which a huge pile of regrets and guilt, and a husband that is divorcing you (and getting custody). ... (read in full...)
Guys turn me on more then girls, does this mean Im gay ?
Q. WOOHAA got some confusing stuff to ask, I'm 21, never been out with a chick intimately, "still pure" lol Never felt the urge to be in a relationship, but I saw a nude picture of a hot chick the other day, I just felt embarrassed and blushed. To...
A. 21 June 2006: You might be, and you might not. As Dr Pete says, don't worry about labels. See sexuality as a blend of many variables. We all have a mix of many things that turn us on, and to a degree all of us have elements of us that are bisexual.
Perso... (read in full...)
Dating a girl who thinks of another
Q. Ive been in a relationship with a Girl who was friends with me 6 months before we start going out, Its been 4 months since we've been going out. The relationship that i have with her is a serious one we both intend to marry and we both have been...
A. 20 June 2006: You could take this as a good sign.
It's quite natural for someone to take a very long time to get over someone they cared about a great deal.
What this tells you is that your girlfriend is someone who is capable of deep connection, and ... (read in full...)
I really like this guy but I am not sure what to do
Q. There's this guy that I really liked and we started going out but now we've split up. Then he's began going out with this other girl. Who's not my best friend but a friend of mine who's also the most popular girl in the school. But now they've split ...
A. 20 June 2006: If you love him then you need to tell him. You've been out with him before, so he knows you and should listen to you. If you can't tell him face to face then write him a letter or message. Just make sure he knows how you feel and then if he feels ... (read in full...)
Should there be more or are we just two lost and lonely souls?
Q. I’m not sure about my feelings for a guy and wanted to clear them up by writing this out. Basically I’ve had a few friendship problems this year – I’ve just finished college but in my first year I was so absorbed in my first boyfriend that I...
A. 20 June 2006: Well there's nothing wrong with you having a close friendship with him, whatever else happens. There's nothing sad about you two 'looking for solace': all of us need solace at different times in our lives and for many reasons. You have nothing to be ... (read in full...)
Worried that my boyfriend maybe cheating
Q. I have been going out with the most wonderful, attentive, thoughtful and kind man for the past 8 months. He has a good job, nice well-kept house, and 3 lovely grandchildren whom he adores. He also adores me, and has asked me to move in with him. H...
A. 20 June 2006: You should ask him about it directly. Don't accuse him or put him on the defensive: you want the truth. Tell him you found condoms in his wash bag and wondered why they were there. Tell him it made you frightened that he might have taken them to ... (read in full...)
His past history of cheating makes me unable to trust him...
Q. Should I trust him? I've been married to my husband for two years, been together for five. Three months before our wedding I found out he cheated on me three times with a girl he met while working at the bar. I have tried to forgive him but he h...
A. 20 June 2006: I'm sorry to say this, but it sound like you are being taken advantage of. I could be wrong.
Here's the thing. The man cheated on you. You forgave him. Having done that he should be very apologetic, and especially he should be very careful ... (read in full...)
Does this guy really like me ? How can I tell ?
Q. Theres this guy i like a lot means he's my friend i just asked him casually would you want to be my boyfriend but his reply was i am busy and haven't thought about it.i know that he is busy but just that i love him and want to know if he feels the ...
A. 20 June 2006: First thing: stop apologizing when its not your fault. If the guy can't accept responsibility for something and apologize to you when he should, then you really don't want to be in a relationship with him. It'll just slowly sap your self confidence ... (read in full...)
Jealous and insecure, why?
Q. hi i am so not confident and its really gettin me down cos im so jelous of other girls. if i look at a girl an shes pretty or wearin nice clothes then i am SO jelous of her! when i look in the mirror i just think, i want to be pretty even though i ...
A. 20 June 2006: What you are feeling is quite normal. I guarantee that a lot of those pretty girls you see that you are jealous of feel the same way: when they see you they think 'I wish I could be pretty like her'.
It's likely to do with your self esteem a... (read in full...)
Why does his penis grow to different sizes when erect?
Q. Hi, I've been with my bf awhile now and i've noticed that his penis seems to be different sizes when erect. Its been kind of thick and about 4 or 5 inches and then other times quite long, maybe 2 inches longer then that. I know that some guys add a ...
A. 20 June 2006: It's to do with the phases of the moon. You should chart your boyfriends penis size versus whether its a full moon, a new moon, or something in between. You'll soon find out what his pattern is, some men are bigger with a full moon, and some with a ... (read in full...)
Mantrap!
Q. I want a boyfriend? Can i have advice to get one....
A. 20 June 2006: You haven't given us much information about you to go on! So i'll give you some 'very' general advice:
You are most likely to find your boyfriend when you are not looking
He is most likely to like you when you are not trying to be liked
The ... (read in full...)
Will I be alone forever?
Q. Ok, I'm turning 14 in a couple weeks. I've never had a boyfriend and boys just don't really like me. The only ones that do are weird and ugly. People think I'm pretty and I'm skinny too. I'm quite shy though. I just want a boy to like me back. The ...
A. 20 June 2006: Don't worry, at your age you would be young to start having boyfriends. Despite what your friends say or do!! I had my first girlfriend at 16, we ended up being together for 2 years which was really great, and I'm glad she was the first person I was ... (read in full...)
He abused me..should I stay or go?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having problems he physically abused me and was arrested. I love him and I don't know what to do? I don't know whether to stay or go? He is on medication to keep him calm and he has been doing better. He still has mood swi...
A. 19 June 2006: You need to leave him, difficult as that is to do.
Abuse is unacceptable. He is damaging your self esteem and your life. It is essential that you get free of him.
It's also essential that you make sure you are ok once you are free of him. It'... (read in full...)
Can I be more than a mate?
Q. does he or does he nt like me I like this boy in my year and i get on quite well with him, we are both 14 and we are in some of the same classes i really really like him and i have told him this and my friends have all asked im what he thinks o...
A. 19 June 2006: You need to find out if he really fancies you. Try to spend time with him as much as you can and get to know him better. When talking to him, don't try to impress him or anything like that, just be yourself as much as possible. You want him to find ... (read in full...)
Worried about cheating on my army man
Q. my bf of almost 3years has recently joined the army, the other day i was out with my mates and i was drowning my sorrows and got really really drunk, the next day my friends told me that i kissed someone, i dont remember it but they said they pulled ...
A. 19 June 2006: You just kissed someone, and you were so drunk you didn't really know what you were doing, so don't feel like you 'cheated'. It wasn't good what you did for sure, but it was no where near as bad as waking up in bed with a stranger...
A couple o... (read in full...)
Should I ask him to move in with me?
Q. hey i am 21 years old and i live on my own with my little 4 moths old baby in a small 2 bedroomed bungalow. i have a good part time job at around £255 a month. we are sellted in our house but i am alone. i feel so empty. i do have a boyfriend that i ...
A. 19 June 2006: It really depends on how the two of you relate. If you are good at being in the same space together without getting in each others way then it should be fine. Moving in with someone can really change a relationship, but you don't know how it will ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't like oral sex!
Q. Why does my boyfriend not want to go down on me? He says he doesn't like to do it but I'm worried that it is me....
A. 19 June 2006: Well its certainly not you, it's him. I suggest that you withhold any oral sex from you to him (blow jobs). Tell him that if he wants a blow job he needs to give you oral sex first. You'll soon find out that he doesn't mind going down on you as much ... (read in full...)
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