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writes:I noticed in a survey that 2 in 3 marriages end in divorce in UK (so will probably be higher in america). Why are so many people in UK getting divorced? Or is it more frequent in certain areas or social classes
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 August 2006): Too much expectations being placed in each other...getting married before really truly knowing and trusting someone...jumping into bed...wayyyyy too soon (like less then 6 months into the relationship) Even better if people wait til married..
Arranged marriages work, in other contries the success rate is very high, n this country it is way too easy to get a divorce, people do not see it as a long-term commitment...they seem to go deaf when they hear the part...'til death us do part', people pick and choice what they do to others, getting divorced is a habit that needs to be broken in this country.
People are obsessed with image..looks etc, they may marry a Godess/God in looks, but beauty fades, where's the personality?!
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reader, Yos  +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Malyce is 100% right about the ME thing. I work in marketing, it is painfully obvious that pretty much every project I work on emphasises this more and more. I have sat in marketing presentations where all anyone has talked about is 'empowering individuality'. It's getting even more extreme too.
Here's a few recent examples, see if you can spot the ME themes...
iPod
MySpace
Personalized service
YouTube
Just do it
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 August 2006): The message of today's society is all about the ME. We fail to realize that marriage is the time we are to let go of that me and become a WE.
People fail to see that when we make promises, we are to keep them.
We are fast to point the finger of blame at others and do not stop to look at what we could be doing differently.
Money. Too many people put so much into money; it does not bring happiness or peace; that must come from within.
We are fast to re-act to what is being said by those we love when they are asking for love, understanding, when they express what hurts them or angers them when it is something we are doing.
Forgiveness. Too many people want this but are slow to give it.
They fail to grow together and grow apart. They do not remember or did not take the time to make a list of the goals of "WE".
Mr. Right/Mrs. Right is a life long journey and that is why marriages were meant to be for life; that whole til death do us part.
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reader, Yos +, writes (29 August 2006):
Is this the moment where we get depressed about the decline of society, and how things used to be much better?
There are many many reasons.
Divorce is easier to get. Women are more able to support themselves. Divorce doesn't carry a stigma. These could be seen as positives.
Then there are negatives, which are more contentious: marriage has lost its 'sacredness', we are a generation with divorced parents, modern culture tells us all the wrong things, promiscuity is rising and that is damaging commitment. Modern life is too stressful to cope. Who knows? Maybe these things are true? Maybe they are not.
Try thinking of it this way: one in three couples get married and stay together their entire lives. That's an impressive feat for anyone to do... and one in three is pretty good odds if you put some effort into it to help yourself along.
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reader, bonym +, writes (29 August 2006):
 I think a lot of it is to do with the fact that people are getting married just for the sake of it, not because they truly love one another, or indeed believe they are "soul mates" but simply because marriage is deemed as the right and honourable thing to do. Obviously that is not true of all couples, but I think it applies to some, thats my view anyway. xXx
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reader, Phoebe Halliwell +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Hey,
maybe it's because people aren't in love anymore, or give up looking for the right person and find a "Mr.Ok" instead of a "Mr.Right"? There are a million reasons. Some people just think marriage is an easy ride and they aren't prepared to work together and sort issues out????
Phoebe xxxx
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reader, camille +, writes (29 August 2006):
 Becasue they're getting married too soon?
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