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Q. I have known this guy at work for a while now and although we both work in different departments we bump into each other on a weekly basis and we have talked in the past. Everytime I bump into him by accident he stops in his tracks and stares ...
A. 27 July 2006: He fancies you love! I get that with a guy who likes me, he gets nervous and shy and does not give eye contact. So what you need to do is to ask him out for a coffee one lunchtime or whatever. Go for it, what have you got to lose?!... (read in full...)
I feel the relationship is lopsided - who needs to change?
Q. Whos fault is it? I need help, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 9 months now but we've been having alot of problems. I feel he doesn't listen to me and he's always saying he's going to try and change or to fix us but he never does. He's ...
A. 27 July 2006: Obvious aint it? Get out if your'e not happy, you can't change poeple, you have to except them for who they are, if you don't like it GO!... (read in full...)
Am I Bi or is it just a phase?
Q. Well here it goes, i am having a problem. i don't know if i am bi or not. i like boys, infact i like boys alot but for a few years now i have been finding myself attracted to girls. i start having thoughts of being in a female-female relation...
A. 27 July 2006: I don't beleive in being Bi, you either like one or the other. So called bi' poeple are f***kd in the head as they have a loss of self identity themselves. THere is no such thing as being 'bi', you obviously have issues you need to resolve here, ... (read in full...)
I get the feeling he may just want me for sex... But I want more than to be his f-buddy
Q. This is hard to explain so bare with me…I’m 18 and have been single for 2 years. My last realationship was pretty hard to get over , I have trouble trusting guys and I’m very scared to make the 1st move. I’ve had crashes, kissed people and had s...
A. 27 July 2006: Well if you hurried into his bed when you were drunk it is no wonder he may just want you for sex only. You haven't given him any reason to respect you, you are like all the rest of them in his eyes. You are nothing special to him because you ... (read in full...)
He's ready to move to be with some internet girl--isn't that just what 40 year old divorced people do?
Q. I resently logged into one of my exs profiles on the internet only to discover he’s been messaging a girl who lives almost half way across the country. I thought I was funny when he started talking about moving there to go to college. (He’s never ha...
A. 27 July 2006: You been snooping and accessing his business when you have no right. He's your EX, get over him!! Stop dwelling on the past, think of the future, you sound young so you have LOADS of time. Enjoy your singleness and have FUN!!!... (read in full...)
Shes suddenly belittling me and saying she feels used after sex ? not sure what her moods are about ?
Q. Last night my girlfriend seemed a bit strange. She was perfectly fine when I first saw her and she seemed her normal self but looked a bit moody. As the night went on she went all tired and i could see the look on her face was a bit moody etc. She ...
A. 27 July 2006: Yea... testing your patience!! Well hope all works out for you, take care!... (read in full...)
I fall in love with rats!
Q. Hello All, I was wondering if I could get some advice from any men out there? I'm a single woman in early 30s, and I constantly seem to attract men who are lovely in the beginning, but then turn out to be complete rats. What's more, I fi...
A. 26 July 2006: Maybe he was lying about going abroad, maybe he has another wife in another country, maybe he is gay, maybe he has changed his mind about you, maybe maybe maybe maybe......just confront him, you have a right to know!! Then he will hopefully be ... (read in full...)
Is he just moody because we are out shopping, even though he normally loves it!?
Q. I am coming to the conclusion that my boyfriend of four months is moody, and am finding it difficult to cope with. It seems to be when we are shopping, which he loves, but all of a sudden he goes quiet and won't communicate with me. I start thinking ...
A. 26 July 2006: If it is only while out shopping then don't go out shopping with him then!! I would NEVER drag a b/f round the shops as must be soooo boring for them. I see the bored look on husbands/blokes faces in town when out with their partners...and feel ... (read in full...)
Shes suddenly belittling me and saying she feels used after sex ? not sure what her moods are about ?
Q. Last night my girlfriend seemed a bit strange. She was perfectly fine when I first saw her and she seemed her normal self but looked a bit moody. As the night went on she went all tired and i could see the look on her face was a bit moody etc. She ...
A. 26 July 2006: She def wants out, all that whining and moaning, why doesn't she just say she isn't happy with you instead of sulking and being moody? What a bitch she is for being like this. Dump her before she gets worse, why be with someone like that?!!... (read in full...)
His penis was erect but not hard, does this mean he doesnt really fancy me ?
Q. I recently found out that a friend of mine wants to be with me! So i went back to his place and we talked and we ended up in bed togther but he is 40 and i am 23 and when we were going to have intercourse his penis we still very soft even though it ...
A. 26 July 2006: Well could be that he is now on the slippery slope of erectile dysfunctions...he is now 40... (read in full...)
Why do relationships never last for me ??
Q. Why do relationships fail? I just got out of my third relationship... I never had flings or affairs and I have been totally committed to the men I've been with... but, invariably, all my relationships seem to come to an end... this is devastat...
A. 26 July 2006: Oh blimey, here we go again, ANOTHER one who is not satisfied until they are in a relationship. Men are NOT the answer to happiness love. YOU are, and you need to get out of the rut you are in and be happy with who you are rather then relying on ... (read in full...)
I feel like hes getting bored with me after only six months, how can I keep it alive ?
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 6 months and i feel like hes getting bored of me and i do not want to loose him because he means the world to me what can i do to keep him happy and occupied we already have a sexual relationship how can i spice it ...
A. 26 July 2006: Can be a bit tiring doing all that crap ALL the time, you shouldn't have to be thinking what you can do to please HIM all the time, what about YOU?.. that is not how a relationship works. He is obviously too immature for a relationship, all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend just told me he has Chlamydia
Q. I'm so upset, we were about to start trying for a baby. I'm going to the clinic tomorrow to get myself sorted, but what if I am infertile now because of him? What if he is infertile?! And where did he get it from? He said he was checked and given ...
A. 26 July 2006: Catching chlamydia from a toilet seat my arse...!!!! It is transferrable though sexual intercourse and oral sex. I should know I had it once...!!! Anyway, he is either lying about him being in the clear when you met or he has been with someone ... (read in full...)
We haven't had sex for a year...
Q. my husban looks at porn and goes onto chat rooms then denies it when i talk about it we havent had sex since last year iknow he is wanking to this crap. help please we have been married 20year...
A. 26 July 2006: Huh... and people (mainly on here I've noticed) think porn is harmless and normal. What a joke!!! Yet ANOTHER question to do with porn...mmmm poeple are rather blind if they think it is harmless, as you clearly state here he has NOT had sex with ... (read in full...)
I'm a nice guy, a good guy, but girls treat me badly!
Q. Hi everyone, I was wondering if you can help me. I'm a 24 year old male who has been hurt by every girl that I ever cared about. Three in total. I have learned something from every girl I have been with. The last girl I have been with really hurt...
A. 26 July 2006: Stop focusing on being in a relationship and start focusing on YOU!! You obviously have not met the right person yet, and anyway do you really want to yet as you are only 24? Carry on as you are and deal with your insecurities as it is these that ... (read in full...)
Found Latino porn on his computer-does it mean he doesn't fancy me?
Q. i found latino girl porn sites on my boyfriends computer and im not a latino does it mean he doesnt fancy me anymore ...
A. 25 July 2006: Yea he don't fancy you and think much of you to be getting his kicks form the websites the sick bastard, get rid...NOW!!... (read in full...)
I want a little more phyiscal contact but my gf can't do anything but i''ve found somebody else that can!
Q. Ok, check this out. I love my girlfriend but i like this other girl. Now the situation is this, since me and my grilfriend can't do anything at all i feel that our relationship is at a stand still and i kinda want to date soemone else so that we can ...
A. 25 July 2006: You gotta do what you gotta do...if you want a good fuck and this g/f of yours is not gonna give you one, maybe that's because she is mature and deserves a lot of respect for not giving out too early in the relationship - good for her. Wow she ... (read in full...)
I feel left out, everyone else has boyfriends except me!!
Q. Im 14 and ive never had a boyfriend. All my friends have and i feel really embarrassed. When i see them hugging or kissing their boyfriends i feel sad and lonely. How can i get a boyfriend? Im not a slut, it just i feel left out. Plese help!...
A. 25 July 2006: Hey little girl go back and go play with your barbie dolls. Don't worry about playing with guys yet, you are only little and have a lots of growing up to do.... (read in full...)
Never thought I'd look at another guy but this married guy makes me feel sexy and alive! What should I do?
Q. I am a 32 year old women. I have been with my husband for 14 years, 7 years non married 7 years married. My problem is that I have recently met another guy who is also married. Nothing has happened between us yet except for a snog but it is quite ...
A. 25 July 2006: Do you need us to justify that what you are feeling and thinking is right? Do you want us to be in agreement to what you really want to do? Well you are not going to get the answers you want to hear on here love. If you're asking whether you ... (read in full...)
What age should you lose your virginity??
Q. Whats a good age to loose your virginity?...
A. 25 July 2006: Whats a good age to open a bottle of wine? When it is MATURE and ripe enough, and definately over 16 years of age (depending on the region it lives!!)...... (read in full...)
Could my tiny mouth be too small for oral?
Q. is it possible that my mouth is too small?the thing is i just can't open it wide enough for oral sex. i can only take about 4 cm of the guy's penis in it. believe it or not I measured how wide i can open it-and it's 2.5cm with my greatest efforts ...
A. 25 July 2006: What are you a tiny midget or something?... (read in full...)
Can you get rid of periods?
Q. Is there anyway to stop/get rid of your period? I hate my period I'm 25 and want to know is there anything I can do about it....
A. 25 July 2006: Get your womb taken out.... (read in full...)
We stopped having sex, then I found him with another woman, I dont care he cheated just want to feel wanted!
Q. Dear Cupid I have been with my fiance for almost 4 years. He is 30 and I am 27. In the beginning our relationship was great but then we hit a couple of ruff pathes financially and it took a lot out of us. He stopped having sex with me but I though...
A. 21 July 2006: GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT GET OUT!
Got the message yet??!! How can you stay with someone that long after he cheated on you? He managed to have sex with som... (read in full...)
Guys think I'm attractive, and I know I'm confident, but I just don't get any attention!
Q. Why don't I get attention? My friends say that I'm really pretty, but boys just don't think so. I'm not being big-headed here, but I'm quite pretty, I spend quite a bit of time on my appearance and I'm quite confident, but not too much. I've not...
A. 21 July 2006: Re: Below posting...: Ugggh you lesbo... (read in full...)
I heard vasaline disintergrates condoms, and he has herpes
Q. I had sex for the first time a few days ago and we used a condom. I had been advised to use lubrication but chose to ignore it, but when we started out i was in so much pain i ended up using the vasaline that i happened to have with me, which solved ...
A. 21 July 2006: Ugggh why would you even want to be sleeping with someone who's been around and had unprotected sex? The fact that he has to get himself checked regualrly proves that he does have unprotected sex, or has been careless on a REGULAR basis! Is he ... (read in full...)
What do girls look for in a guy?
Q. Girls-what do you look for in guys, like hair, body, personality etc...
A. 21 July 2006: Well Dr Pete, on here no one has mentioned they look for rich...or ambitious type..mmm... (read in full...)
Don't seem to attract the guys I want. The ones i do attract are beneath me.
Q. I have confidence in my appearance but I don't get any attention. I'm not like other girls and all. I guess you can say I'm unique thats how I put it. I don't get any attention from the guys I do like and all but from guys that are well lets just ...
A. 21 July 2006: Ahhh.... 'woe is me' !! (Sniff..!)
Good answer Martini!! Hehe heh!! If you are only in your teens, plese honey do not worry, you will find someone in time, you have LOADS of time. Why not just enjoy being on your own, hang out with friends,... (read in full...)
What do girls look for in a guy?
Q. Girls-what do you look for in guys, like hair, body, personality etc...
A. 20 July 2006: That is a heavy generalisation Dr Pete. You'll give the guy hang ups if he thinks he has to be rich and ambitious to attract women. ... (read in full...)
What do girls look for in a guy?
Q. Girls-what do you look for in guys, like hair, body, personality etc...
A. 20 July 2006: Personally for me (and think is relevant to most girls!!)....Great smile, confidence, ability to talk to me and ask questions. Taking an interest and referring at a later date about some info already discussed (shows he has remembered what we were ... (read in full...)
Should I give him another chance or just leave?
Q. hi just need some advice. I started seeing my boyfriend late october time last year we were only really seeing eachother and not actually a couple until after christmas... i found out recently that he had a long term relationship with a girl wh...
A. 19 July 2006: Hmmm. I think he sounds genuine and is not a cheater. Sounds like he was trying to spare his ex girlfriends feelings by trying to find an easy way out of the relationship. The fact that he wasn't pleading with you and reassured you that he loves ... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 19 July 2006: Oh actually if you do love your husband very much then you would feel guilt, so actually I'm guessing here you don't love him as much as you think you do because your guiltless in your actions...mmmm... (read in full...)
Advice from those people having affairs please.
Q. hello..a question to those of you having affairs(come on you know you're out there)i have begun an affair but have no intention of leaving my husband for my lover and neither does my lover want or expect me to. we are both happy about this decision ...
A. 19 July 2006: What about go to a forein country where they allow polygomous relationships, you will never be satisfied whoever you are with. Stop relying on other people to give you what you want sexually and other ways. NO ONE can satisfy a person 100% in ANY ... (read in full...)
Is honesty the best policy?
Q. Earlier thie year I was going out with an American things were cool at first but then she started getting a bit clingy, I tried to break it off but was unsuccessful. As she was leaving in June I let it slide, but now that shes back home she won't ...
A. 19 July 2006: Honesty is definately THE BEST POLICY!! Tell her that while you have really valued the time spent with her you know longer feel the desire to be with her. (Ouch is gonna hurt her but it's gotta be done!) There is going to be no easy way with ... (read in full...)
Why is my ex back in touch with me? What does she want?
Q. Hi, I'm still in love with a girl I used to be with, who's married (she married the first guy she went out with after me). It's been almost ten years now (I'm 35, she's 40). We tried to stay friends or at least loosely in touch afterwards but the ...
A. 19 July 2006: Sounds like she is not in a happy marriage and wants you back!!... (read in full...)
I'm not madly in love with my girlfriend of 2 years... and another girl wants me!
Q. I'm 23, male, a lil loopy. OK, I've got myself into a little bit of trouble. I'm currently seeing a girl for the past 2 years. We like everything ( I mean everything ) the same. She loves me and would seriously do anything for me. She's stable and ...
A. 19 July 2006: Well sounds like the girl your with now doesn't really hit all the right buttons. But no one ever really does anyway. It's impossible to find someone who is right in every way, men and women think and feel differently etc (of course, stating the ... (read in full...)
Im 28 hes 53, were in love but is this age difference too much?
Q. I am 28 and in love with a 53 year old man! He feels the same about me. Is this age dirrerence too much?? I know that my family will ridicule this relationship. What do i do??? HELP!!!...
A. 18 July 2006: I know a couple friends that have been out with guys much older then them. One girl is still with the guy who is 30 years older, they are very much in love and are planning to get married in the next year. Yea, practically speaking could be a ... (read in full...)
How do I tell this girl I like her?
Q. I really like this girl and i want 2 be with her but i dont know how 2 tell her. What can i do?...
A. 14 July 2006: If you have broken the ice by starting to talk to her already, then you re half way there! Women like it when men show an interst in them, ask her what she likes doing in her spare time, get her to talk about herself. Then you can introduce an ... (read in full...)
Does chocolate really give you spots?
Q. My boyfriend said that chocolate gives you spots... is this true? I have loads of spots and eat chocolate all the time! If Cocoa Butter is good for spots/skin, well why when eating chocolate (that contains Cocoa Butter) gives you spots?? Confused...
A. 14 July 2006: Yes it's a whole range of contributary factors that cause spots. Some people are fortunate and some not, I've known friends that have eaten healthily and not eaten hardly any sweet foods etc and they still get spots. Then there are others who can ... (read in full...)
Dating wouldn't pull me away from God, would it?
Q. I am a very strong Christian if you get different strengths). My dad's a vicar and I have set up and run the Christian union. I'm friends with many people and because of me many people have become Christians. But my best friend, who is a lad, is ...
A. 3 July 2006: Oh, tis a tough one that! Well honey, I guess God can sometimes use situations to the best advantage. Maybe here, He wants you to date this guy so he can become a christian. But you don't want to be forcing the issue on him. As you are strong in ... (read in full...)
My wife of 20 years says she loves me but doesn't fancy me!
Q. My wife loves me very much but she doesnt fancy me at all. We have been together for 20 years, sex has been great until 2 years ago. In that time we have had sex just twice and I don't know if she likes it. She is 40 and I am 38 i'm getting so ...
A. 29 June 2006: I'm sure she loves you very much and would not want to be with anyone else. The fact she doesn't fancy you anymore does not indicate she loves you any less, as you state here love is more important then sex to her. I think what has happened here ... (read in full...)
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