I'm a virgin and know nothing about contraception. Too scared to ask mom!
Q. im a virgin and have no idea what kind of protection is best for me and im a little scared to ask my mom! please help?...
A. 6 November 2006: You should ask your mother if you can. She will probably be very glad you asked her, so she can know what is going on with you and can help. If she is very religeous or similar then she might have a problem... you will know if this is how she is.
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How can I just forget my past?
Q. my bf doesnt know of my previous relationships, i havent told him coz i never felt i need to, but he got to know of my ex through one of my mails i dunno how he got it but he was really upset abt it and i thought we were abt to split but we made up ...
A. 6 November 2006: You don't need to tell him everything. Details about sex with other men are probably going to upset him. You wouldn't want to hear him describe sex with previous girlfriends either, its just not something any of us want to think about.
But y... (read in full...)
Why don't the boys want to give me attention anymore? Any advice?
Q. right im quite concerned! i usealy get alot of attention of lads and i always go out and pull, but lately i havnt been gettin as much attention and i have even got off with someone for 2 weeks now!!! thing is i havnt changed anything, i havnt put ...
A. 6 November 2006: Always go out and pull? That doesn't sound like much fun Maybe this lack of attention is a blessing in disguise, to show you that you can go out and have a good time without having to pull?... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't like oral because...he doesn't like the way a vagina looks! What is wrong with him??
Q. Is my fella under-confident with giving me oral sex, or is he just a selfish lover? He's gave it to me twice in 15 months.He says he doesnt like the look of a vagina, cos it looks sore? Hes good at it and ive told him.He'll do it 4 me on my birth...
A. 3 November 2006: What's wrong with him? Hard to say, but something is. My guess from what you say is that he is just selfish. It sounds like he might just be interested in his own pleasure and is making excuses.
It's important for you that you get what you want... (read in full...)
I think my penis is too small and my erection may be abnormal - thoughts?
Q. I am a 16 year old male, nearly 17 and my voice has broken and i have a small amount of hair on my body. But i think that my penis is too small and my foreskin doesn't retract when i get an erection. Is this normal?...
A. 3 November 2006: I think about 90% of men think their penis is too small. And almost all of us would say yes to an 'upgrade' if it were possible. So welcome to the club.... (read in full...)
He slept with my sister in the past - I don't think I can get over it!
Q. I went to college and became friends with this guy, will call him Jim. I started dating this other guy, Phil. I talked to Jim about everything and he knew my relationship with Phil was not all that great. I used to stay over at Jim's and we'd ...
A. 3 November 2006: I agree with Dr Pete. It sounds like this is going to just keep on causing an issue. The best thing to do is probably just to stay separated, and to make sure your sister stays away from any future potential boyfriends of yours.... (read in full...)
I have HSV 1 - would people want to date me if they knew?
Q. Question: would people still date a person if they knew they had HSV 1? I have HSV 1, and am in a relationship, but i wonder if i break up w. my bf and start dating other guys, will they ever want to kiss me because i could give it to them? Thanks...
A. 3 November 2006: HSV 1 is very common. After you have had it a couple of times you become able to tell when it is coming. At this time its important not to kiss anyone, but other than that it is not infections. It also tends to repeat less and less as you get older, ... (read in full...)
Can smoking marijuana affect getting an erection?
Q. Can smoking weed prevent you from getting an erection? When I smoked pot it was almost impossible to get an erection, even with my girl giving me head. Is this bad?...
A. 3 November 2006: I live in Amsterdam and so have had plenty of experience with pot. I have not experenced or heard of this happening. However everyone reacts differently and what you describe sounds very plausible.
My guess would be that you are nervous about yo... (read in full...)
How do I deal with my nervousness affecting my sexual abilities?
Q. I have a friend with benefits, who I have been hooking up with for a short while. However, we have been very close friends for almost a year now. We are both very comfortable with each other, but I am extremely uncomfortable when we are doing ...
A. 3 November 2006: I can only suggest that you think about what it would take for you to be her boyfriend and for her to be your girlfriend. After all, you know she is 'the right girl' for you. Hooking up with a 'friend with benefits' is a good way to get yourself ... (read in full...)
Do women have sex with someone even though they do not want to?
Q. do wemon have sex sometimes because they feel trapped, and cant get out of it? Do they have sex with someone even though they do not want to? My friend told me she had sex with this guy because she could not find a way out of it. She did this twice ...
A. 3 November 2006: Yes. I am a man, but I know this is true. It is a terrible thing in my eyes that many women do not feel they have the right to say no. It is perhaps the greatest crime that our culture commits against women.... (read in full...)
Do guys hate to give oral sex?
Q. Male readers!! do you hate givin oral sex to a women??...
A. 2 November 2006: Love it :p... (read in full...)
Is it true that even if you are no longer interested in your ex, you become jealous of their new partners?
Q. Is it true that even if you are no longer interested in your ex you become jealous of their new partners?...
A. 2 November 2006: Yes. It happens to a lot of people. Not everyone, but its common.... (read in full...)
I'm 14 - how do I actually be a girlfriend to someone?
Q. I just realised that i dont really know how to be a a girlfriend! How do u be a gf? What do you do to make you be a gf? What kinds of things do you do to show your bf that? I'd anything! everything! i really want to be a good gf! (i...
A. 2 November 2006: At your age its really just the same as having a female best friend. Except that they are a boy! Do fun things together, talk about your lives and your feelings, sit around the house and watch TV and relax together, and hang out with your friends ... (read in full...)
I think my bf masturbates in his sleep!! Thoughts please!
Q. Hi guys - I posted a few weeks ago about the fact that I think my guy is masturbating whilst asleep. We are not sexually active with one another yet and I have slept over at his house 4 times. Each night he has been masturbating (or at least i am ...
A. 2 November 2006: I'd put money on the fact that he's awake. He's probably just turned on as hell by you being in bed with him and just has to do something about it. Which, to answer your question, is totally normal, at least in my book! I've done it myself when ... (read in full...)
Tomorrow I lose my virginity.
Q. on thursday, november 2nd, i will be losing my virginity to my ex girlfriend, and I am nervous, but in an extremely good way, because i know it is right for both of us. is there anything i can do to stop the nervousness? i smoke cigarettes, so maybe ...
A. 1 November 2006: She is your ex? Sex really is best within a strong loving relationship. As horny as you feel, I recommend not doing this but waiting until you are with a girl who is your current girlfriend, not your ex. You two are setting yourselfs up for problems ... (read in full...)
Do people really lie about how much sex they have? What are the signs?
Q. How many people lie about the amount of sex they have had? And what do people think the signs are that someone is lying? ...
A. 1 November 2006: Yes. Men tend to lie and say they have had more sexual partners than they really have. Women tend to do the opposite and pretend they have had less.
You can tell if someone is lying about it the same way you can tell if someone is lying about an... (read in full...)
Why do boys like porn so much?
Q. why do boys like porn so much!? i've got a long term boyfriend (18) who looks at porn regularly (practically every day) but i don't know why! does it mean hes not happy with me? we have an amazing relationship and i know he thinks so too and i just ...
A. 30 October 2006: Men have a part of them that is programmed to want to have as much sex as possible with as many women as possible. It's in our animal nature. Porn taps into that: looking at porn is like having sex with a constant string of attractive young ... (read in full...)
I like him and we had sex 7 times. Do you think it's too late to suggest having a relationship?
Q. I been talking to this guy for like two months we had sex about 7 times it like he only calls me on the weekends because he acts like he have so much going on because he hangs out side alot he told me he didn't have a girl friend and now I want more ...
A. 30 October 2006: I agree with rhythmandblues. You've set up the situation where he's likely just too see you as sex-on-tap, and will have a hard time switching into a relationship.
Talk to him about it, and find out what he wants. He may actually want a relation... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can convince my gf to try anal sex? I want to see how it feels!
Q. My girlfriend and i have been going out a while. She told me that she would never have anal sex. Is there anything i can do to convice her to try it? I just want to experience it and see how it feels. I just don't know how to make her want to ...
A. 30 October 2006: No means no dude. Don't pressure her to do something sexual she doesn't want, it's disrespectful and really unpleasant for her.
As for how it feels... pretty much the same as vaginal sex to be honest, the real difference is in your mind (that it... (read in full...)
24 year old virgin. What will guys think? I need advice.
Q. im 24 and ive never had sex. how lame is that? what will guys think when i tell them? i pretty much have no experience..i need advice....
A. 30 October 2006: It's not lame at all. Personally I think its much lamer to have had 20 sexual partners by age 24 that to have had none, and I'm not the only person to think that.
Some guys might be freaked out a bit, mainly because they'll have to question... (read in full...)
Worried about a piece of skin attached to my foreskin...is this normal?
Q. I am wondering if im different to everyone else. I have a piece of skin that is attached from my foreskin to the end of my bell. Will this hurt while having sex and is it normal to have. Because on Tv programs ect people do not seem to have this, im ...
A. 28 October 2006: If its what i think it is then its normal. But if you're worried about it go and see your doctor... (read in full...)
Can a man tell if a women has orgasmed?
Q. during sex' is the man know if woman cum or not?...
A. 27 October 2006: Not for sure. That's why women can fake orgasms: shout and scream a lot. ... (read in full...)
Can you get addicted to masturbating?
Q. is it possible to become masturbation addicted? i have to masturbate at least once a day and is it normal?...
A. 27 October 2006: I'm guessing you are a teenager? Masturbating a lot is VERY normal at your age... you are loaded with hormones that are busy making you feel very horny. Don't worry about it at all. Although if you masturbate to porn take some care, it is possible ... (read in full...)
I told him I didn't like the idea of sharing a hotel room with two cute blondes, one with big breasts who he's slept with!
Q. Last week a woman called and left a voicemail for my boyfriend, stating that she would be in town in a few days and wanted to see him. I grabbed the phone before she hung up and introduced myself as his girlfriend (he wasn't at home at the time). ...
A. 27 October 2006: She called herself his girlfriend. And now they want to share a hotel room? You are not being paranoid. That is highly unusual and in my book inappropriate. You are 100% within your rights to refuse to let it happen. Stick to your guns. ... (read in full...)
He touched my breast and we are not dating! What did that gesture mean?
Q. What does it mean when a guy touches your breast, thought you're not dating him?...
A. 27 October 2006: Could it have been an accident? If not then he probably is attracted to you, and showed in an inappropriate way. ... (read in full...)
He is neglecting me for porn!
Q. hi, i am 19 and my bf is 23 we have been togeth for almost 4 years, for about 1 month now i have noticed my bf is less intrested in having sex with me, we have only done it once this month, he said its because of the medication his on and its hard ...
A. 27 October 2006: It does sound like he has a porn problem. The difficulty ejaculating is consistent with that: porn is very very visually arousing, the combination of that and his hand is hard to match with regular sex. The result being that it can be hard to stay ... (read in full...)
He called me another name during sex,is he having an affair?
Q. My husband called me by another name while we were having sex. Does this mean that he is having an affair?...
A. 27 October 2006: I agree with the other aunts. Not necessarily. It could have been a fantasy or wishful thinking on his part, rather than actual, or perhaps an ex from a long time ago. Or even just a bizzare random event. Ask him about it, but do so in a gentle way.... (read in full...)
I need tips on how to ask out the guy I like!
Q. Is it okay for a girl to ask a guy out and whats the best way to do this without looking desperate/needy/clingy? And how do you find out if a guy is really interested in you when you THINK he is because you always catch hinm looking at you....
A. 26 October 2006: Perhaps start not by asking him out, but rather by giving him the feeling that if he asks you out you'll accept. Be friendly to him, smile at him, make eye contact. Then talk with him and just try to be natural and yourself. It's clear you like him, ... (read in full...)
My heart hit the floor when I saw my husband's profile on AdultFriendFinder!
Q. I got home from work last night and i was trying to find a wed site i was at the other day, so I went into the "history" part of the computer and found that my husband signed up for adultfriendfinder.com and alt.com, is he thinking about cheating on ...
A. 26 October 2006: As him about it. When you do, try to be as calm as possible. Don't accuse him of anything. You don't want him to get defensive (which will be his initial reaction), you want the honest truth. Ideally wait until both of you are in a good mood, but ... (read in full...)
Is he really over his ex?
Q. Hi,there's this guy who i dated for awhile...after some stuff that happened with us,we realise it's better to be friends. However friends meant...he would still call everyday and let me know what he's doing. We were still very close even though we ...
A. 26 October 2006: It's hard to say. It sounds like they aren't having a relationship, but only they know for sure.
However your are sustaining something that likely won't last. You have have an emotional relationship with this man with an intensity matching... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin and she's already had sex so why now does she want to wait til she is married!!!
Q. This is actually two questions I need answers to. I asked my girlfriend the question about if and when we should have sex but she says she wants to wait until she is married. I think that's a bit hypocritical as she has been in a sexual relation...
A. 26 October 2006: She has the right to ask this.
However understandably you might not accept it. If I was in your situation I would feel "She screwed those two guys, and now she won't screw me. What did they have that I don't?". It's not really a rational response... (read in full...)
Cheated on my boyfriend with an old friend now I think I maybe pregnant!!!
Q. I have been with guy L for 8months and we have been engaged for 5 months. Well just recently I ran into an old friend we started talking then one thing led to another before I knew it we had slept together. Now I think I may be pregnant what should ...
A. 25 October 2006: Several things.
Get a pregnancy test immediately.
Next you should consider splitting up with your fiancee. If you loved him and if your relationship was worth getting married for, then you'd not be sleeping with old friends. See it as a warn... (read in full...)
Someone told me recently that someone like me shouldn't be with someone like her...are they right???
Q. I have been in a relationship with my gf for a year. She is attractive as i have seen guys ogle at her when we've been out. We're oth at uni so she's fairly smart, and I'll admit I think I'm a nerd but she said that I'm just really sweet and clever. ...
A. 25 October 2006: They are jealous. That is something you should smile at :)
They must have missed the memo that geeks / nerds are cool these days. I mean, what's going to make you more eligible in the 21st century... being able to throw a ball a long way or being... (read in full...)
In two weeks, I will be marrying this guy who I think is arrogant and stubborn? Advice needed...quickly!!
Q. Please can you answer this ASAP - im in a bit of a state. I am due to get married in less that 2 weeks. My fiance is driving me totally mad. I know the run up towards a wedding is stressful enough but he is impossible. All the traits I knew he...
A. 25 October 2006: However hard it is to cancel it now, it is a hundred times easier than getting married and then dealing with the rocky road to breakup and divorce.
The other aunts are right. Listen to your heart. Cancel it now. Your parents will be upset at first... (read in full...)
Wearing the sexy nurse's outfit didn't work--so how do I spice things up without looking like an idiot?
Q. i need your help me i decided to surprise my husband and buy my self a sexy nurse outfit as my husband had dropped a few hints so i got my mum to have the kids for the night and after having a lovely meal at home i go upstairs and put the outfit on ...
A. 25 October 2006: If you felt stupid and embarassed then its natural to feel silly and for your husband to pick up on tha too. It's probably not the outfit, but how you wear it and carry the whole thing off. I'd suggest that you go for something a bit less extreme so ... (read in full...)
I can't lose weight...Will girls go for a fat guy?
Q. dear cupid i am having problem losing weight, i mean im on diet n i walk 20 minutes everyday and do gym, but am not losing weight, ive been doing this for a year. my other concern is that i heard girls will never go for fat guys, is that t...
A. 25 October 2006: Over 65% of adults in the US are overweight, and over 30% are obese. If girls never went for fat guys then we'd be seeing a huge drop off in the birth rate, which we are not.
One of my best friends is very overweight, and has a very nice and attr... (read in full...)
Hello! Any guys out there who can restore my faith in you?
Q. A question 4 the guys! now im a strong woman i am who i am and proud of it! not constantly worried about how to make you guys like me! but ive lost faith in you guys! i dont wanna generalise but i dont have to date women so im not worried abo...
A. 25 October 2006: All men are trouble. The difference is, some of us admit to it, and others don't ;) ... (read in full...)
I'm a 25 yr old who loves having sex with men! Is this right or wrong?
Q. I am 25 years old and i want to know if i have a problem, as i have slept with about 80 - 90 men, and i feel a bit bad but i love it. I'm single and i quite like it that way, because when i'm in a relationship i just want to sleep with someone else. ...
A. 25 October 2006: I'm glad you have found what people have written here useful. It sounds like you may have known this already, and been looking to find out if your feelings were right?
You remind me a bit of how my girlfriend used to be. Not the same, but similar.... (read in full...)
Do men prefer girls who are easy or are they scared of girls looking for love and stability?
Q. Do men prefer girls who sleep around and are scared of girls looking for sexual and love stability? What is best to get them mental about you? TA...
A. 25 October 2006: Irish is dead on.
The funny thing about men is, the more effort they have to put into the chase, the more they value the prize when they finally get it. The sooner you sleep with a man, the more likely he is to want to leave soon after. Not true... (read in full...)
My man's penis won't get hard! Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Me and my boyfriend have sex about 5 times a week, but the past few days he is unable to get hard. One night I gave him oral sex and a hand job and he orgasmed perfectly fine. Is there something wrong with me that my man's penis wont get hard or is ...
A. 25 October 2006: Just the lats few days? It's probably just stress, something bothering him from work, or money, or whatever. Talk to him (not in bed) about how he's doing and offer him a sympathetic ear. Don't go for sex unless he clearly wants it. We all have ... (read in full...)
I'll feel more confident if I get bigger breasts...do breast enlarging pills work???
Q. i've really small boobs i measure 34AA they're really small, it's like nothing but a nipple because i'm really thin. should i take breast enlarging pills? which ones work better? pills or creams? i'm only 17 though maybe it'll grow but i'm getting ...
A. 24 October 2006: The pills don't work.
Repeat that over and over again until you can't continue. They really don't work.
My girlfriend got breast enlargements. Here is what she said about it:
"It took me getting breast enlargements to realize that my self ... (read in full...)
I'm a 25 yr old who loves having sex with men! Is this right or wrong?
Q. I am 25 years old and i want to know if i have a problem, as i have slept with about 80 - 90 men, and i feel a bit bad but i love it. I'm single and i quite like it that way, because when i'm in a relationship i just want to sleep with someone else. ...
A. 24 October 2006: Rather than focussing on the sex perhaps spend time thinking about why you go off the men so quickly once you have had sex with them. Why this happens might be the key to your behaviour.
Plus when the time comes where you want a longer more com... (read in full...)
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